Is this present having a dig at me

[Welshlavalove]

Don’t really see partners mum since covid as lives a couple of hours away and she never travels . Previously it was small talk every few months . She came for Christmas lunch and this was my present . Aibu in thinking she is far shaming me ? When ever she sees her slightly overweight son she makes comments about how he looks pregnant . I used to run a lot don’t now .

@SpindlesHill

It's certainly extremely common. And I don't mean in the ubiquitous sense.

Agreed.

So glad you binned it, although the cats home/rspca idea was probably the most eco friendly. I also like the idea of it being covered in cat sick

Love the idea of sending it back as @LuluBlakey1 suggests, but if course IRL, less effort is good.

Definitely hang on to it and regift. Nasty.

Cheeky bitch. How u didn’t hit her with it is beyond me!

Rude and insensitive. Probably got it from a charity shop.

You should ask her outright if she has a problem with your weight and if the cushion is a dig at you. I think she is very spiteful to have sly digs in this way and unfortunately there are some people who will continue to do so until you say something. Perhaps if she understands that you found it offensive she might think twice next time.
I hope it did not spoil your christmas x

@Eslteacher06

I'd save it for her birthday and regift it to her. Mehehe

100% this.

@Eslteacher06

I'd save it for her birthday and regift it to her. Mehehe

This.

Only way you can repay her is to gift her something as equally passive aggressive and bitchy for her birthday.....only fair ;)

I can’t see it being bad at all. It’s actually funny!
I must be the only one.
And I am the one who gets easily offended and questioning and overthinking everything…

Has she usually got a gutter type sense of humor?
Not asking after your DC is very rude too.
I'd unpick the stitching, bin the message and take the cushion to the charity shop. Otherwise it's more landfill.

Just take it as a joke!

I think she thinks she’s being funny but its not funny, but I think it’s her personality. This is her funny. Sad for you and your family if she can’t gauge what’s appropriate for you all.

It doesn't work on any level. It's rude, not funny and ugly. A complete waste of money. Silly cow. Her not you OP.

I'd set the cushion on fire. And give her the ashes back.

Agree with pp. Regift it to the cow

Wow, I was expecting to think YABU but that is offensive. I wouldn't be putting much energy into a relationship with her.

Wow. Just wow

@LadyCampanulaTottington

Remember when people weren’t so easily offended and things were funny?

Maybe next year someone will give you a sense of humour.

You'd need more that a sense of humour to find that funny

It’s revolting. Give it back to her next Christmas.

That is the most awful gift ever! Monster in law more like! I'd give it back and tell her to be more positive. What a passive aggressive 'gift.' Rude and insensitive. You don't need people like that!

@Pandagirl71

Rude and insensitive. Probably got it from a charity shop.

I was thinking this too. Good that you put it in the bin - I can't imagine anyone wanting such a horrible thing in their home.

It's rude and really ugly.

Horrible present.

What a bitch! Did she have it personalised or something? Is she super slim and perfect?