To think it's unacceptable so many women cry in the workplace?

[ttcpatronisers]

I work in an office of approx 40 people. Half of them roughly are women.

Of the Half, the majority have cried in the workplace - many on multiple occasions and often when they are in the wrong about a situation.

I find this unprofessional and odd. Of the men, one has cried.

Why do women cry so often at work? Is it because there's some truth in us being unable to control our emotions? Is it because we fell it's accepted in society for women to cry? Or is it because we attention? Know we can get what we want when we cry as it softens a situation?

Honestly, I find it very odd and annoying. I feel it undermines us in the workplace.

I also find it incredibly unprofessional. Now obviously if something really bad has happened it's a different story but often these tears are because of minor events.

AIBU - crying at work isn't unprofessional
YANBU - people should hold their emotions together and perhaps go to the toilet and cry

I think the question should be why are so many people crying at work shouldn’t it?

What’s going on in the workplace and how can people be supported better?

I would much prefer to never cry at work, I have done but agree it is unprofessional.

It's certainly not deliberately to manipulate in my case, though it may have a softening effect (I doubt it, I think it makes people see you as more incompetent, not more sympathetic).

YABU

@ineedsun I've just explained it's usually when they've got something wrong - ie made a mistake or they're having personal issues outside work so are crying in work. It's not the workplace that's the issue - as I'm a woman and I'm not crying and don't see anything untoward going on with the other women there.

And if it was the company, then the men would be crying too?

What kind of awful workplace do you have that people are crying all over the shop?

I’ve only seen one woman cry at work, and it was the worst place I have ever worked and I hated every fucking second of it.

The person crying was definitely crying crocodile tears and was a complete and utter cock.

Why are they crying?

Are there lots of people doing unpleasant things? Because I’d say that’s unprofessional.

It massively annoys me that men ranting and raving typically gets none of the stick that women crying does…

[quote ttcpatronisers]@ineedsun I've just explained it's usually when they've got something wrong - ie made a mistake or they're having personal issues outside work so are crying in work. It's not the workplace that's the issue - as I'm a woman and I'm not crying and don't see anything untoward going on with the other women there.

And if it was the company, then the men would be crying too? [/quote]
But this isn’t a normal level of crying at work, one or two perhaps but that sort or percentage is a lot. Sounds like there is something going on in the workplace that people are stressed enough to cry if they make a mistake.

I've never seen anyone cry at work. Where you work sounds hellish!

Oh ffs people I've just explained - theu are crying because they've made a mistake in their job for example - or they are causing a problem or - they're having marital problems.

It is NOT a company thing - can we just accept that?

Where the hell do you work?

The only time I've seen anyone cry at work anywhere is when we got horrible and unexpected news that one of our colleagues had died suddenly.

I’d be more concerned that you’re working in an environment that makes a lot of people cry.

YABU.

The question should be, 'Why do so many women have such an utterly shit time at work that it often reduces them to tears?'

I'd never cry at work I'd rather die.
I work in the NHS and quite a few men cry too.

I've never seen someone cry in work. What kind of weird place do you work?

This is very odd.

I've never seen anyone cry at work, massive corporate jobs worked for decades.

Do you work in a particularly bullying environment?

We don't have to pretend to be men, I cry very easily it's an instant relief I pull myself together and then get on with it. I wish more men were like me not the other way round. Feminism no longer means we need to try and be men, we are not inferior copies of men. Our natural attributes and behaviours need to become more normal in the work place.

In the case of the office I worked in it was because our female line manager was a misogynist psycho who enjoyed making other women cry .

Gosh, I do hope you’re not in a management role!

While crying at work is a bit unprofessional, it is unavoidable over a long career for a fairly large amount of people in stressful roles. I work in finance and nearly all women including senior ones (and some men) will admit to having cried at work once or twice.

The “acceptable male equivalent” is shouting and anger, which I find much worse.

Crying is a normal, healthy way to express emotion.

When I got divorced I cried at work quite a lot- I was very sad and emotional. I obviously took myself off to the loos for the most part but luckily for me my colleagues were far more sympathetic than you and didn’t make sweeping generalisations about my professionalism.

I've only known women cry at work if they've had a good reason to. While I've never known a man to I'd say that's because they handle their emotions badly, either bottling it up or converting it to rage - I've known a few men go the shouting/ hitting things route instead. Personally I'd rather be around someone crying instead.

Img this thread is already getting ridiculous. I've explained the reasons why people are crying. These people are generally happy in their jobs and for example - one has an alcoholic husband so cried because of it. Another had a knee that was hurting. It is NOT company related can we just accept that.

Now you either believe me - or continue to switch the narrative to suit.

You come across contemptuous and sexist.

Women do this thing, men don’t, why can’t women be more like men.

It sounds like your work systems should be improved if there are so many people making mistakes that have a big enough impact to bring them to tears. That doesn't sound like a good place to work

Maybe they work with horribly unsympathetic colleagues?

Just a thought.