OH forgot to bring DDs Christmas gifts

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We are staying at a relatives house 3 hours away DD is going away snowboarding tomorrow night
I'm travelling separately she won't get to play with her gifts until she gets back. I told my OH to put her gifts in the car after we leave so she doesn't know and thinks Santa has been. I've just asked OH to get the gifts out of the car and put under relatives tree and he said he hasn't bought them with him he's put them under our tree for some stupid fucking reason . I'm going to have drive the 3 hours there and 3 hours back aren't I ? My poor DD I'm heartbroken for her she hasn't got anything to open on Xmas day and I feel like a shitty mother for not checking. I'm livid.

Why isn't he sweating blood trying to come up with something?

I'd do the drive, especially if everyone else has stuff to open and she won't. :(

Oh my god I'm not surprised you're livid
My child is 8 I can only imagine the disappointment if she got nothing from Santa
You'd have to go back or certainly he will or both

Do you have anyone close to home who would be willing to get the gifts and drive to meet you half way? Or even ask them just to do the 1 hour journey?

Such a nightmare for you xxx

OP has anyone close to your house got a key? That could load presents into an Uber?

You cannot drive for 6 hours straight after being awake all day.

Could you re-label the cousins presents and give them to her instead if any are suitable?

Put cash into a card and write a note to say her extra presents are waiting for her at home. I wouldn’t be driving back. It’s a lesson in patience. One day you will laugh about it (but not for 10 years) and she will get a little cash bonus out of it too x

Can you drive home now, stay the night at yours, get up up 7 and drive back to dd. No one opens any presents until you get back

I’m so sorry. What an awful position to be in. Is there any way you can explain to her that Santa got a bit confused and left his presents for her at home? Maybe get your OH to write a letter in fancy writing explaining how sorry Santa is for his mistake and that he left her some lovely presents under the tree in her own house?

@Veeveeoxox

He's bought the relatives presents as well which DD knows about so her cousins will be opening presents from us while she has sweet fuck all !! I'm absolutely livid I don't think I can do the 6 hour drive alone due to needing to drive back again tomorrow but I'm thinking of maybe driving to a service station and seeing if they have anything or withdrawing cash from petrol station and put in a Christmas card.

Don’t buy her extra crap. Just tell her that Santa has been to your house (if that’s the way you do presents for her) and left her stuff there and big up the trip she going on later in the day. She’ll still have a few gifts from her cousins won’t she?

Your boyfriend is a shitty father for this. Surely he’s fixing his fuck up?

Is there anything at all in the relative's house that could work for now? Also you could leave her a letter from Santa saying he got the dates wrong and has left her presents at home as he thought she was going on holiday after Christmas. Then stick some money in an envelope from Santa. Which part of the country are you in?

Can OH get her something on holiday? Can relatives sub you some money to put in a card?

The service station idea isn’t bad. You might get her a stockings worth of books, chocolates and other bits. Then tell her that the main presents are all at home. And give your presents for your husband to someone else!

Yes someone has to go sorry.

I genuinely think I’d leave DH if he did this and wasn’t immediately trying to rectify it. But honestly I know he’d have jumped back in the car the minute he realised. How sad for your DD that he’s not prepared to do that.

Why are men so useless??? Sorry that's not helpful but it's never women who fuck up like this.

Go with him and tou take it on turns to drive. Or he does the whole thing and takes a taxi to Gatwick.

I’m sorry OP, I’d be furious too but I’m afraid someone will have to drive to get them. I can’t believe anyone would expect an 8 year old to wake up on Christmas Day with no presents! I think it would be safer for you both to go though and since it’s his mistake he can’t expect you to do it all!

He said he won't because he needs to drive to Gatwick tomorrow
...and???...

He should have used his solo brain cell then shouldn't he!!!

She's going snowboarding tomorrow. Does she need any new bits for that?

I'd do the Santa Nite myself...

'I'm SO sorry to have messed up & left your presents under your tree, instead if bringing them here!! I hear you're going snowboarding though, I've left some money for you to buy a new hat/gloves/goggles and your presents will be under your Christmas tree when you get home. Really, really, sorry Santa x

But ask relative to write it because kids recognise their parents handwriting!

He'd not hear the end of this until at least Christmas 2050. Idiot.

A six-hour drive is ridiculous.

You are over-invested in Christmas nonsense.

Let your DD know the truth.

Oh, and you didn't bring the presents either.

Has anyone got a key for your house? Could you get them to put the gifts in a taxi?

DP pays, obviously…

Gosh yes I agree with Pegasus - I’d be genuinely reconsidering being with someone thoughtless enough to leave my child’s Christmas presents at home and then stubbornly refusing to rectify it in the face of - presumably his - little girl being utterly crushed on Christmas morning.

@CraftyGin

A six-hour drive is ridiculous.

You are over-invested in Christmas nonsense.

Let your DD know the truth.

Oh, and you didn't bring the presents either.

I sort of agree with that. A six hour drive is ridiculous. She will get get her presents eventually.

Oh no!!!! What a disaster. My 9 year old would be heartbroken. You poor poor thing but I think someone needs to go back. Good luck!