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OH forgot to bring DDs Christmas gifts

167 replies

Veeveeoxox · 25/12/2021 00:20

We are staying at a relatives house 3 hours away DD is going away snowboarding tomorrow night
I'm travelling separately she won't get to play with her gifts until she gets back. I told my OH to put her gifts in the car after we leave so she doesn't know and thinks Santa has been. I've just asked OH to get the gifts out of the car and put under relatives tree and he said he hasn't bought them with him he's put them under our tree for some stupid fucking reason . I'm going to have drive the 3 hours there and 3 hours back aren't I ? My poor DD I'm heartbroken for her she hasn't got anything to open on Xmas day and I feel like a shitty mother for not checking. I'm livid.

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CaptainCarp · 25/12/2021 00:21

Make him drive there & back for being an idiot?

DoucheCanoe · 25/12/2021 00:21

Oh no! Is DD old enough to understand?

I'd be making him do the drive tbh!

ShittyGlitter · 25/12/2021 00:21

Why are you driving back and not OH?

HollowTalk · 25/12/2021 00:22

Why wasn't he made to turn around and fetch them?

ditalini · 25/12/2021 00:23

How old is dd? If under 12 then yes, sorry I think someone has to get them.

If over 12 then it can probably wait til early morning to leave, back by lunchtime.

Surely it's the one that fucked up that fetches though?

Original poster
Veeveeoxox · 25/12/2021 00:23

He said he won't because he needs to drive to Gatwick tomorrow she's 8 years old..I'm absolutely livid and heartbroken for her.

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Mumdiva99 · 25/12/2021 00:24

How old is she? Who is she going snow boarding with? (Probably not relevant).

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Veeveeoxox · 25/12/2021 00:25

She's going snowboarding with her dad (my OH) I'm not going as unfortunately I have to work.

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BlitheringBlathers · 25/12/2021 00:25

That's terrible, poor DD..and poor you, you're not a shitty mother!

I can't get my head around why he'd do that knowing his daughter wouldn't have anything to open on Christmas Day.
I'm with everyone else he should be driving back for them!!

Bouncer500 · 25/12/2021 00:25

I'd tell her santa had been to your house so they'll all be waiting for her when she gets back.

NotAgainUh · 25/12/2021 00:26

I'd lose my shit at him for that 😩

Sunshineandrainbow · 25/12/2021 00:26

The roads will be quiet, could you both go and share the driving?

NotAgainUh · 25/12/2021 00:26

@Bouncer500

I'd tell her santa had been to your house so they'll all be waiting for her when she gets back.
Oh that's a good idea! You forgot to write and tell him!
invisiblereally · 25/12/2021 00:27

Errrr...
DH didn't think it through- he's her parent too , you shouldn't need to think for him about her presents
DH didn't put her presents in the car as asked
If anyone returns to get her gifts, it'll be DH not you.

But Surely if she's old enough to go away snowboarding without you, she's old enough to cope with 'Santa delivered presents to our house- oh no!' (Not to relative's house.)

How old is she? I wouldn't drive another 6 hours tonight for anyone- you'll be too tired to drive safely, you'll be ratty tomorrow as too exhausted, why would anyone think that's a good idea. Let DH rescue his mistake and brazen it out as parents ... if you pull together you'll find a believable story!

Bouncer500 · 25/12/2021 00:27

Oh no wait. I thought she was a teenager as she is going snow boarding. If she is 8 I don't know what I would do. Had she presents from relatives to open?

Lex345 · 25/12/2021 00:29

I would be trying to get the presents to where she is by any means necessary-but just in case you can't- how about a back up plan? Could one of Santa's elves leave a note explaining he has left her presents under her own tree? Or make it into a game-a bit of a treasure hunt where she has to work out where her presents are because Santa has noticed how clever she is?
I am grasping at straws for you, I would be heartbroken and would be kicking up a hell of a fuss to get them.

FallonCarringtonWannabe · 25/12/2021 00:29

Have the relatives not got her a present?

Yellownotblue · 25/12/2021 00:31

OP we used to do Christmas abroad with family when kids were little. We told them that Santa would visit while we were away, so presents would be waiting for them at home. They were not thrilled but they went with the flow. And they were absolutely delighted when we flew home and they found their presents under the tree 😁

Presumably your relatives will have at least some small presents for DD to open on Xmas morning?

MoiraNotRuby · 25/12/2021 00:31

What are the presents, is there any way of cobbling together something? Print off pictures of what they are? And wrap up some chocolates if your relative has anything like that?

VeganVampire · 25/12/2021 00:32

Both go, share the driving and you'll both get 3 hours sleep/rest.

ditalini · 25/12/2021 00:32

My 8 yr old would be utterly crushed. I'd be in the car already tbh.

Only go if you can drive safely obv.

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Veeveeoxox · 25/12/2021 00:32

He's bought the relatives presents as well which DD knows about so her cousins will be opening presents from us while she has sweet fuck all !! I'm absolutely livid I don't think I can do the 6 hour drive alone due to needing to drive back again tomorrow but I'm thinking of maybe driving to a service station and seeing if they have anything or withdrawing cash from petrol station and put in a Christmas card.

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Mumdiva99 · 25/12/2021 00:33

Oh no. She's only young. But a 6 hour drive is not doable now. Does she have any presents from others to open?

SleepingStandingUp · 25/12/2021 00:34

Has she not got presents from the family you're staying with?

AgathaMystery · 25/12/2021 00:34

She’s 8 years old - someone has to go back & get them. I hope he’s on his way. The roads will be really quiet and hopefully the return journey will be done in under 6 hours. Good luck OP. I would be incandescent with fury.