Would you rather be married to an anti-vaxxer or a smoker?

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A random conversation I started with DH this morning. He is neither!!!

I think it would depend a little on whether the antivaxxer would prevent my DC being vaccinated. Can that happen?

Smoker over an actual anti vaxxer

Someone who just didn’t want the covid vaccine over a smoker (provided they didn’t go on about it)

God I couldn't live with an antivaxxer. Can't deal with gullible people. Smokers often stop.

Agree Balls - so much hatred and intolerance towards people who have chosen not to have a medical procedure. This thread is just another opportunity for the morally and intellectually superior (in their view) to look down on people who haven’t had the vaccination. Pathetic.

A smoker. I think anti-vaxxers lack intelligence. I’d put them on a par with Trump supporters.

I wouldn’t be with either by choice but I realise that with anti-vaxers the problem is that in most cases their OH wouldn’t have had a clue they’d go that way when they got together.

I can’t imagine DH being anti-vax but I don’t suppose I’d dump him over it, unless it came with the whole q-anon thing.

Smoker.

The anti vaxxers I know... You can't have a rational conversation with them about anything. There is no discussion. Their opinion is fact.

It depends doesn’t it?

A smoker who only smokes a few day, outside, is obviously preferable to an anti-vaxxer.

However, someone who is anti-vaxx but keeps it themselves, doesn’t lecture me or pressurise me to make the same choices, would be preferable to someone who smokes 40 a day in the living room.

Obviously, ideally neither.

Definitely an anti-vaxxer. One of my male friends is an anti-vaxxer. None of his children have ever received one vaccine and they are never sick!

Never sick eh? You and he should hope and pray the children don't pick up one of the many illnesses that still proliferate because of ignorance like this. Welcome polio, diphtheria, measles, rubella, smallpox. Idiot.

I could never be with a smoker, it’s the most disgusting habit to me.

^This

@Marmunia999

Definitely an anti-vaxxer. One of my male friends is an anti-vaxxer. None of his children have ever received one vaccine and they are never sick!

Well let's hope it says that way for the poor little things.

I’d prefer an Anti-vaxxxer. Reason being that smoking is a filthy habit and can cause cancer. There is clear evidence that smoking is bad for health. However, despite me being vaccinated and boosted, I know people with Covid, who have experience more or less cold like symptoms - some have been vaccinated, some haven’t. I don’t judge people for not having the vaccine. The jury is still out on vaccinations, but smoking is pretty conclusive.

The jury is still out on vaccinations

Are you sure about that?

Sorry to detail, but why are people saying a spouse could prevent your DC getting vaccinated? Whenever I've taken my children for their vaccinations, I've done it alone and never needed any kind of proof of consent from their father. Not that that is a problem in our house anyway.

@SportsMother

Smoker for me, smokers don’t try to persuade you what they’re doing is rational, healthy or “sticking it to the man”

^ This!

Smoker. My Dh used to smoke socially before he knew me. He has completely stopped now, no problem.

With a smoker, i can tell him he isn't allowed to smoke in the flat and nowhere near any future DC. An antivaxxer is more likely to spread the virus to me and I can't socially distance from him if he is my DH.

Derail, not detail.

@Marmunia999, they benefit from herd immunity from diseases which killed or disabled 70% of children.

"The jury is still out on vaccinations"

No it isn't. But if your research shows that, then present your peer reviewed papers to the BMA.

I'd rather a smoker but I'm one already I'd probably kill a anti vaxxer to shut them up or give them the vaccine while they sleep

@Somethingsnappy a lot of antivaxxers do actively try to prevent their children from being vaxxed. my DH had to get his vaccinations in secret in school. They would rant and rave until the other parent is completely weary. It sounds crazy but when you live with someone who keeps insisting on something 24/7, it will wear anyone down unless they leave.

Also in my MIL's case, her DH was jobless and she was working albeit wfh so he knew where the children were at any point in time. Of course she doesn't agree with the childhood vaccinations either, but i think even if she wanted to get them vaccinated, it would have been much harder. they are now divorced, he is living overseas and MIL is triple jabbed against covid.

@somethingsnappy if a GP surgery is made aware that one parent does not consent then legally the surgery cannot vaccinate that child. They don't ask for consent but many strict antivaxxers would ring the surgery and make their wishes known which would then prevent the child being vaccinated, my sisters partner did this with my nephew because she was planning to get it done without his knowledge.

@SportsMother

Smoker for me, smokers don’t try to persuade you what they’re doing is rational, healthy or “sticking it to the man”

No but they stink and act in deeply selfish ways

Tricky one. I have asthma triggered by cigarette smoke so a smoker would be very bad news for me. But I'm thinking of someone who chain smokes in the house and car. Someone who smokes occasionally outside would probably be ok. Same as the anti vaxxer. If they just didn't want to get the covid vaccine themselves that might be ok. If they spouted rubbish about conspiracy theories and tried to prevent me/the children having vaccines that would be a definite deal breaker.

Neither.

Both would annoy me too much we would not be compatible.

I'd rather be single.

I would rather be married to an anti vaxer. Smoking is a smelly expensive habit. If they don't want a vaccine that doesn't effect me. I would take my dc to be vaxxed without them knowing if it came to it.