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OH forgot to bring DDs Christmas gifts

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Veeveeoxox · 25/12/2021 00:20

We are staying at a relatives house 3 hours away DD is going away snowboarding tomorrow night
I'm travelling separately she won't get to play with her gifts until she gets back. I told my OH to put her gifts in the car after we leave so she doesn't know and thinks Santa has been. I've just asked OH to get the gifts out of the car and put under relatives tree and he said he hasn't bought them with him he's put them under our tree for some stupid fucking reason . I'm going to have drive the 3 hours there and 3 hours back aren't I ? My poor DD I'm heartbroken for her she hasn't got anything to open on Xmas day and I feel like a shitty mother for not checking. I'm livid.

OP posts:
tobedtoMN · 25/12/2021 08:20

@MsTSwift

Is there time to go to a local charity shop ? You can find good stuff there so she has something to open. Think that’s what I would do. Mum did this once but was presents for son in laws she was in tears but they were adult men so was fine but 8 year old different!
Que?? 🤣🤣🤣
OrlandointheWilderness · 25/12/2021 08:23

Amazing how many posters are sympathetic until they find out what her DD is actually getting. It isn't the child's fault she has parents who can spend money on her, and quite frankly if I could afford to do the same for mine at Christmas I bloody well would!

lap90 · 25/12/2021 08:23

After the drip feed you were being unreasonable with the talk of 6 hour drives which would have been unnecessary considering your daughter was able to open a main gift a few days ago.
Glad you got her some small bits for today though!
Between the laptop, the bits you got her, and jetting away today i'm sure she'll be perfectly fine and will be too occupied to ponder on it too much.
Merry Christmas!

toomuchlaundry · 25/12/2021 08:25

@OrlandointheWilderness I think it is more that the DD has already had her main present, the laptop. So it is not like she hasn’t received anything

Beck30 · 25/12/2021 08:53

Interested to know how the laptop was presented a couple of days earlier; did Santa call by a few days ago as he knew he would be so busy on Xmas Eve?

G5000 · 25/12/2021 08:57

he doesn’t believe in santa so I don’t have to cover that aspect, but its really the only thing he wanted. I did the four hour roubd trip to collect it

A 4 hour trip to collect something for a child who knows it's not santa and where 'sorry we forgot, you'll get the present tomorrow' would be sufficient? You are certainly a much more ..selfless and devoted parent than I would ever be.

Simonjt · 25/12/2021 08:59

@G5000

he doesn’t believe in santa so I don’t have to cover that aspect, but its really the only thing he wanted. I did the four hour roubd trip to collect it

A 4 hour trip to collect something for a child who knows it's not santa and where 'sorry we forgot, you'll get the present tomorrow' would be sufficient? You are certainly a much more ..selfless and devoted parent than I would ever be.

He’s six, its the only thing hes asked for, we won’t be going home until the 4th January.
R0tational · 25/12/2021 09:09

Best Christmas Thread.

Toohardtofindaproperusername · 25/12/2021 09:15

Father of 8 year old doesnt think its important for daughter to have presents on xmas morning. Crap. Not excusable. 8 years old. Money isn't a good present or replaceable option.
Sad for your daughter... and for you in having such a selfish oh ... 8 years old. What was his. hikshood like taht he finds ot ok to not prioritise daughters needs on xmas morning

Original poster
Veeveeoxox · 25/12/2021 09:15

DD knows that the really big present of the laptop was a joint present from us and grandparents as I wouldn't want her telling other children she got a laptop from Santa. I think I was getting a bit OTT I just felt in the moment she would be very upset but this morning shes so happy with Robux she's literally hopping and skipping.

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G5000 · 25/12/2021 09:18

I have a 6yo. Her main wish was a skateboard. We are flying so I was not going to lug it around, she knows santa took some presents directly to our house and has no issues with it. Excited to go home. Kids can be quite reasonable.

AgentJohnson · 25/12/2021 09:24

@Toucan123 Amen!

Greyhare · 25/12/2021 09:30

My parents forgot to put the presents in the car when we went to stay with my grandparents (my brother got his main present but only because it was hidden in the car boot to stop him finding it), I was around the same age, and yes I remember being disappointed but got over it quite quickly but I still like to remind to this day about the Christmas I had no presents it's only been 40 years.

GoIntoTheLight · 25/12/2021 09:31

A good chance to teach your child some resilience. Not that hard when you can console her about the laptop and the upcoming snowboarding trip! No fucking way would I be driving through the night. Mistakes happen and eight is old enough to understand that life isn’t perfect, even on Christmas Day.

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 25/12/2021 09:31

is it national useless man day? So many useless OH posts today. make him drive back the useless twat.

Whitefire · 25/12/2021 09:31

@G5000

he doesn’t believe in santa so I don’t have to cover that aspect, but its really the only thing he wanted. I did the four hour roubd trip to collect it

A 4 hour trip to collect something for a child who knows it's not santa and where 'sorry we forgot, you'll get the present tomorrow' would be sufficient? You are certainly a much more ..selfless and devoted parent than I would ever be.

And seeing that it was on the doormat outside the flat it probably was the best thing that she went back.
FallonCarringtonWannabe · 25/12/2021 09:31

Money isn't a good present or replaceable option
My children counting their cash this morning would beg to differ. My ds only asked for three things. One of which was what I would consider to be a ridiculous amount of vbucks. He is delighted with them and has had a shopping spree of outfits. What looks meh to us is often important and special to children.

What op’s child’s presents actually were are nobody else's concern so stop your bitterness. I pretty sure the OH must enjoy snowboarding too, or why would he take her, so it isnt just a gift for her.

All op needed last night was calming down, as she was understandably annoyed and upset, and solutions. Im sure they'll have a great day now.

ScribblingPixie · 25/12/2021 09:59

Happy Christmas, OP. Enjoy the day together as family. Your daughter's not bothered so take your OH off the hook and let it go!

PalmedOlive · 25/12/2021 10:05

I can’t get over that people are suggesting op leaves her husband because he forgot the Christmas presents 😳 B’jesus - overreaction much?!?!

ChiefStockingStuffer · 25/12/2021 10:09

Having seen the list of stuff she's gotten and still getting, plus a snowboarding holiday they're flying out for, I don't think she can be considered deprived.

traka · 25/12/2021 10:21

The truth has eventually come out, thanks for drip feeding op

Your daughter is not only going on a snowboarding holiday, she's already had a laptop, she's then also having a tablet and a sewing machine

The laptop alone which she got on the 23rd will be much more than a lot of children receive. I think this post was quite attention seeking. When we leave the house we always double check, we're a team

A simple reminder this morning that she's had her laptop would have been fine plus she's going on holiday tmw. The whole thing sounds extremely materialistic and sets the standard for years to come

LetHimHaveIt · 25/12/2021 10:24

He bought some sweets from the petrol station, fgs, he didn't 'source' them 🙄

With the drip feed about the laptop already received, snowboarding holiday and sewing machine at home, I can't help but feel you love a spot of drama and hyperbole, honestly . . .

Hankunamatata · 25/12/2021 10:24

Bit if a drip feed op that she already has been given a laptop

Waterfallgirl · 25/12/2021 10:25

@MsTSwift

Is there time to go to a local charity shop ? You can find good stuff there so she has something to open. Think that’s what I would do. Mum did this once but was presents for son in laws she was in tears but they were adult men so was fine but 8 year old different!
It’s Christmas Day- in what other universe is a charity shop open!?
Bellringer · 25/12/2021 10:32

Give her his present. Or keep all yours for late xmas at home. Is he fit to take her snowboarding, sounds like an idiot?