to be pissed off at a relative coming for Christmas Dinner and wanting ...

[Magrat]

a jacket potato

I don't mean instead of roasts or anything .. I mean on it's own .. just that .. won't have anything else just the jacket

gawd she has such food issshoooooooos

Oh it's not the tattie, per se, it's the thought of poor Magrat entertaining the family of foodstuff doom on Christmas Day, and by the sounds of the special requirements of her children the spud would finish me off.

mumzyof2 .. in a family of veggies I understand it .. but none of the family was vegetarian and at that stage it was such an overt 'look at our clever little girl' thing it pissed the whole extended family off, having to cater separately for a 3 year old who wouldn't know any different (not saying force feeding her meat just not being OTT about worcester sauce instead of soy sauce etc)

HMC he's sitting on the other couch in his dressing gown so still a bit under-the-weather but thanks for asking

luckily we are a bi-laptop family so I don't actually need to pay him any attention at all

'the spud would finish me off'

Yes but why is she bothering to come over for Xmas dinner if she doesn't want any Xmas dinner.
Sorry but I'm with the OP. This woman is rude.
Though about her son - my brothers are the same and they are 27

She's coming over for some scintillating conversation before everyone gets rat-arsed...

I was always taught that if you accepted a dinner invitation you were accepting the food they were cooking too.

Or am I old-fashioned.

At Christmas, you are coming for more than the meal though - you are coming for the day.

see what you've started Twig

btw - glad DH is ok

oh gawd I bloody well hope they aren't coming for the day .. afternoon mebbe

I have food issues. Well actually I have a phobia about trying new foods. A roast dinner is no problem but I would want to be sure that veg were not served in any kind of sauce, that meat was plainly cooked, no spices etc. I would run a mile away away from spinach and ricotta.

As a consequence I don't usually accept dinner invitations unless I know the menu willbe something I can eat. However, if it was somewhere I wanted to go sociall;y I would warn the person and yes, perhaps may suggest a jacket potato. (I once ordered a plain jacket postato in an Italian restaurant whilst everyoe else was eating pasta and all manner of stuff.

It is not being childish or demanding. People with food issues usually go out of their way not to be demanding.

I suggest that you decide whether or not you want the pleasure of the company of this family member. If yes, then surely a jacket potato is no problem (are you doing boiled ones, would they eat those instead).

By the way, I wouldn;t even want butter on mine!

does she think you are a resturant?that its ok to place an order!though i have a sister who wont eat turkey or ham as she doesnt like it so shall have to do a chicken breast for her

YANBU to be annoyed, I'd feel the same. Sharing food and all eating the same thing is part of celebrating togetherness to me. Same menu, same appreciation of food - it's a kind of warm sense of cohesion that a meal can bring. But then I do get quite romantic about the notion of family feasts.

But as others have said, it is just a jacket potato so perhaps best to let it go? It would put me off inviting them again, though.