DP bought present for ex not me

[Cocopogo]

We said we wouldn’t do presents as we’ve just gone halves on something fairly large, not too expensive about £100 each which we can easily afford. DP is currently saving for a new car he’s getting early next year.
I have bought him something, which I know was my choice but now I’ve found out he’s bought something for his ex (they are “just friends” but that’s a whole other thread) I’m feeling a bit sad that I won’t get anything.
AIBU to feel sad that he’s bought something for ex but not for me?

Why did you agree that he wouldn’t buy anything for your child? Curious what that it was you bought between you as you don’t live together.

Anyway YABU to buy him gifts when you have both agreed not to and then be upset he hasn’t bought you something, I would be upset about him not buying for DC but again that is on you if you made it part of the agreement.

The friend is a separate issue. It is tricky but comes down to whether you trust him or not. If a new partner expected me to give up a friend of many years I would say no as I would see it as a red flag and I am sure many others would too - and I am surprised so many are saying LTB. The level of gifts between them, may seem a bit much but is much less so if money isn’t really an issue for them. Presumably she knows about you? Have you met her?

How long have you been together?

For me it boils down to this.
The friend was a fuck buddy and there is always, always the undercurrent that at any given time they could again resume that status with each other, it would be very, very easy.
If the op had said it was his ex wife that would be different.
People do not get divorced at the drop of a hat. It is clear that for a couple to go through a divorce they have to be at the very end of their tether, nobody goes through a divorce lightly so the chances of such a relationship being re kindled are extremely rare.
The fuck buddy status can be resurrected very easily though. That is the real issue.
In your shoes op I'd get rid.
He's not worth it, she is in his life and human nature being what it is would mean it's too risky for me.

Personally, I couldn't imagine visiting children on Christmas Day empty handed, especially if they were such a big part of my life (and I would consider a partner's children, whom I had met and spent time with, even if not living with them, a big part of my life). I understand that was the agreement, but I just wouldn't have shown up empty ended, even if just a very small presents (chocolates or a book or something similar).

Not sure if I have missed this, but why did you make the agreement in the first place OP? Whose idea was it originally?

I hope you have a better day today :)

@Cocopogo

Well DP has just left and it was a pretty shit Xmas to be fair. He came round for about 3 hours. I asked him what he got for Xmas and he got some expensive aftershave and a shirt off the ex/friend, he had bought her some jewellery, like he usually does. He doesn’t buy/receive from anyone else. He brought a carrier bag in with him so DC got excited thinking it was a present for them so it was a bit awkward for a moment when he said no it’s not. All in all I know I have a lot to be grateful for but it just didn’t feel like Xmas at all with him.

So you're willing to let your child be hurt and disappointed by this random bloke strolling round to your house with a bag at Christmas that to any child would mean "it's a present" and not take action to get that waster out of your life?

Really, do you so lack in self-esteem to think that's all you deserve. You're setting up your child to expect the crumbs from someone's table and be "grateful" for it. Ask yourself if you're setting your child up for success or failure in life with those expectations. I'm actually beginning to doubt this thread it's so outrageous.

There is something meaningful when it comes to jewellery… men only buy it for the people who are more important to them. Otherwise they buy any other gift.

If you are not the OW, he us playing with both of you but certainly she is winning. For your own sake, let him go.