Is this present having a dig at me

[Welshlavalove]

Don’t really see partners mum since covid as lives a couple of hours away and she never travels . Previously it was small talk every few months . She came for Christmas lunch and this was my present . Aibu in thinking she is far shaming me ? When ever she sees her slightly overweight son she makes comments about how he looks pregnant . I used to run a lot don’t now .

Sorry but that's hilarious! Not everything is personal you know?

I would get dh to have a word with her

How odd! I wouldn’t be pretending to like that.

If I was given that it would go in the bin

I wouldn't have something like that in the house, it's incredibly vulgar and a mean gift.

So nasty.

Straight into bin.

Start giving her anti- wrinkle presents from now on.
Or incontinence pads.

What on earth did you say to her when you opened that?

Nasty and upsetting. Throw in the bin.

It's not funny anyway but it's also a really bitchy present. Who would have that on display?! I'm not a fan of just throwing things out, but given that I can't imagine a single person wanting this then I'd just lob it straight in the bin!

Possible the only present complain on MN this year that I entirely agree with.

Utterly vile thing to give to anyone. I do wonder what on earth the people who make these things are thinking - how many of those could you possibly sell?

Wow, that is really horrible. I would charity shop it.

That is a very nasty present. I do think you need to speak with you husband and tell him he needs to have a word with her.

That is a shit gift.
I'd give it to the charity shop. Or if you have a pet let them sleep on it. Better still give it to someone else for their pet to use and tell her what you have done.
I'd then concentration one of her 'flaws' e.g. a big nose, and spend several hours seeking out a similarly insulting gift such as a mug saying "I'm sure my conk didn't used to look this massive.' Then give her that for her birthday/Christmas.
Then again my tolerance levels are extremely low these days. I done tolerate shit anymore.

Um...

no words.

Gift it back to them. What a nasty present! Time to go no contact?

@Missey85

Sorry but that's hilarious! Not everything is personal you know?

It is when it's given personally as a Christmas present to a person

She bought that in a Charity shop last February and that’s where you need to take it back to.

Writing an insult on a cushion doesn't make it somehow ok

@Missey85

Sorry but that's hilarious! Not everything is personal you know?

Hilarious? You’re easily pleased aren’t you?

It’s puerile and tasteless and quite possibly pointed. Guff present. I’d have politely placed it the side with a puzzled thank you. It would be going straight in the bin.

The charity shop is thattaway --->

@ArblemarzipanTFruitcake

The charity shop is thattaway --->

I'm not sure any self respecting charity shop would want it?

It’s tacky as fuck.

Even without the insult (and yeah that’s definitely an insult). Even if it said something lovely. Tacky.

Charity shop.

Nasty.

More bloody landfill. People are so pathetic sending passive aggressive presents like this.

The joy of Christmas eh?

Time to start sending a non-stop series of catalogues for care homes offering different levels of specialist “care”. Then get her a coffin catalogue for her birthday. Then next Christmas, a handmade shroud - embroidered with “I used to have a cordial relationship with my daughter in law until I gave her a cushion with a rude, fat-shaming comment on it which was that one step too far.”
x

I find it really weird. Like even if you wanted to have a dig for some bizarre reason, why choose this? It's really strange. I almost don't want to believe people aren't so thick to make and buy such things but yet here is the evidence