To be pissed off with hotels always asking if we'd prefer a twin?!

[PunchyMojitos]

Hi,

DW and I go away for the odd night in a hotel. Once every 2 or 3 months I'd say. It's our litte treat and we relish the child free time 🥳 and we get to re connect a bit. Like any other couple...

Anyway, that enjoyment is usually tainted right at the beginning, 9 times out of 10 times, by being asked if we'd prefer a twin room on check in. We're not the stereotypical looking same sex couple I suppose, but still clearly a couple I would say. It's so irritating and actually quite offensive. If we wanted a twin, we'd have booked a twin.

It has even then sometimes led to staff actually asking questions like "so are you guys just friends then?" Or "are you sisters?" We look NOTHING like each other! This last time we were asked, even after we had just declined another twin, if we'd prefer separate bedding! Straight couples just get checked in. Nobody would assume they might actually just be friends or brother and sister and so offer them a twin! They would just give them the key to their room, no questions asked.

I don't think it's usually coming from a place of hate or real homophobia, but this really shouldn't be happening in 2022. We're not that unusual!

Just venting really.

@WakingFromDreams my wife and I have had lots of abuse shouted at us whilst walking through the park, when I was visibly pregnant. We called the police who stated it’s the men’s beliefs and they were within their rights to shout them at us as words “aren’t threatening” . Couldn’t believe the police said this was ok! Not the same as the hotel irritations but no matter what people say it all comes from the same place!

@BuffyFanForever
Gosh I'm so sorry that happened to you both. That must have been terrifying. Those aren't believes. It's threatening, intimidating and homophobic. The police are utterly awful for not responding to the call properly. That's just terrible.

@PunchyMojitos

Yes, I'm really sorry *@WakingFromDreams*. That really is awful. I had virtually identical things shouted at dw and I. There are some grade A arseholes out there.

The whole "entitled to their beliefs" argument, is absolute bollocks. Yes, of course they're entitled to them, but verbally and aggressively throwing them at you is quite another story.

@PunchyMojitos Yes I agree 'entitled to their beliefs' is such a cop out. That way no one is accountable for their behaviour and intimidation.

We're happily married lesbians that get asked this all the time. It really doesn't bother us- it is just someone checking we have the room we want. I'd get over it!

OP, to return to your original post, this demonstrates that we may have come a long way but we still have a long way to go.

I expect the reception staff won’t make the same mistake again. In the meantime maybe hold hands or show a small sign of affection during check in?

Aside from your married example, some good (usually female) friends opt to co sleep. A “Friendship Bed” can be a lovely bonding thing.

Enjoy your marriage and all it brings. The world wii catch up, but it will take some time.