BF going to the same restaurant as me

[DLDITN]

I’ve booked a table in a restaurant for a catch up with my mum tonight.

My BF is going out with his friends and has told me that he’s booked a table at the same restaurant.

Am I overreacting to think this is a bit odd. I don’t want to be a part of his man’s night out and especially not when I’m trying to have a quiet conversation with my mother.

Did he know you had booked a table at that restaurant? Or do you live in an area where that's the only good restaurant around? If not, it does seem a bit odd.

Might be awkward when the strip-o-gram turns up

Yeah that seems a bit weird but @DLDITN asks some good clarifying questions.

Depends is it a coincidence?

I meant @amnm asks good clarifying questions!

Seems a bit odd to me, assuming you have other good options available. Maybe you should consider going somewhere else.

Does he have a history of keeping tabs on you?

There could still be another man's night out at the same restaurant whether or not he was there, so you wouldn't necessarily get a quiet conversation anyway.

Did he book the table and pick the restaurant, or was there a vote and all his friends happened to decide they wanted to go there?

The former is weird, but the latter is just one of those things. I'd just change my booking and take my mum somewhere else.

Weird in London where there's literally thousands of restaurant

Not so weird in my home town where there's 2 and one of thems shit

As long as you're not at the same table or the next one it should be fine. Unless he's going to come and hang around you.

Do you think he has arranged it to keep an eye on you or something?

What did he say when you asked him why he did that?

Tell him you've changed the booking to X restaurant and his reaction should tell you if there's a problem.

Do you live in a small place with limited options?
Did he know or is it just coincidence?
Did he choose or did his friends choose?

Very weird. Is it a big lads night out? Will they be well- behaved ? That’s what I would be worried about if I was with my mother!

I’d go somewhere else if I were you.

We live in an area near to major cities. The friends live on the other side of one of the cities so they normally meet in the city. I’m going to a small local restaurant.

I think he has arranged it to see what I’m up to. He asked me yesterday if I had a secret boyfriend.

@DLDITN

We live in an area near to major cities. The friends live on the other side of one of the cities so they normally meet in the city. I’m going to a small local restaurant.

I think he has arranged it to see what I’m up to. He asked me yesterday if I had a secret boyfriend.

Wtf

Ditch him now

They won’t be well behaved. One of the friends is particularly obnoxious to waiting staff.

He says that it’s a coincidence

There no way that's a coincidence...

@DLDITN

We live in an area near to major cities. The friends live on the other side of one of the cities so they normally meet in the city. I’m going to a small local restaurant.

I think he has arranged it to see what I’m up to. He asked me yesterday if I had a secret boyfriend.

Ew.

I would be looking to end the relationship - he doesn't trust you.

I would rebook with a different restaurant.

Can you change your booking and just go somewhere else?

Honestly you should dump him.

Rebook! And LTB.

@MamaWeasel

Can you change your booking and just go somewhere else?

Or better, change the boyfriend and date someone else, who trusts you and isn't using a night out with friends to follow you about?