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OH forgot to bring DDs Christmas gifts

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Veeveeoxox · 25/12/2021 00:20

We are staying at a relatives house 3 hours away DD is going away snowboarding tomorrow night
I'm travelling separately she won't get to play with her gifts until she gets back. I told my OH to put her gifts in the car after we leave so she doesn't know and thinks Santa has been. I've just asked OH to get the gifts out of the car and put under relatives tree and he said he hasn't bought them with him he's put them under our tree for some stupid fucking reason . I'm going to have drive the 3 hours there and 3 hours back aren't I ? My poor DD I'm heartbroken for her she hasn't got anything to open on Xmas day and I feel like a shitty mother for not checking. I'm livid.

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Fairunibutterfly · 25/12/2021 03:28

Yep, I agree with this.

I would have panicked in the moment as it seems op did when posting. But sounds like she took some time to think it through and came to a solution that works.

RosieLemonade · 25/12/2021 05:40

Wow she sounds utterly spoilt.

MuchuseasaChocolateTeapot · 25/12/2021 05:41

@ferrychristmas

He could buy her a tablet at Gatwick, and return the one at he under the tree. So she has one for the holiday.

I am sure she'll be fine with what you e sorted out - she is doing very well in all and handling minor disappointment is good for kids

Great idea!
ballsdeep · 25/12/2021 05:51

@Toddlerteaplease

A laptop, tablet, sewing machine and a snowboarding trip. For an eight year old?! Hmm
Why the face? It's ops choice what to get her child.

I wondered how long it would be until the comments started about the presents!!

I'm glad it's sorted op and have a lovely Christmas.

EmmaGrundyForPM · 25/12/2021 06:11

DH did this one year. I took kids to my parents on the 23rd, he was coming to join us after work on the 24th. I had DC's presents in 2 black bags at the bottom of my wardrobe. I asked DH to bring them when he came.

He arrived on Christmas Eve at about 8 o'clock. We eventually got the kids off to sleep about 10, then I asked DH to get the presents in front his car. He reappeared with one sack, not two. He'd not realises there were two sacks and had only brought DS2s presents.

I remember standing in my parents lounge shouting "I buy all the fucking presents, I wrap all the fucking presents, all you have to do us bring the funking presents and you've fucked that up". Not my finest moment but I was livid.

Luckily DH hadn't been drinking so.he did get in the car and make the 3 hour round trip. He got back to my parents at about 1.30, by which time I'd calmed down.

Simonjt · 25/12/2021 06:29

This has happened to us, when unpacking the presents last night I realised my sons main present was missing, he doesn’t believe in santa so I don’t have to cover that aspect, but its really the only thing he wanted.

I did the four hour roubd trip to collect it, it was on the floor outside our flat with a little note to say it had been found in our parking space, so it had obviously fallen out, or just been missed when I was packing the car.

If he’s already had gifts like your daughter I would have left it as well, I hope she enjoys her holiday.

Saoirse82 · 25/12/2021 06:36

I honestly would be rethinking my whole relationship with a man who wouldn't share a 6 hour drive with me to save Xmas for our DD, an 8 year old who in all liklihood this will be the last Xmas where she really believes in santa. So he didn't care enough that she'd wake up with nothing on Xmas morning while her cousins all opened their gifts? Id never look at him the way after that. Glad you were able to source something though OP and at least she'll be excited to go snowboarding

Lockdownbear · 25/12/2021 06:56

I can't believe so many people think setting off at midnight for a 6 hr drive is in anyway a sensible idea.
Midnight after possibly a full day at work and what was already a 3 hour drive.
Better trying to dig your way out the hole than to risk falling asleep at the wheel.

Op hope you have a good Christmas, you will laugh in the future about it.

Shiningpath · 25/12/2021 07:19

She was hardly going to whip up a frock on Xmas morning was she? Very grown up presents for an 8 year old I’m sure she’ll be mature enough to cope with a sub until she gets back from her lovely holiday. She’s a lucky girl too. The holiday is more than most people are getting this year.

toomuchlaundry · 25/12/2021 07:23

Maybe OH thought as she had had her laptop early and she was going on holiday today, she didn’t really need a sewing machine today and it could wait until she got back. It would be worse if she didn’t have things she needed for her holiday eg passport (assuming going abroad)

phishy · 25/12/2021 07:26

@Shiningpath

She was hardly going to whip up a frock on Xmas morning was she?

Grin

Very grown up presents for an 8 year old I’m sure she’ll be mature enough to cope with a sub until she gets back from her lovely holiday.

Exactly. Nothing to be ‘heartbroken’ about.

RAOK · 25/12/2021 07:27

@Toucan123

This was a ridiculously dramatic thread about a child who turned out to have already been given a laptop and is about to be taken snowboarding Confused
This!
londonrach · 25/12/2021 07:30

I have a five year old...I'm not carrying her presents back and forth. We took one and told her rest by when we return from family. Stocking etc coming. Does your daughter have anything to open as I'd just tell her they waiting under her tree. Six hours is alot

Shiningpath · 25/12/2021 07:31

Don’t think I’ve ever seen a thread do such a 180 after a drip feed: from “YOU MUST SAVE CHRISTMAS” to “nah, she’s got enough, back to bed”. Grin

MsTSwift · 25/12/2021 07:33

Is there time to go to a local charity shop ? You can find good stuff there so she has something to open. Think that’s what I would do. Mum did this once but was presents for son in laws she was in tears but they were adult men so was fine but 8 year old different!

anon12345678901 · 25/12/2021 07:34

@Toucan123

This was a ridiculously dramatic thread about a child who turned out to have already been given a laptop and is about to be taken snowboarding Confused
Yep.
toomuchlaundry · 25/12/2021 07:35

Where are charity shops open on Christmas Day?

StrangerThanSpring · 25/12/2021 07:40

Well, from the sounds of her presents, I doubt charity shop gifts would cut it.

I'm sure she will have something from her cousins will have gotten her something to open. I'm sure she'll be fine.

BeardyButton · 25/12/2021 07:42

@RosieLemonade

Wow she sounds utterly spoilt.
No! Spoiled is an outcome. It’s when a character is made vicious by the actions of others. I don’t know OP or her child so can’t comment on that. But your comment? About an 8 yr old? At Christmas? Now that smacks of a spoiled character.

Glad you got it sorted OP. There’s always the envious on MN. What you choose to give your child is your business.

phishy · 25/12/2021 07:57

It’s not about envy (I don’t agree the dd is spoilt). It’s the dressing up of this non-event up as something to be ‘heartbroken’ about by OP.

I will get slated for this, but there are children actually freezing to death in Afghanistan right now.

The DEC have just launched an appeal to raise money for tents, reading OP’s thread after reading the DEC appeal was upsetting.

Briony123 · 25/12/2021 07:58

Tell OH to explain what he did and buy her something at the airport. A ski holiday is surely far more exciting than some presents - I know it used to be for my 8 yr olds!

notanothertakeaway · 25/12/2021 08:05

@Veeveeoxox

Crisis averted I think , did a little note explaining the mishap from Santa and telling her to check her Roblox account. OH managed to source some sweets from the service station. I have put some money in the note and also £22 in robux as she's always asking for it and I keep saying no. It's not perfect and I'm still upset but she will be really happy to have some robux , cash and sweets. I forgot to say she also got a new laptop which she opened on the 23rd as she was going on holiday so she hasn't had nothing . A new tablet , sewing machine and other bits will be waiting when she gets home .
That sounds far more sensible than a 6 hour drive
BarbaraofSeville · 25/12/2021 08:09

I'm more shocked about people talking about getting the presents put in a taxi.

Talk about a sledgehammer to crack a nut. She's probably getting to the age where she doesn't really believe in Santa anyway. But if she does, just tell her you're really sorry but he delivered to your own house by mistake and they'll be waiting for her after her holiday.

Dreamstate · 25/12/2021 08:10

What a load of drama for no reason. Get a grip. In the end your child wasn't even heartbroken by what you have her given her.

Shit happens he forgot. I forget stuff sometimes. Doesn't make me utterly useless or mean I'm a shit partner.

RogueV · 25/12/2021 08:20

@CraftyGin

A six-hour drive is ridiculous.

You are over-invested in Christmas nonsense.

Let your DD know the truth.

Oh, and you didn't bring the presents either.

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