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I’m so upset about an old snowsuit, tell me to get a grip.

261 replies

GarethKeenanInvestigates · 05/01/2022 17:41

My snowsuit from when I was a baby 42 years ago has been worn by my 3 children too, from my 19 year old down to my 17 month old who was still wearing it. I caught a seam on something last week and it ripped.

My mother in law is great at sewing and fixing things, dh asked if she could fix the seam.

He went there at lunch to pick something up and she handed him a new snowsuit she had bought for dd as she had chucked mine in the bin as it was old and she thought she would replace it Sad

I’m not angry at her at all. It was a 42 year old mothercare snowsuit that’s been through 4 children (it was still in good condition though and quite retro and cool). She doesn’t know it was
sentimental to me, We should have said not to throw it if she couldn’t fix it.

To anyone else it was a bit of old shit but it’s was one of the only things I had left. My mum died when I was little, my dad is now 85 and in a care home with dementia, we’ve totally lost him
now, who he was has gone. At the start of his dementia, he started chucking away so much stuff and I didn’t know. So many family photos, videos all gone.

He’d always kept that snowsuit though as my mum bought it the day she found out she was pregnant with me, and he remembered laughing at her because she had bought it in 1 year old size rather than newborn because she was in such an excited flap on the way home from the dr. He loved seeing my older two in it. My littlest dd, he was too far gone to even register.

Plus, I had it in my head that if I was ever l lucky enough to have a grandchild one day, I’d be that annoying gran who passed it down.

I need to get a bloody grip, don’t I. It’s a fucking snowsuit, not a royal christening gown.

OP posts:
TidyDancer · 06/01/2022 17:57

Oh this is wonderful, I feel quite teary reading your update! I'm very sentimental myself so I completely understand how upset you were. I'm so pleased for you that this has a happy ending!

arootintootingoodtime · 06/01/2022 18:04

Oh I am so happy for you! I think somewhere in the universe someone must have been looking out for it and sent it back to you.

TressiliansStone · 06/01/2022 18:06

Oh hurrah! I'm so very, very pleased for you!

This thread has been playing on my mind all day as I've looked at my own treasured heirloom "bits of rubbish".

Oblomov22 · 06/01/2022 18:06

Just seen update. So pleased.

spiderlight · 06/01/2022 18:06

Yay!! Grin

WaltzingTilda · 06/01/2022 18:06

Oh wow, I am so happy for you OP. That snowsuit is meant to be with you forever Smile. How lovely , I am so happy for you.

Gargellen · 06/01/2022 18:08

Wooooo woooooo! so glad you have it back OP.

Kattekit · 06/01/2022 18:08

I love your update, such brilliant news. I understand sentimental items and how much they can mean to us. So pleased you’ve got it back. Your update has made me smile.

devildeepbluesea · 06/01/2022 18:10

Just read your OP and it genuinely made me year up. I'm so pleased you found it!! Wonderful 😍

vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 06/01/2022 18:14

Delighted for you.

Genuinely.

Sweetpea1532 · 06/01/2022 18:17

@GarethKeenanInvestigates
I've only read your posts, so don't know if anyone has mentioned what a absolute gem your DH is for honouring the sentimental value of your snowsuit...some partners ( male or female) would think it silly that you attached such warm happy memories to a garment. I'm so happy for you that your DH 'gets' it...what a kind and thoughtful manFlowers
DS seems to be following in his DF footsteps, too.

Thank you for sharing your happy postSmile

Sweetpea1532 · 06/01/2022 18:21

@GarethKeenanInvestigates

Also, your thoughts on not mentioning it to MIL show what a kind person you are, also...Nice to hear and very touchingFlowers

Flea456 · 06/01/2022 18:23

I would also be really upset as I find it hard to part with sentimental items. You’re not alone! But, I’ve found it much easier to pert with things if I have a photo of them as it’s not really the thing you need to keep, but the memory. If you have a photo of it, you’ll always remember.

cherish123 · 06/01/2022 18:23

I would be upset too.

Flea456 · 06/01/2022 18:24

Aah, it’s been found! Hurrah! Take some more pics now……just in case!

Sosigsandwich · 06/01/2022 18:26

Genuinely just shed a happy tear at your update. I'm incredibly sentimental and would have been devastated if I'd lost something so precious.

CormoranStrike · 06/01/2022 18:29

Ah what a lovely outcome

Lulu49 · 06/01/2022 18:41

You are not unreasonable to feel like that and I would have searched mil bins for it! I feel sad for you, I would feel exactly the same. My eldest daughters first baby has just worn the family baby grow, the 5th baby to use it ❤️

NewMum0305 · 06/01/2022 18:42

Saw this thread had been resurrected and hoped it would be good news! So happy for you (and I would have been devastated too, fwiw)

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 06/01/2022 18:42

Whoop whoop whoop!!!!

penguin23 · 06/01/2022 18:44

I had a bunny cuddly toy given to me as a baby and it was my favourite above all others, still is now nearly 40 years later. A few years ago my husband was bagging up some stuff to take to the tip, some being my old toys my parents gave to me to store in my house. After that I couldn’t find my bunny anywhere. I honestly thought it had gone to the tip. I was beyond devastated for about a month and could barely look at my husband, even though I know it wasn’t intentional. I sobbed myself to sleep a lot. One day I miraculously found it in the shoe box that had my first ever shoes in it. I’ve never cried with relief as much as I did when I saw it. I completely get how you must feel, it’s just an object but it holds so much meaning! I actually nearly did the same thing with the photos as I have lots of me and my daughter holding my dear bunny. It seemed a good way to remember him if I didn’t physically have him. 💐

Fernie6491 · 06/01/2022 18:44

Haha - wonderful news, now......go and have a quick practise at sewing repairs and then you can mend things yourself in future, (even if you're not an expert) and you'll never have that stress again !

penguin23 · 06/01/2022 18:45

Just seen your update, I am so so so pleased for you! 🥰😍

2bazookas · 06/01/2022 18:48

tel;l DH to urgently contact his mum and tell her to get it back out of the bin.

EarringsandLipstick · 06/01/2022 18:49

That's brilliant OP! I was really moved by your thread & the memories the snowsuit held for you. I'm so sorry about your dad.

I was also impressed you weren't upset with MIL, usually a thread like this would be all 'my evil MIL'

I'm thrilled you have it back!