Is this present having a dig at me

[Welshlavalove]

Don’t really see partners mum since covid as lives a couple of hours away and she never travels . Previously it was small talk every few months . She came for Christmas lunch and this was my present . Aibu in thinking she is far shaming me ? When ever she sees her slightly overweight son she makes comments about how he looks pregnant . I used to run a lot don’t now .

Burn it

Certainly is a shit present and she is definitely being bitchy, I would keep and regift it to her next year.

Rubbish present but am I stupid for interpreting it as about legs like matchsticks, eg skinny?

Yes she is having a dig unless you all take the piss out of each other all the time - which I am sensing you don't.

Just bin it straight away

I think anyone brave enough to send a vulgar, unfunny slogan cushion provably hasn’t got the wit to send it offensively.

It’s such a cringe present the message/insult gets lost.

Just hand it straight back in front of everyone and say 'I think you must have accidentally wrapped the wrong item'.

When faced with an attack you don't need to be hyper polite and embarrassed back, don't yell/shout/insult or hide just hand it right back and tell calmly and matte of factly that you think it must be a mistake.

If they say it's not a mistake then everyone has seen their true colors and they are the ones that should be embarrassed.

I can't imagine being hosted by an in-law, knowing all the effort and expense that entails, and as their gift turning up with a random cushion - let alone the dubious "joke". No effort whatsoever. I wouldn't have her again!

@Itchylegs

Rubbish present but am I stupid for interpreting it as about legs like matchsticks, eg skinny?

no, your thighs only rub together if you are fat thighed... aka Chub Rub.

I'm pear-shaped or 'thunder thighed' but I'm not massively fat (the rest of my body is pretty slim) but when thighs rub it causes friction and wears holes into jeans etc...

@Ionlydomassiveones

This is why I don’t understand this mentality of ‘be grateful for any gift’ - some people are passive aggressive in their gift giving and it can be very hurtful. You should tell her you don’t it and get her to explain. Or your DH should.

I really like this idea

Wow that’s nasty. Why do so many mils feel the need to be so vile towards their sons partners. Must be jealousy. I’d save it for her birthday and regift it to her.

Weird present, definitely not nice or would only appeal to a very basic sense of humour. Not something you would buy someone else. Looks extremely cheap and nasty as well, what a thoughtless present.

Buy a cushion cover that fits over it.

Then gift wrap it for your MIL for her birthday.

Did she make it herself ?

I think it depends on who gets it for who, my friends and I are reluctant gym bunnies and like a previous poster said would buy each other something with these type of slogans on but I wouldn't like it from anyone not in on the joke if you see what I mean.

She is being mean and horrible.

“MIL do you have the gift receipt for this pillow? I’m going to take it back and use the refund to buy you a book about manners.”

I am not serious but I would ask her for the receipt so I could return it.

She's done you a favour by letting you know exactly how much you mean to her !

Ohhh noooo... like another pp said.. but it for yourself but not for someone else

This wins the worst present on MN Xmas 2021 award

Go on ebay, find an obnoxious vintage 'Mother in law' postcard or birthday card...send it back at the appropriate time, revenge is best served cold...

Yes, of f course it is having a dig at at you. It literally spells it out. How horrible.

@LuluBlakey1

Post it back with a note that says 'This was left at our house yesterday. Think it must be yours.'

Do this.

What a bitch!

Wow, what was her expression when you opened it? It’s so bad it’s actually quite funny, she is obviously deranged!

YANBU.

Lots of interesting ideas for it, quite like giving it animals, sending it back with her though if there is a removable cover and the pillow part is good, you could get a nicer cover for it, then reuse that shite to rewrap her next 'present'.

@Missey85

Sorry but that's hilarious! Not everything is personal you know?

A gift should be personal.

So best case scenario, the gift giver is thoughtless and tactless.