Is this present having a dig at me

[Welshlavalove]

Don’t really see partners mum since covid as lives a couple of hours away and she never travels . Previously it was small talk every few months . She came for Christmas lunch and this was my present . Aibu in thinking she is far shaming me ? When ever she sees her slightly overweight son she makes comments about how he looks pregnant . I used to run a lot don’t now .

That’s a horrible present. I’d say something to her along the lines of it’s only a joke if we’re both laughing and we obviously don’t share the same humour. Then give her a bottle of bubble bath.

Do they do one that says "I used to have family and friends but I am a bitch so now I don't" that you could give to her?

I would burn it and take a picture and include it with the thank you note. Thanks for the fire starter. Works great!

Do you have a pet? Use it as a cushion for the pet. Take a picture of your little family (yourself included of course) and put it up on one of your statuses assuming she is social network savvy. Or send this as a happy new year pic to her something along the lines of Happy New year from my home to yours😁

That’s awful straight in the bin .

I got a Jabba The Hut lunchbox

I’ve lost 10st and am due for surgery for excess skin soon

I dont know. It depends on both of your sense of humours. Personally I wouldn't be offended by this but see it as a laugh, however, considering your relationship with her, it does not seem that funny. Maybe from a mate but a MIL you hardly speak with?!! Get her something equally as offensive/nerve touching for her birthday 🤣

It's the sort of slogan I would expect to see on a funny meme on Instagram with a picture of the backside of a hippo.........not the type of thing I would ever expect to see on a cushion, definitely wouldn't me impressed if I got this as a gift.

Send her a thank you note for the cushion expressing sadness that she thinks she's fat; after all, it says 'I' and not 'you'...

It is an awful gift OP.

Has she printed that out her self?

What a prick! I would return the present to her saying that I didn’t like the slogan and don’t think I would use it. An over-reaction makes such people think (at least) twice and respect when approaching me next time.

Vile, burn it on a New Year's eve bonfire, and have a chat with her about body shaming causing mental health problems, and is in effect bullying so will she kindly stop commenting to anyone in your family about their body choices. She's toxic

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Yeah she's being rude! That would be going straight to the charity shop!

It would be going straight in the bin for me. What a piece of work your partner's mum is - nasty person👿

Crikey. That's some gift. I'd not be impressed!

Fun to imagine getting her one of these tshirts

www.redbubble.com/i/t-shirt/Keep-Calm-and-Stop-Being-Passive-Aggressive-by-taiche/15062218.GDEN5

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www.lookhuman.com/design/359290-passive-aggressive-queen/3600-athletic_gray-md

Don’t know if she meant it meanly or not, but what an awful, ugly, weird present! I wouldn’t make a thing about it but I would definitely chuck it out!

It obviously appeals to some people's sense of humour or the cushion wouldn't exist- not mine though. Awful but is not automatically assume it was a dog she's maybe just got awful taste and no tact

Perhaps find something just as “vaguely true” and equally insulting for her. I mean if she believes that you have the kind of relationship that supports this kind of gift, she won’t be offended will she?😏

Bin it

That’s hilarious 😂

Wow! How insensitive.

That is not a gift. That is really rude and unkind. I wouldn’t give that to the charity shop as it’s just not something I’d want anyone else to be given. It would be going in the bin.

My inlaws gave me a little box of chocolates for Christmas, I am lactose intolerant (not part of the issue, I don’t make a big thing so they wouldn’t know that) so I opened them to give to everyone else - it was clear they were out of date, checked and yes they were. I noticed they were from interflora so assume they were one of those add on chocolate boxes people can add when they send flowers, which must have been sent to MIL at some point. Obviously a regift. Just telling you this to let you know you’re not alone in the terrible gifts camp.

Yanbu to feel hurt by this. It’s insulting and if you’re like me I’d rather have no gift (I wasn’t expecting one anyway so honestly would rather not have one) than that. Especially hurtful when I buy thoughtful gifts for them and the rest of the family. Did you get her something lovely and now feel sad about it all? I bet you did, I’m sorry.

1000% a dig. How rude. I would get a suitably diggy present for her. Screw taking the higher ground, make it a sport xx

I would 100% be having a very direct conversation with her. Put her on the spot and ask if in any way she thought this would be appropriate or well received.

Off the scale bitchy and rude in my opinion. Her only defence (and it's not a legitimate defence anyway) would be if she thinks she's one of these 'cool, funny' mums and was trying to be 'funny'. But even then she has bought the gift for her own gains rather than for yours and she has got it spectacularly wrong.