To want to knock her lights out?

[AngryMumOfTwo]

Hi,

I've nc'ed to be anon with this.

I'm quite upset because this note was stuck to our door overnight.

A bit of background. We've moved into this privately rented flat about 4 years ago, when our daughter was only 1. She is now 5. We have just had our second (and last) over Christmas. Like all newborns, she cries at night sometimes. She isn't too bad to be honest, at least we didn't think she was. Our oldest did cry a lot.

We get along with most people who live here. We're generally quiet and private as is all the other residents. Over 50% of them are elderly, though this isn't a retirement block of flats. We're the youngest, but there are others not much older then us.

We don't know who left the note. It is obviously unsigned. We have our suspicions but that's all. If they had knocked on the door and spoken to us, that wouldn't be a problem.

For their own sake, they better hope I don't find out who it is. I'm furious. It's horrid. The residents we've spoken to over the last few days have said how lovely she is but no noise complaints. Our immediate neighbours and the lady directly below are nice people so I don't think it's them.

I'm not sure what else I can really do about this. I had to vent my anger somewhere, sorry. My partner is angry but also found it amusing.

Start some kinda bogus petition, get everyone to sign, compare the writing

I agree that that is a child's handwriting.

What a very vile and nastily written note. It reads as very spiteful and juvenile. I am sorry OP, easier said than done i know but please don't let this idiot upset you, all babies cry of course. I think i agree with previous posters that you should leave it up so other people see it, maybe someone will end up recognising the silly judgemental comments/tone of it and will end up revealing who wrote it. I'm not sure if you would want to know who though i would be waaaay too angry at them. Keep going op and stay strong. Enjoy and protect you and yours x

@SoupDragon

I would write a polite response and make enough copies to post through every single door in the building.

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@LethargicActress

That is a very nasty way of letting you know that your family is disturbing other people, but your aggressive reaction is OTT. I’d give this person the benefit of the doubt and try to reason that they probably wrote this note after a night of disturbances when they were feeling particularly angry. No one wants to be woken up by other people’s crying children.

Being angry doesn’t give you the right to be an arse.

It doesn’t matter whether people want to be disturbed by crying babies. They are just part of life sometimes. You can hardly tell a newborn to be quiet because other people are trying to sleep .

If it bothers them they should get earplugs or listen to white noise (assuming they have no choice but to live in flats). Other than that it’s just tough.

Congratulations on your baby OP .

I would chap every single door and ask did you write this? You'll soon find out by the look on their faces who it was then id either punch them or scrunch the note up and throw it at their face.
Not even brave enough to sign it!! Absolute shit bags!!

@LethargicActress

That is a very nasty way of letting you know that your family is disturbing other people, but your aggressive reaction is OTT. I’d give this person the benefit of the doubt and try to reason that they probably wrote this note after a night of disturbances when they were feeling particularly angry. No one wants to be woken up by other people’s crying children.

You'd give someone who refers to a new mother as breeding the benefit of the doubt?

I'd give them the sharp edge of my tongue!

Vile person!

@Goldenbear

58bpm, well it is good job some people are making those 'personal decisions' as there needs to be future tax payers and people that will actually be keeping the country going that you inhabit when you are old!

Exactly! And who do they think will be doing most of the washing, feeding and toileting of them when they're too frail to do for themselves, only youngsters, usually girls, who have become care assistants or student nurses? I know when I was a student nurse, our elderly patients were very appreciative usually. I doubt they'd have resented our parents for "breeding" us!

Do you have any teenagers or children in the building OP?

Based on the handwriting (as a teacher) I’d bet huge amounts that’s who wrote it.

I immediately thought 'that's from a teenager' when I read it. Are there any teenagers living nearby?

Just write under it 'Rude! 😯' and leave it there. They won't be able to resist a walk by too see if you have seen it yet.

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@SmolCat

Do you have any teenagers or children in the building OP?

Based on the handwriting (as a teacher) I’d bet huge amounts that’s who wrote it.

Do you think a teenager would write this though? I mean mine as teenagers could sleep through everything!

But I do agree that it looks like a young persons writing.

I am actually shocked someone would write that

I don't think it looks like a childs writing.

I would probably be knocking on everyones door as soon as I seen it..... I think I'd see red and not give any thought on what way to handle it.

That is so vile. Especially the part about breeding. How disgusting and nasty.

@AngryMumOfTwo

I've spoken to my partner about it a bit more. We don't want to get our landlady involved, it isn't really her problem. She's also nothing that she can really do. She owns this flat but not the others. Likewise with the estate agent who manages the block. With no proof, what can they really do?

There's no one currently above us, it's empty.

@butchyrestingface surely that would be verging on abuse? I don't know. People are right that it doesn't look like an older persons writing. God knows I can't read my Nan's writing, however beautiful it may be. 😂

I think also it's just the bitchyness of it, it comes across as a female. Perhaps she is younger? Think I need to forget about it to be honest. There is nothing else I can do.

I'd have guessed male actually! I work with young men and they can be absolute twunts about babies and "breeding"

Yanbu. I'd be fuming too. But also can see why your dh laughed a bit as it is frigging ridiculous of them

What a horrible note. I agree that it’s from a younger person because of the language used.
Ignore it OP they are too scared to leave their name and even if they made a complaint then they would get nowhere as you are doing nothing wrong.

I'd write on the note in big dark letters.

YOU ARE A COWARD

The leave it on my door.

Total twats. Try not to let it spoil these precious (and already hard) moments.

@Pegasussnail

That is a very spiteful note written by what seems like a year 9 pupil in its mentality.

The writing looks like a neat 11 year old.

Funny that the writer was never a crying baby him/herself. They are here because they were born, and they probably screamed through the night too when they were babies.

Get a ring doorbell or whatever device works on your door and discuss the matter with them face to face when you find out who they are. Idiots and cowards.

You dont know other peoples mental health states. Bin it and forget about it

@Hankunamatata

You dont know other peoples mental health states. Bin it and forget about it

I'm sorry but mental health issues do not give you the right to be vile

@Bouncer500

Just write under it 'Rude! 😯' and leave it there. They won't be able to resist a walk by too see if you have seen it yet.

I'd leave it there too, with no comment at all, and let everyone in the building see it. Someone will know who this was.

My first thoughts were that's definitely a young persons writing. Any young teens in your building?

I agree with @SoupDragon 's suggestion, no one wants to be be woken up babies crying but that is nasty, I could give you some really nasty suggestions if you really wanted to ramp up the ante but that's not the way to carry on so definitley go with soup dragon's suggestion.