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Original poster

BF going to the same restaurant as me

184 replies

DLDITN · 19/12/2021 14:23

I’ve booked a table in a restaurant for a catch up with my mum tonight.

My BF is going out with his friends and has told me that he’s booked a table at the same restaurant.

Am I overreacting to think this is a bit odd. I don’t want to be a part of his man’s night out and especially not when I’m trying to have a quiet conversation with my mother.

OP posts:
Pagwatch · 19/12/2021 17:16

being friends with someone who is an obnoxious prick to waiting staff is also a red flag tbf

JustDanceAddict · 19/12/2021 17:17

Rebook with your mum and don’t tell him.

CheshireKitten123 · 19/12/2021 17:17

" I will update if he turns up at the meal. I’m sure he won’t though"

Why would he not turn up when he has booked a meal with his mates?

I don't get it. Confused

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 19/12/2021 17:17

Grabs your plate and hoovers up. Takes care to pre-arrange that he's drinking your end of meal shot. He sounds like a charming dinner companion. Grin

Looubylou · 19/12/2021 17:18

Surely the first red flag was asking if you were cheating. How many red flags do you need, before you have a serious think?

Original poster
DLDITN · 19/12/2021 17:18

@CheshireKitten123

" I will update if he turns up at the meal. I’m sure he won’t though"

Why would he not turn up when he has booked a meal with his mates?

I don't get it. Confused

Because he’s told me he’s rearranged with his friends.
OP posts:
ProudThrilledHappy · 19/12/2021 17:21

If my partner suddenly started accusing me of seeing someone else and tried to follow me on an evening out, I would have to wonder what he had been up to

Fatgalslim · 19/12/2021 17:24

@CheshireKitten123

" I will update if he turns up at the meal. I’m sure he won’t though"

Why would he not turn up when he has booked a meal with his mates?

I don't get it. Confused

Rtft, she said above that he was rearranging
Aquamarine1029 · 19/12/2021 17:26

I think he has arranged it to see what I’m up to. He asked me yesterday if I had a secret boyfriend.

At your age, you should be wise enough to know that you should dump him. What a creep.

Ourlady · 19/12/2021 17:27

Why are you putting up with this? Not just the booking but everything in general.

girlmom21 · 19/12/2021 17:31

We’ve been together for a few years but covid has obviously slowed things down quite a lot.

At least covid has had some benefits...

happychristmasbum · 19/12/2021 17:33

The more you post about him, the more absolutely awful he sounds Sad

CaveMum · 19/12/2021 17:36

I wouldn’t be surprised if he still turns up with a “we couldn’t get a booking anywhere else at such short notice” excuse.

WhatToDo1988 · 19/12/2021 17:36

Fuck that, you're both too old for that shite, dump him

IWentAwayIStayedAway · 19/12/2021 17:38

The more you post the worse he sounds. What are his good qualities?

CheshireKitten123 · 19/12/2021 17:43

Fatgirlslim

"Rtft, she said above that he was rearranging"

I did rtft.

I posted at 17.17 - OP posted at 17.18

When I posted I wasn't party to his change of plans.

RedToothBrush · 19/12/2021 17:44

He's FIFTY?

Run faster.

Redshoeblueshoe · 19/12/2021 17:44

A few years ! Do yourself a favour and get rid of him

longtompot · 19/12/2021 17:52

@CheshireKitten123

Fatgirlslim

"Rtft, she said above that he was rearranging"

I did rtft.

I posted at 17.17 - OP posted at 17.18

When I posted I wasn't party to his change of plans.

Op said wrote about his change of plans at 3.29pm
upaladderagain · 19/12/2021 17:53

If you change your booking it will confirm to him that you are up to something and he'll make life even more difficult.
Just go, so that he can see you're with your mum, then dump him and tell him exactly why.
Can you phone the restaurant and ask them
to give you a table as far away from Hisarseness as possible?

longtompot · 19/12/2021 17:53

Meant to delete said oops

upaladderagain · 19/12/2021 17:54

That'll teach me to read to the end of the thread....

titanic25 · 19/12/2021 17:57

@DLDITN

They won’t be well behaved. One of the friends is particularly obnoxious to waiting staff.

He says that it’s a coincidence

I think its co incidence. if he is spying on you he would not tell you. he would have showed up
Mindthegaps · 19/12/2021 17:59

@CheshireKitten123 I did rtft

You obviously didn’t. OP mentioned this at 15:29

CheshireKitten123 · 19/12/2021 18:01

Op said wrote about his change of plans at 3.29pm

OK I see it now.

So that's the problem solved then isn't it?