You mean sparkly dresses that leave glitter all over the car.😬
It's not difficult to drive to a shop and pick up an Elsa dress or a fairy outfit. Or Sainsbury's at 730pm for yellow jumper day.
These days sleepovers-birthdays are a couple of texts, the themes have finished.
Hi party is at 1pm finishes at 4pm etc.
However covid has dampened this somewhat.
That's it.
I carry no mental load for my ex wife. When we were together she worked full time and I switched to Flexi business. I don't think she's ever stood in the playground at pick up time.
It's not logistics when my children are here 50 percent of the month is it. These days admittedly the home and parenting is easier as the children are relatively independent.
Lights on at 7am, own breakfast, dress themselves, teeth, shoes, coats, check bags make sure and out.
Arrive home, change, homework, prep table, eat, load dishwasher, then they can play or we'll do something as a family.
No one praises me, it's just another set of tasks to do. However in our house running the home isn't viewed with scorn nor is it micromanaged to the enth degree.
Music on and cook.
If I cook a real Italian lasagne it'll take me all day from scratch.
Mrs HR will spend all day in the kitchen cooking Eastern European dishes too.
Neither of us fill the family calendar with excessive obligations or proverbial plate juggling.
Yesterday, for instance, I woke at 6am, cleaned business rubbish, sorted stores, 4 tip runs, cleaned drive. She woke at 11, cleaned house. I then posted parcels, sunbed. We both went to Leeds IKEA, cinema, then we went for a meal and drinks afterwards.
Bed at 1130pm.
I think people make a bloody drama out of basic living and being alive.