@HangingOutWithTheSandman
So many men have all kinds of controlling ‘principles’ that mysteriously disappear as soon as said principles require actual effort on their part or disrupt aspect of their lives, hobbies etc.
But his issue was this other dad taking his daughter and this won’t be happening, so his principles haven’t disappeared.
You seem to to sneer at anyone who agrees with your partner about this issue. You’re not on the same page with parenting, you laugh along with other posters who have laughed at him and say he moans when pulling his weight with the kids. You seem to want to prove he’s mad for thinking this was an issue in the first place. If you think it was about controlling you, why are you with him? And if not, and you believe he is doing this out of genuine concern, your posts seem quite shitty about him.
I don’t think he is ‘mad’ but his line of reasoning (or lack of) doesn’t make sense.
He objects to the school dad taking DD to the pool along with other children. Yet he has dropped DD to this same man’s house and left her there on play dates where she would be at far greater risk from him than when she is at the swimming pool
I’m putting that bit in bold because a lot of people who are convinced DP is right to be worried are curiously over looking this.
If you had a concern about someone who wanted to take your DC to a public place would you leave your child with that same person in the private confines of their house? In his own home, the school dad has ample opportunity to ‘help’ her to the bathroom, remove clothes if she’s feeling hot after running around playing etc.
But while DP is seemingly not worried about DD falling victim to any of these scenarios in the school dad’s house, he is concerned that she might be abused by him in a pubic changing room
Does any of that make sense to you?
The problem is DP picks and chooses his safeguarding concerns based on outdated views and situations that suit him. Dropping DD for a play date at the school dads house, when he is supposed to be looking after her, suits him as he gets to have time to himself for a couple of hours while another parent who he is allegedly concerned about does the childcare.
He is fine with DD going to the swimming pool with the other school mum, who he doesn’t know, and the school dad’s wife as he doesn’t seem to think any harm can befall her when she’s in the care of women who are “instinctive carers” (his words)
He drops DS off at football on Saturdays and often leaves him there in the care of male coaches he knows absolutely nothing about. Yes they will be DBS checked etc but that doesn’t mean anything. He knows about the awful stories of historical abuse many footballers have spoken about in recent times. but he doesn’t share the same concerns for DS’ welfare at all because he doesn’t think boys are really at risk.
And the only people I’ve sneered at are those who have written absolute nonsense e.g. the person who asserted that the fact I’ve never left DD at the school dad’s house for a sleepover ‘proves’ that deep down I know he is a sexual offender