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“Please have lunch ready for 1pm. Thankyou.”

838 replies

diydh · 21/12/2021 16:22

I’m interested to know if anyone else’s husband would say this in the morning before disappearing into his office for several hours. Please be honest.

YABU - yes, fair enough
YANBU - no, he is being quite bossy

OP posts:
SummerHouse · 21/12/2021 16:45

He said please AND thank you. What more do you people want?! 😂

FavouriteMug · 21/12/2021 16:45

@1ofthosedayz

Ummm not twice...

GrinGrinGrin

ApolloandDaphne · 21/12/2021 16:46

He would never say that to me. Sometimes I check when he is going to be free to eat lunch and I have mine then too. On the odd occasion I can tell he is rammed with meetings and I offer to take him a sandwich. He would never ask me to have lunch ready though. He values his life!

Orreries · 21/12/2021 16:46

@diydh

Yes this is as I thought. And yes, his words were - “darling, please have lunch ready for one o’clock, Thankyou.’ Then he just sort of walks off.

He will think this is totally normal and he’s just trying to be helpful in communicating his schedule. That’s what he would say.

But don’t you have a schedule?

If I have a deadline and we’re both working from home, the only thing I’m likely to say is ‘Any indication you’re in the house is unwelcome, darling.’ And if either of us is that busy, we’ll make a coffee flask and a sandwich before the day starts.

TooMinty · 21/12/2021 16:47

@1ofthosedayz

Ummm not twice...

This!

SuspiciousScully · 21/12/2021 16:47

I guess he might possibly say it as a response if I'd asked him when he would like lunch because I'd be making it anyway...

Other than that? No, never.

If he needed lunch for a certain time he'd make or buy his own (or maybe take leftovers if he'd checked I had no plans for them).

RandomMess · 21/12/2021 16:48

I'd be raging.

Where's the "would you be able to make lunch today for 1pm?"

It was an issued instruction not a request!!! He clearly thinks he's your employer.

Topseyt · 21/12/2021 16:48

No. We usually each make our own lunch at whatever time we each like.

PumpkinCrumble · 21/12/2021 16:49

Honestly…No.

bestdhever · 21/12/2021 16:49

🤣🤣🤣 nope

TokyoDreaming · 21/12/2021 16:50

I'd be getting something ready and it wouldn't be his lunch.

gogohm · 21/12/2021 16:50

My unless you had offered first

Youdoyoutoday · 21/12/2021 16:50

My DP takes his break at 1pm and I will have lunch ready for all of us most of the time. He will tell me if it has to move and I tell him when I can't do it so he has to fend for himself.

He's never once demanded lunch be ready at 1pm though!

Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 21/12/2021 16:50

At 1 pm I would have sent him pics of the food cupboards and fridge and told him to come help himself..

PickAChew · 21/12/2021 16:51

I usually make dh's lunch for him since I'm making everyone else's, anyhow but if he spoke to me like staff he'd be making his own fucking lunch.

Diditreallylookawful · 21/12/2021 16:52

My eyebrows shot up at what he said. I'm still waiting for them to come down.

EveningOverRooftops · 21/12/2021 16:52

I’d stick a can of beans and bread on the side.

It’s ‘ready’ but not cooked.

StEval · 21/12/2021 16:53

WTAF
All these men who are soooo busy they cant make a sandwich.🙄

What was your reply Op?
I hope you left him a note saying " food in fridge"

BertramLacey · 21/12/2021 16:53

Conversation would be more likely to be;

Him: are you making lunch? What time?
Me: don't know. About 1 maybe? Do you want me to make something for you while I'm there?
Him: yes please, and 1 would be great, thanks.

Basically much more of a give and take, much less of a demand, even one that is dressed up with please and thank you.

hopingforabrighterfuture2021 · 21/12/2021 16:53

No. No way. If he said those exact words, I’d be furious. And wouldn’t do it. If he said, ‘I’ve got to pop into work for a few hours, is it ok to have lunch when I get back at around 1?’ and I wasn’t working/was on holiday then that would be different.

REP22 · 21/12/2021 16:53

Fair enough - a piece of cheese, a slice of bread and an apple on a plate left on the floor outside the office door at 12.59 should suffice.

Bon appetit!

GoodPrincessWenceslas · 21/12/2021 16:53

@diydh

Yes this is as I thought. And yes, his words were - “darling, please have lunch ready for one o’clock, Thankyou.’ Then he just sort of walks off.

He will think this is totally normal and he’s just trying to be helpful in communicating his schedule. That’s what he would say.

Does he do this routinely? And do you comply?
PieonaBarm · 21/12/2021 16:53

My DH wouldn't dare. He doesn't have a death wish as if he said that to me I'd oblige but at 1pm he'd be finding out exactly how sensitive his nut allergy is!!

Trixiethewhore · 21/12/2021 16:55

Ha! What?

What year is this? Are you in Mad Men?

Or is he an armless amputee that can't prepare his own food?

Abraxan · 21/12/2021 16:55

Unprompted and not as part of a conversation where I'd asked him when he wanted lunch.

Unprompted like that - he would be making his own lunch