[quote ldontWanna]@Pumperthepumper
Well let's use Jessie as an example. Jessie 's father died when she was a baby. At 8 yo she was told by another child that the guy she thought was her father , isn't and instead it's some random bloke down the estate. Mum is now shacked up with the local drug dealer. Jessie witnesses all sort of things from drug usage, to prostitution, to DV and abuse, to fights between users and the dealer, is often woken up by the police banging down the door. Jessie is in the middle of it all and sometimes bears the brunt of it all. SS get involved and Jessie is old enough to realise that the abusive man shouldn't be there , but he is. Old enough to realise that mum is putting him first. Old enough to realise that her mum doesn't care if herself and her younger sibling will be removed. Jessie isn't doing too well in school, she hates it, she hates the teachers who called SS, she hates her mum but loves her too and wants to stay, she hates the man, but most of all she hates herself for talking and telling and "starting" all this. By the time she's 10 Jessie goes into foster care, she's separated from her brother, contact inexistent with her mother. She lost two years of schooling really. She's angry,hurt and traumatised and the placement isn't working out. Her new school isn't working out either. She's too scared ,distrustful and angry now to "talk" even when people want to help her. And on and on it goes. She barely scrapes a few GCSE's , she's sofa surfing and ends up raped by a "well meaning" 30 yo "friend".
She's 22 now, with PTSD , still struggling with trauma,abandonment issues, low self esteem and thinking she's worthless and unlovable. She's kinda made it, still alive, job in a shop ,living in a shitty room in a shitty,mouldy,cold shared house. But you know, she's still here,she's trying.
You don't see how hearing someone she admires, follows for a bit of escapism, someone she looks up to saying "you just didn't want it hard enough ,didn't fight enough and didn't work hard enough" and that's you're not where I am , everyone can do it might affect her mental health? Her self esteem and sense of self worth?
Jessie doesn't have a network of support, a loving family , the money or millions of supporters defending her reputation and worth.[/quote]
Just so we’re clear: MM was wrong to say ‘work harder’. It’s a stupid comment to make.
But she still doesn’t deserve this level of humiliation.
And I don’t see that Jesse (above) might feel suicidal by MM’s comments. I mean, she might - but I think the level of attention MM has had today would test even the strongest person. And I think it’s unnecessary and disproportionate.