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Is this present having a dig at me

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Welshlavalove · 26/12/2021 09:52

Don’t really see partners mum since covid as lives a couple of hours away and she never travels . Previously it was small talk every few months . She came for Christmas lunch and this was my present . Aibu in thinking she is far shaming me ? When ever she sees her slightly overweight son she makes comments about how he looks pregnant . I used to run a lot don’t now .

Is this present having a dig at me
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TopTabby · 26/12/2021 10:28

Oh God, definitely charity shop! Preferably one that's local to her so she might see it there!Grin
Hopefully just her idea of a 'joke' but pretty bad choice of gift.

Nanny0gg · 26/12/2021 10:28

@ChipButtyCurrySauce

Yeah she's being rude! That would be going straight to the charity shop!
Bin.

Why inflict it on someone else?

ArblemarzipanTFruitcake · 26/12/2021 10:29

I'm not sure any self respecting charity shop would want it?

Give it to the RSPCA/Cats' Protection/other dog or cat charity shop then it can be used as a cushion for animals if they don't think they can sell it. A cat wouldn't care about the naff slogan

Nanny0gg · 26/12/2021 10:29

What did your partner say?

(and what did he get?)

DialSquare · 26/12/2021 10:29

Get her this for her Birthday.

Is this present having a dig at me
SpiderFluff · 26/12/2021 10:31

@ArblemarzipanTFruitcake

I'm not sure any self respecting charity shop would want it?

Give it to the RSPCA/Cats' Protection/other dog or cat charity shop then it can be used as a cushion for animals if they don't think they can sell it. A cat wouldn't care about the naff slogan

That's a great idea!
ThumbWitchesAbroad · 26/12/2021 10:31

Definitely having a dig.
Rude.

SocksAndTheCity · 26/12/2021 10:31

I wouldn't inflict that on a charity shop either. Regift it to her or straight in the bin/on the fire.

I was slightly upset yesterday to unwrap a set of naff 'loungewear' that's two sizes too big for me from a relative I see fairly regularly, but that cushion's next level.

Cherrysoup · 26/12/2021 10:32

Aimed for humour and missed quite badly. Foolish of her to give this as a gift, who’d want it??

Stormbraver99 · 26/12/2021 10:36

Send it back to her.

PicaK · 26/12/2021 10:36

That's a self-deprecating humorous statement. It only works if you buy it yourself.
I'd quite like it for my own house...it would be v true.

But giving it as a gift. Horrible. Inappropriate. Ugly gesture.
I'll go for the usual Mumsnet query in cases like this of massive misjudgement though..
Start of senility/dementia?

Twaddle1982 · 26/12/2021 10:37

I’d ask her if she kept the receipt so you can swap it for something you like. If she hasn’t give it back and tell her its not your kind of thing. If she is offended- good.

tulips27 · 26/12/2021 10:40

Crass, horrible present. Shock

TangoWhiskyAlphaTango · 26/12/2021 10:43

She is a nasty bitch.

KaleJuicer · 26/12/2021 10:45

I’d set fire to the cushion! Not really, that’s terrible for the environment. Horrible “gift”. Some other good suggestions for what to do with it above!

LAMPS1 · 26/12/2021 10:46

In front her, I would have taken a pair of nail scissors and exaggeratedly and carefully unpicked the slogan from the actual cushion without a word and put the offensive bit on the fire or in the bin or even in her hand bag to take home with her.
Then I would have turned to her and politely thanked her for the cushion.
If she said anything at all I would have said ….I appreciate the cushion thank you very much but not the message which, before you argue that I don’t have a sense of humour, isn’t the slightest bit funny and which is offensive and ignorant.
Job done.

Olliesocks · 26/12/2021 10:47

Get her one for her birthday/next xmas that reminds her you’ll be choosing her care home.

Allsorts1 · 26/12/2021 10:48

For me it would be funny but I don’t have weight sensitivity, so given the backstory I can see why you are offended. However, it’s always good to try and assume that people mean well, because they mostly do. She might have thought that that’s your sense of humour and that you would love it. The chances of it being a cruel dig at you are minimal in my eyes - just misjudged humour.

furbabymama87 · 26/12/2021 10:49

Unless she's completely brain dead, she's being a bitch. Bin it.

nellyburt · 26/12/2021 10:50

I hope you left it behind to make it obvious you don't want it.

JacquelineCarlyle · 26/12/2021 10:51

That's a horrible present!

NameChangeCity123 · 26/12/2021 10:52

@Stormwhale

I think that is acceptable for someone to buy for themselves, but never as a gift.
Absolutely agree
Livebythecoast · 26/12/2021 10:52

If you were a jogger and your thighs rubbed together and your knickers actually caught fire, then yes, amusing Hmm Given the fact that this scenario didn't happen then no, it's a shit present and I wouldn't be displaying it anywhere other than the bin.

daisychain01 · 26/12/2021 10:55

@Welshlavalove

Don’t really see partners mum since covid as lives a couple of hours away and she never travels . Previously it was small talk every few months . She came for Christmas lunch and this was my present . Aibu in thinking she is far shaming me ? When ever she sees her slightly overweight son she makes comments about how he looks pregnant . I used to run a lot don’t now .
It's unclassy, tactless and poor taste. Why would you ever want this in your house. I wouldn't even give it to a charity shop.

Your MIL is clearly lacking in the brain-cell department. Don't take it personally, she probably thought she was being funny.

Shuffleuplove · 26/12/2021 10:56

Gloves are off OP! You need to send her this for her birthday…

Is this present having a dig at me