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Re note on car

183 replies

Whymustyoubringinthebirds · 28/12/2021 14:36

This morning around 9am when I got to my car it had a soked note on the windscreen basically accusing us of intimidating someone's wife Confused

Nothing else, no idea who it is meant to be from, it's put me on edge all day even though I know I've not done anything, I barely see anyone in the street let alone speak to them!

AIBU....don't leave notes on people's cars

OP posts:
stiltonandcrackers · 28/12/2021 19:37

Usually the sort of people who park across other people’s drives, or take part in other inconsiderate behaviour, are often unpleasant people who love confrontation, and aren’t the sort of people you can approach and rationalise with face to face. As the saying goes, you can’t argue with stupid, so best to leave notes. That way, they can always get someone else to read and explain the note to them, if they’re unable to read.

Interestingly I have had 2 notes left on my parked car about blocking drives in 30 years of driving. The thing was that on very close inspection I was literally no where near the dropped curbs. The other irony is that I am particularly pedantic about parking and NOT blocking peoples drives and will move to park elsewhere if I feel I am too close to a dropped curb. I also have a huge big bear with school parking and how inconsiderate it is. But I will absolutely confront these people face to face, never a note!

So my conclusion is that all people who leave notes are total dickheads to be ignored!

So my conclusion is

Original poster
Whymustyoubringinthebirds · 28/12/2021 19:46

I've been out and got pictures, I think with a million back and fourth a ton of manoeuvring we will get the car out so feel a bit better, thankful for front sensors on the car

OP posts:
Cheetosyummy · 28/12/2021 19:51

@covetingthepreciousthings
It was a parallel parking along a pavement between two dropped curbs so nobody could park next or behind me.
As I said it still puzzles me- I always triple check if I’m parked well within lines etc so i don’t understand a what the note meant.
Plus the houses are all detached/or large semis and the driveways are wide.

SirVixofVixHall · 28/12/2021 20:41

@MondeoFan

I think it's goose not ghost. It's probably meant to be ghost as that makes more sense but everyone I know says goose!

Hope you get to the bottom of it. The car problem that is not the ghost v goose

It is definitely goose not ghost. It is a very old saying.
ShinyHappyPoster · 28/12/2021 20:43

@stiltonandcrackers

Usually the sort of people who park across other people’s drives, or take part in other inconsiderate behaviour, are often unpleasant people who love confrontation, and aren’t the sort of people you can approach and rationalise with face to face. As the saying goes, you can’t argue with stupid, so best to leave notes. That way, they can always get someone else to read and explain the note to them, if they’re unable to read.

Interestingly I have had 2 notes left on my parked car about blocking drives in 30 years of driving. The thing was that on very close inspection I was literally no where near the dropped curbs. The other irony is that I am particularly pedantic about parking and NOT blocking peoples drives and will move to park elsewhere if I feel I am too close to a dropped curb. I also have a huge big bear with school parking and how inconsiderate it is. But I will absolutely confront these people face to face, never a note!

So my conclusion is that all people who leave notes are total dickheads to be ignored!

So my conclusion is

Yy I agree with this. That's been my experience too. I think they write the notes because they know they're in the wrong so can't discuss it.
BikesGoInTheShed · 28/12/2021 20:47

This sounds super strange! Why on earth would they block you in rather than come and talk to you?

expat101 · 28/12/2021 20:59

A former neighbour once wrote on a specialist topic social media site (I know her forum name as its the same as other SM platforms she uses) that we were bullying them (and what could they do about it etc) which was really odd as we hadn't spoken or been anywhere near them for 4 months beforehand but had involved police as her DH was jumping our fence and taking photos from inside the property.

Fortunately, a couple of forum members knew us and queried neighbour poster further, who didn't respond. People closer to home were told we called the police in saying they were growing dope in their shed (they had been, but as the property had been on the market at the time, I doubt very much they were still doing so).

There is simply no understanding some people or their logic. If you have a couple of neighbours who you are close to, ask them if they would mind keeping an eye out on your car and anything odd going on around it. It always feels good having others look out for you in a difficult situation.

tootyfruitypickle · 28/12/2021 21:06

My neighbours blocked me in like this and the police gave them a verbal warning

NerrSnerr · 28/12/2021 21:09

I'd call the police for advice. They shouldn't be blocking you in and you have no idea what they may do.

winterchills · 28/12/2021 21:09

I would be contacting the police as well, all sounds very weird!

stairgates · 28/12/2021 21:11

Hopefully the police will contact them and you can all have a discussion and get to the bottom of things

Echobelly · 28/12/2021 21:22

I think in that scenario I might leave a note with my phone number saying 'I'm very sorry about what's happened to you but I am sure my husband and I are not connected to this, please could you call XXXXX and we can clarify the situation because I'm sure you can appreciate this has been upsetting for us - we are not people who would harrass or try to upset anyone' Because that would be a clear response you are not someone out to intimidate anyone and it would give a way of contacting you that's not identifying (just in case they're pig-headed and won't admit they've got the wrong person)

SoItWas · 28/12/2021 21:29

He was hateful.

SoItWas · 28/12/2021 21:30

Sorry wrong thread Blush

BaronessBomburst · 28/12/2021 21:34

Chimley · 28/12/2021 21:45

What's your next move OP? Are you just planning on leaving it and hoping the blockers need to move before you do?

The problem with that is the original issue remains unresolved and they could keep doing this as revenge for the perceived slight of intimidating someone's wife. If you phone 101 now if they do it again it becomes harassment and then the police can act.

CheshireKitten123 · 28/12/2021 21:52

@StoneofDestiny

I'd call the police if I was you - take a picture too. If the note writer has two car drivers to organise and intimidate you, I'd be worried enough to report this as intimidation and threat. They will be able to trace the owners of the vehicles.
This ^
Staffy1 · 28/12/2021 21:58

I would leave a note on both of the cars blocking you in asking if either of them were the ones that left the note on your car and saying you don’t know what the f they are talking about and could they please have the decency to talk to you in person and move their stupid cars.

NinaDefoe · 28/12/2021 22:15

@Echobelly

I think in that scenario I might leave a note with my phone number saying 'I'm very sorry about what's happened to you but I am sure my husband and I are not connected to this, please could you call XXXXX and we can clarify the situation because I'm sure you can appreciate this has been upsetting for us - we are not people who would harrass or try to upset anyone' Because that would be a clear response you are not someone out to intimidate anyone and it would give a way of contacting you that's not identifying (just in case they're pig-headed and won't admit they've got the wrong person)
This might be a good move!
HikingforScenery · 28/12/2021 22:16

@Babdoc

It’s “boo to a goose”, OP, not ghost. It would actually be quite brave to say boo to a ghost!
Geese are so scary. I’d definitely hesitate to say boo to any of that menacing lot.
MsAdoraBelleDearheartVonLipwig · 28/12/2021 22:18

Did you try the police?

Somebodylikeyew · 28/12/2021 22:20

I wouldn’t say boo to a goose or a ghost Grin

OP you are much calmer than i would be!

Bungalowlady · 28/12/2021 22:24

I recently got pecked by a goose while walking along an embankment near home. I can assure you I didn't say boo to it. More of a 4 letter word 😂

HeyArnoldHey · 28/12/2021 22:54

Any update?? I'm so intrigued and worried Shock

StoneofDestiny · 28/12/2021 23:18

Why would you not call the police? Can't believe you left your address on the note and are even engaging with these people. Not wise.