To not understand why some people think that they have to same surname as their child?

[SalonSharon]

I don’t have the same surname as my children and I’ve never had a problems with this.

Why is it so important to some Mumsnetters?

We're married and have DC. DC have the same surname but DH and I have different surnames to each other and the the DC. Never been an issue with travel/schools etc.

@BurscoughBooths

Incant fly home with my children without an affidavit and a letter of consent from my husband.

Just because you have not personally experienced something doesnt mean it is a non-issue for others.

I’m assuming you aren’t from the UK then OP? Otherwise you wouldn’t really need to ask.

You do not need written permission to travel if you have a different surname to your child. Where did you get that from?

@CloseYourEyesAndSee

You are incorrect.

@garlictwist

You do not need written permission to travel if you have a different surname to your child. Where did you get that from?

You do in some countries!!! FFS!!!!

[quote DoItAfraid]@CloseYourEyesAndSee

You are incorrect.[/quote]
I've been doing it several times a year for 13 years
Never a problem once

I got grilled at an airport when travelling with DC without DP.

@helpfulperson

Because its a family name. If it doesn't matter why bother having a surname at all. Why not just have a single name. We could use more uncommon names to reduce confusion.

You do not live up to your username. How patently ridiculous. There are many reasons for not sharing a name. The 1950s called, they want you back.

I like the family unit that we are. Team Dragon. The Dragon Family. It's nice 🤷‍♀️

Permission to travel is fuck all to do with surnames
If travelling into or out of the U.K. it's because you need consent from anyone with PR (technically, you are rarely asked)
If travelling in other countries they may have their own rules but again, not related to surnames. In many parts of the world children traditionally have different surnames to their mothers due to either double barrelling or women not changing names on marriage

We've got loads of different names in my family. My SIL didn't change her name when she married DB but their kids had his name so now he's dead I have the same name as my DNs but a different name to my DCs (I never married). My DM still has her married name even though she divorced 20 years ago. No one cares. In fact I think the kids like to talk about all the different names and where they are from. I've never understood why people change their name when they get married.

It is a bit silly imo. I have a different name to my mum and it never caused any issues. Neither me nor DH were hugely bothered but in the end we chose mine for DD as easier to spell.

Its community, history and belonging. I'm a "xxxx", says these are the people I belong to and these are the people that are part of me.

Makes it easier when working out who has and hasn't paid subs in youth organisations!

It's my child, why would I give her anything but my surname?

Some of us choose different names specifically. I've been a Puff from birth, I'm proud of my heritage, I didn't want to change it upon marriage. I'm noone's possession or add on. My DS all have my surname as their middle name which they can choose to double barrell anytime they like (DS2 likes to do this at times).

It wasn’t important to me, until I was stopped every single time I left and entered the country without my husband. It became a hassle so I changed my surname. It’s fine though I still have my maiden name professionally.

If I baked it, I name it! It's only fair!

My child, why wouldn't she have my surname, other that a ridiculous outdated tradition to suit men?

I always thought it was important to be married before having children, and I feel like everyone sharing the same name shows I took the commitment seriously/upheld the traditional values I believe in and planned my babies carefully. Doesn’t bother me if other people don’t want to do the same/dont care but I care snd it’s important to me. I like that we are a family with one united name.

People get very funny about their surnames / the worst being people who hyphenate. Understandable maybe if you’re the Hiltons and the Rothschilds but otherwise it’s bizarre. I know a few women who aren’t married and the children have their husband’s names - if I didn’t share a name with everyone, that’s the last thing I would do! The children would have my name!

@ANameChangeAgain

Its community, history and belonging. I'm a "xxxx", says these are the people I belong to and these are the people that are part of me.

I don't belong to anyone and noone belongs to me. How ridiculous. The patriarchy is still alive and kicking I see.

Everyone can do whatever they like, but starting with the 'I belong' to someone is pathetic.

You need a consent form flying out of the Netherlands if only one parent is travelling. I have been asked every single time for 12 years. My husband has too, and they have the same name, normal practice here, both at Schiphol and Eindhoven.

We keep a copy of the birth cert in her passport in case of questions about my name, hardly 'complicated'.

It’s only on Mn I’ve heard of women taking their husbands surname in marriage as his is a nicer name and then automatically giving their children that name.
I didn’t change by surname when we got married and DC’s have double barrelled to reflect both of our families.

Because it gets annoying being called Mrs 'XP'.