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OH forgot to bring DDs Christmas gifts

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Veeveeoxox · 25/12/2021 00:20

We are staying at a relatives house 3 hours away DD is going away snowboarding tomorrow night
I'm travelling separately she won't get to play with her gifts until she gets back. I told my OH to put her gifts in the car after we leave so she doesn't know and thinks Santa has been. I've just asked OH to get the gifts out of the car and put under relatives tree and he said he hasn't bought them with him he's put them under our tree for some stupid fucking reason . I'm going to have drive the 3 hours there and 3 hours back aren't I ? My poor DD I'm heartbroken for her she hasn't got anything to open on Xmas day and I feel like a shitty mother for not checking. I'm livid.

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Veeveeoxox · 25/12/2021 01:25

Crisis averted I think , did a little note explaining the mishap from Santa and telling her to check her Roblox account. OH managed to source some sweets from the service station. I have put some money in the note and also £22 in robux as she's always asking for it and I keep saying no. It's not perfect and I'm still upset but she will be really happy to have some robux , cash and sweets. I forgot to say she also got a new laptop which she opened on the 23rd as she was going on holiday so she hasn't had nothing . A new tablet , sewing machine and other bits will be waiting when she gets home .

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Lockdownbear · 25/12/2021 01:25

What did you eventually decide to do?
6hr round trip is bonkers especially since she's going away and won't get time to do much with them.
I think I'd do the service station and see what you could rumble up.

Underthestairsbears · 25/12/2021 01:27

Do you have a neighbour with a key?

Would neighbour put it in a taxi or can you bribe a friend - skint student to drive it to you or halfway as PP suggested?

immersivereader · 25/12/2021 01:27

What's his solution?? Does he have any??

I'm sorry but shit like this makes me fucking livivd - men fuck up and women fix it. He should be driving six hours, not you.

And as a pp said, why is it men who 'forget' this shit? Answer? Because they are not prioritising it. It's not important to them, the men. Hence the screw up.

Underthestairsbears · 25/12/2021 01:27

Oops crosspost
You sound sorted

Lockdownbear · 25/12/2021 01:32

Cross posted, sounds a good solution!

Totallydefeated · 25/12/2021 01:33

I’m not sure I could forgive him.

Bad enough that he didn’t think through how his 8 year old would feel on Christmas morning when she saw Santa had forgotten her, and left her presents at home, like a fucking eejit. But the fact he refused to put things right and prioritised himself over her, happy for her to be disappointed, would lead me to kick him into orbit, quite frankly. What a prince.

Yellownotblue · 25/12/2021 01:33

Your 8 year old already got a laptop, and is also getting a tablet, sowing machine and other bits?

I think you were being way over dramatic about the forgotten presents. Try and keep things in perspective - it’s no good crying over spilt milk.

Also did you ever answer the question many posters asked - is your DD getting any presents from the relatives you’re staying with?

Obsidiansphere · 25/12/2021 01:34

Father Christmas has left the presents there by mistake? Oh dear what a mess up. I’d make him drive home to get them likely if it were me.

Obsidiansphere · 25/12/2021 01:35

Oops!!! Didn’t read the update…crisis averted

DistrustfulDinosaur · 25/12/2021 01:38

That's a decent haul for an 8 year old, I'm sure she won't mind. At that age I would have appreciated presents spaced out over a few days. Nice catch with the roblox - if it's not something she's normally allowed it will be that bit extra special. Driving 6 hours to retrieve the gifts would be OTT, but admittedly your OH was a bit daft not to think to just bring the presents in the first place!

ferrychristmas · 25/12/2021 01:39

He could buy her a tablet at Gatwick, and return the one at he under the tree. So she has one for the holiday.

I am sure she'll be fine with what you e sorted out - she is doing very well in all and handling minor disappointment is good for kids

GatoradeMeBitch · 25/12/2021 01:40

I'd tell her that Santa would have left her presents at home, and the bits she gets tomorrow are from you both. If you're going home before she gets back you could send her a photo of the boxes under the tree.

Twolostsoulsswimminginafishbow · 25/12/2021 01:47

Our Christmas getaway is to SIL’s house three hundred miles away. It takes six hours to get there. We always do it at night, usually following a full day at work. It really isn’t that far. I’d have been in the car like a shot rather than have my eight year old wake up to no presents on Christmas Day.

MrsTerryPratchett · 25/12/2021 01:48

@Yellownotblue

Your 8 year old already got a laptop, and is also getting a tablet, sowing machine and other bits?

I think you were being way over dramatic about the forgotten presents. Try and keep things in perspective - it’s no good crying over spilt milk.

Also did you ever answer the question many posters asked - is your DD getting any presents from the relatives you’re staying with?

Do you have children? Have you ever met any?
Eggshausted · 25/12/2021 01:48

@Veeveeoxox

Crisis averted I think , did a little note explaining the mishap from Santa and telling her to check her Roblox account. OH managed to source some sweets from the service station. I have put some money in the note and also £22 in robux as she's always asking for it and I keep saying no. It's not perfect and I'm still upset but she will be really happy to have some robux , cash and sweets. I forgot to say she also got a new laptop which she opened on the 23rd as she was going on holiday so she hasn't had nothing . A new tablet , sewing machine and other bits will be waiting when she gets home .
A laptop, a tablet, a sewing machine, a snowboarding holiday? Not exactly hard done by.

Just explain that she has had her main present, the lap top, and there will be stuff waiting when she gets home from her holiday…

Wherehasthecommonsensegone · 25/12/2021 01:57

@Yellownotblue

Your 8 year old already got a laptop, and is also getting a tablet, sowing machine and other bits?

I think you were being way over dramatic about the forgotten presents. Try and keep things in perspective - it’s no good crying over spilt milk.

Also did you ever answer the question many posters asked - is your DD getting any presents from the relatives you’re staying with?

Agreed. The way it was written I thought she’d be getting nothing at all until she’s back.

Children are a lot more resilient than we give them credit for. I’ve never had a patient (I’m a therapist) be traumatised by getting presents late so I’m sure she’ll be fine.

Toddlerteaplease · 25/12/2021 01:58

A laptop, tablet, sewing machine and a snowboarding trip. For an eight year old?! Hmm

Hadjab · 25/12/2021 02:07

@AgathaMystery

Am I the only person who thinks a 6hr drive to save Xmas is totally doable? It’s nothing compared to a little 8yr old with nothing to open tomorrow whilst she watches all her cousins get their gifts.
Yep, totally worth falling asleep at the wheel for…
LowlandsAway · 25/12/2021 02:16

Oof, bit of a drip feed regarding how much expensive stuff she is getting (and has already opened). Not surprised now your OH wouldn’t go back, she isn’t exactly being deprived!

backtolifebacktoreality · 25/12/2021 02:24

@Veeveeoxox

Crisis averted I think , did a little note explaining the mishap from Santa and telling her to check her Roblox account. OH managed to source some sweets from the service station. I have put some money in the note and also £22 in robux as she's always asking for it and I keep saying no. It's not perfect and I'm still upset but she will be really happy to have some robux , cash and sweets. I forgot to say she also got a new laptop which she opened on the 23rd as she was going on holiday so she hasn't had nothing . A new tablet , sewing machine and other bits will be waiting when she gets home .

And she's going snowboarding too.

She's hardly struggling with no presents!

phishy · 25/12/2021 02:34

‘Heartbroken’ when she’s had a laptop and also getting a snowboarding holiday, tablet, sewing machine and Roblox and cash? Ok Hmm

Toucan123 · 25/12/2021 02:44

This was a ridiculously dramatic thread about a child who turned out to have already been given a laptop and is about to be taken snowboarding Confused

Kuachui · 25/12/2021 03:05

i mean hes a bit stupid isnt he. why cant they just use they're heads??

user1481840227 · 25/12/2021 03:11

@phishy

‘Heartbroken’ when she’s had a laptop and also getting a snowboarding holiday, tablet, sewing machine and Roblox and cash? Ok Hmm
Well the child had probably gone to bed expecting presents at that point with everyone more than likely discussing Santa several times, of course in that situation a parent might be heartbroken for their child and feel like they're going to be upset on Christmas morning.

The same presents but where the situation had been explained to the child in advance and her going to sleep knowing the situation and neither the mother or child would be upset!