To wonder why more people don't adopt?

[adoptionthoughts]

Recently I've started thinking maybe adoption is a route for me. I've always said I wouldn't do it but recently I'm having a change of heart as I think about it and logically it makes a lot of sense for a variety of reasons.

I'm struggling TTC, but this is something I'm thinking about irrespective of whether or not I eventually manage to have biological kids.

I also think giving a child a life they may not have otherwise had is a really nice thing. Also, why add to a climate change problem when there are so so many children I wanted across the world - the more I think about it the more logically adoption makes lots of sense. It means you don't get the physical problems from childbirth, it means you are providing a life for a child that may have been in foster care and many other positives.

Am I being naive? Why does hardly anyone do it? Why are we only happy with children if it's related to us by blood? I'm not trying to be funny here I'm genuinely asking to see why to see if I'm crazy to consider it.

I appreciate the children up for adoption often come from trauma often, which is concerning in terms of how that trauma may play out in later life but I'd likely want a very small baby (not saying this eradicates this but I think is reducing the risk). And also, the same can happen with biological kids you never know how they will turn out.

I'd like to hear from not just those that have adopted but also those that haven't and wouldn't as to why?

@snottyhotty

Do you really think that as an adopter with 10 years under my belt, has been on adopter forums for 14 years and know dozens of adopter families, that I don't know that most birth parents are not dangerous or violent, that many have mental health difficulties or addictions.
I'm more than aware. You were lecturing

@caringcarer

I foster a child who has complex learning disabilities. We would love to adopt him but his biological parents won't let him be adopted. He has lived with me since he was 5 and he is now 15. 3 adults on our house me, DH and adult son and tbh foster son needs a lot of attention from all of us to feel secure but we all love him and he enriched our lives and we love to see him succeed in his sports.

This is so sad, Caring.

It would mean so much to him, swell as to you, if he was "officially" part of your family and could have the same name etc as you and his brother.

I hope his biological parents change their minds before he is 18.

My immediate thought would be that indeed you are a bit naive OP, as if I had a choice, I don't think I could choose to raise someone else's children over having my own.
Entirely different issue and whilst there are some very sad, tragic cases out there, the main problem is that there are way to many irresponsible, unfit people that are allowed to have children. To save these poor souls from a lifetime of suffering and being passed from foster homes to foster homes, this is the issue that should be tackled in the first instance.

THIS

The service isn’t there to provide you with a child- it’s there to provide children with loving homes. It’s not about what you want, it’s about what the children need.

The blunt answer as to why I won't consider adoption is because I don't want any children.

Apologies for resurrecting a zombie thread! 🤦🏼‍♀️Similar threads is a nightmare!