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To want to knock her lights out?

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AngryMumOfTwo · 07/01/2022 07:52

Hi,

I've nc'ed to be anon with this.

I'm quite upset because this note was stuck to our door overnight.

A bit of background. We've moved into this privately rented flat about 4 years ago, when our daughter was only 1. She is now 5. We have just had our second (and last) over Christmas. Like all newborns, she cries at night sometimes. She isn't too bad to be honest, at least we didn't think she was. Our oldest did cry a lot.

We get along with most people who live here. We're generally quiet and private as is all the other residents. Over 50% of them are elderly, though this isn't a retirement block of flats. We're the youngest, but there are others not much older then us.

We don't know who left the note. It is obviously unsigned. We have our suspicions but that's all. If they had knocked on the door and spoken to us, that wouldn't be a problem.

For their own sake, they better hope I don't find out who it is. I'm furious. It's horrid. The residents we've spoken to over the last few days have said how lovely she is but no noise complaints. Our immediate neighbours and the lady directly below are nice people so I don't think it's them.

I'm not sure what else I can really do about this. I had to vent my anger somewhere, sorry. My partner is angry but also found it amusing.

To want to knock her lights out?
OP posts:
OneTC · 07/01/2022 10:59

Oh my god I thought the people where we lived were bad Grin

Keep that, frame that, there's not many people who can elicit that kind of reaction from someone simply by existing near them

Good luck in future Brew

beachyandswimmy · 07/01/2022 11:04

@TheGoogleMum

How ridiculous babies cry thay can't be forced to be quiet. What a miserable person must have sent that
The term "breeders" tells me everything I need to know
WeDontTalkAboutBruno · 07/01/2022 11:21

I’d also put this in the communal area, only I think I’d find a fancy gold frame to display it with and pop a flower in a vase next to it.

MrsJThornton · 07/01/2022 11:23

@loopyapp

I'd be popping a note through everyone's door with a photocopy of that saying

Dear neighbours

It's been brought to our attention that our brand new baby is being a disturbance.

As we are sure the vast majority of you are wonderful, respectful neighbours we felt you should be aware of the one toxic element living within our small community.

If any of you recognise the handwriting please do pass on our gratitude for so eloquently taking some of the shine off this precious time for us!

Kind regards

The Breeders.

That is perfect!
Butchyrestingface · 07/01/2022 11:25

@AngryMumOfTwo

I'm no closer to knowing who it was. I don't think I'll leave a response because I'm actually quite a shy person IRL.

The older people are mostly all female, living on their own. The younger residents are all couples. We do speak to all the younger ones, so I don't imagine it's any of them.

There are some 40-50 year old couples. We don't really talk much to them, sort of keeping themselves to themselves. The older residents are generally quite sweet and enjoy our little one.

Is there someone living ABOVE you, OP?
Butchyrestingface · 07/01/2022 11:26

@WeDontTalkAboutBruno

I’d also put this in the communal area, only I think I’d find a fancy gold frame to display it with and pop a flower in a vase next to it.
It would likely "disappear" if you did that. If there is a glass panelled noticeboard only accessed via a key, I'd be tempted to put it on display there.

Failing that, call the local newspaper and practice your obligatory sad face.

TrashyPanda · 07/01/2022 11:30

What a horrible person wrote this

Handwriting looks like a primary school kid.

Why would anyone want to be so deliberately nasty? Obviously a very sad, unpleasant person.

It will probably unite the rest of the block against them. who would want to be associated with such a vile person?

KnobJockey · 07/01/2022 11:30

I think I would just write
Sucks to be you
At the bottom and stick it back up 😁

CheshireCats · 07/01/2022 11:32

That is not the writing of an elderly person. That is not the script they were taught to write in.

Spidey66 · 07/01/2022 11:36

That's horrible.

I live in a flat, though not a block. Yes there's some noise from upstairs but he's quiet and it's general everyday noise e.g. Hoover, washing machine, etc. If my upstairs neighbour had a baby, I'd accept crying as general everyday noise.....and we're not parents. I'd be thankful I don't have to deal with a crying baby myself and have some sympathy tbh.

You have no control over a crying baby, it's what they do! It's not like you're playing heavy metal at top volume at 3am!

Congratulations on the new baby xxx

Verv · 07/01/2022 11:39

I'd leave it where it was, stick a frame around it, and a description card that says "Bitter, cowardly, and appears to have forgotten that life on earth exists due to breeding, happy new year to you all."

Loveisthere · 07/01/2022 11:41

OP I would photocopy it and keep the original and put the copy up in a communal area as pp have suggested. Congratulations on your new baby

CanofCant · 07/01/2022 11:42

I'm placing my bets on an 11-13 year old boy.

NameChanged15729 · 07/01/2022 11:55

Honestly... it would make me as bad as them but I’d be really tempted to write back,

‘Dear resident, congratulations on reaching advanced age! It’s a feat denied to many. As you reach your twilight years we all must understand that repopulating the planet is important to ensure the survival of the human species. I suggest a retirement home if the noise of normal family life is too hard to live with.’

However I am of the minority that refuse to believe that elderly people deserve respect for the mere fact of being elderly.

CaptainMyCaptain · 07/01/2022 11:59

@HereticFanjo

Some young incel living with mummy and daddy perhaps. Teen to early thirties. The 'breed' is the giveaway. They're a twat.
'breeding' is also a disgusting term favoured by racists and Britain First types but I don't know if this would apply here.
Loveisthere · 07/01/2022 12:03

OP just another thought do your Miss Marple bit and look for somebody that does not have an hearing aid you will likely find your culprit as the hard of hearing would not be able to hear a baby at night.....

Curlyreine · 07/01/2022 12:14

I would photocopy the note, write a reply 'dear ANON, we have read the note to the baby, and asked them to please refrain from making noise in the future. Here's to a kind and peaceful 2022, best regards, the Breeders.'

And then I would stick it to every single front door or through everyone's letter
boxes.

malificent7 · 07/01/2022 12:16

I'd be tempted to indulge in some loud shagging or rave parties after that!

DifficultBloodyWoman · 07/01/2022 12:21

@CanofCant

I'm placing my bets on an 11-13 year old boy.
I thought the same based on handwriting and spelling errors. The only thing that made me doubt it is is the phrase ‘do not appreciate’ but then that is something a yo7ng intel would have heard many times before and decided to use to appear older.

OP, whatever you do and however you choose to reply, photocopy the note and make sure the entire block sees it,

Butchyrestingface · 07/01/2022 12:30

I didn't really think it looks like adult handwriting either. Not a young child's obviously, but not a fully grown adult's either.

However, that could be part of the cunning plan. Arsehole resident with 12 year old child or grandchild gets THEM to copy out arsehole's complaint so as to throw OP off the scent.

Or perhaps (unlikely) arsehole wrote the letter themselves but used their non-dominant hand to disguise their handwriting.

Annaghgloor · 07/01/2022 12:55

Whatever about the handwriting, I don't think that the vocab and syntax are those of a child or teenager.

FlasherMcGruff · 07/01/2022 13:01

Pin that note to the front door so the entire building can read it and write below ‘not sure who left this note on our front door as it’s anonymous but please do knock as we’d like to discuss this with you directly.’

Absolute cowards.

Original poster
AngryMumOfTwo · 07/01/2022 13:14

I've spoken to my partner about it a bit more. We don't want to get our landlady involved, it isn't really her problem. She's also nothing that she can really do. She owns this flat but not the others. Likewise with the estate agent who manages the block. With no proof, what can they really do?

There's no one currently above us, it's empty.

@butchyrestingface surely that would be verging on abuse? I don't know. People are right that it doesn't look like an older persons writing. God knows I can't read my Nan's writing, however beautiful it may be. 😂

I think also it's just the bitchyness of it, it comes across as a female. Perhaps she is younger? Think I need to forget about it to be honest. There is nothing else I can do.

OP posts:
CaptainMyCaptain · 07/01/2022 13:16

No evidence? Surely the note is evidence.

LuckyMeISeeGhosts · 07/01/2022 13:19

I would knock on every single door until I found the fucker.