@SusannaQueen
My DH is morbidly obese and yes it does affect our relationship and his friendships (a lot).
We don't do any physical activities, he won't go on walks or bike rides, anywhere that involves walking or standing. His feet get sore and swell. He constantly has ailments related to his weight. Won't swim either.
Really all he will do is go to the pub or restaurants.
Yes, it limits his friendships, he is tired all the time, never has any energy to do extra activities that could involve meeting new people.
It was the same with my ex . Once we had kids, everything to do with them was my job as he was too tired. He never once got up with the babies at night because he slept too heavily to hear them.
He couldn’t make breakfast for the toddler or even bring me a cup of water when I was breast feeding because he had to make his own breakfast as soon as he got up in the morning, otherwise his blood sugar would drop too low.
He couldn’t bath the baby as he couldn't bend over to lift then in and out the bath.
He couldn’t change nappies as he had a delicate stomach and it made him feel sick.
He wouldn’t walk any distance so couldn't take the children to the park or play with then in the garden.
If I asked him to watch the baby / toddler for 10 mins while I went to the loo or had a shower , he would sit down in a armchair and fall asleep immediately. So it wasn’t safe.
He wouldn’t go on days out with the kids unless I could drive straight to the door of the venue and park outside. He would sleep the whole way there and back and complain that the children bickering disturbed him . After about an hour at wherever we were he would say he was tired and go back to the car for a sleep.
Our sex life was adequate at first, then poor to non existent. He was either too tired or his physical limitations meant that he was only interested on one position, which didn’t do much for me. He would last about a minute and that was it. 60 seconds later he was snoring beside me.
He ate piles of junk food, despite all my efforts to make healthy meals. As the children became school aged he also bought them junk and thwarted all my attempts to feed then decent food. He turned it into some sort of “ good cop bad cop game “.
As a PP said, the only places he would go with the kids was restaurants, but they didn’t eat proper food because they were used to junk at home. They didn’t behave so he stopped going out with us at all.
When we went on family holidays he couldn’t / wouldn’t do any activities because of his weight. Couldn't kick a ball, wouldn’t swim, wouldn’t go on the beach , take a walk, go 10 pin bowling , do any sports .
The only place he was willing to go with the children was the cinema in the wide seats and he would fall asleep within 5 mins and snore loudly. The children were embarrassed and refused to go back with him.
He was too hot in the summer and in the winter it was too slippy and he might fall. Basically he hated outdoors and would only go from building to car.
So he just stopped coming with us and TBH it was a relief for us all.
I bet you he’d come on here and say that being very obese hasn’t affected his life very much . But it certainly affected me and the kids - our lives and their childhoods were massively affected because everything has to fit around him and he was permanently tired.