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Original poster

to be pissed off at a relative coming for Christmas Dinner and wanting ...

88 replies

Magrat · 19/12/2007 12:19

a jacket potato

I don't mean instead of roasts or anything .. I mean on it's own .. just that .. won't have anything else just the jacket

gawd she has such food issshoooooooos

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AMerryScot · 19/12/2007 12:38

Exactly, beansprout!

jesuswhatnext · 19/12/2007 12:38

get a grip - it's only a jacket spud!

at least it's a cheap request, just thank god she hasn't chosen lobster drizzled with 20 year old oak aged truffle butter as her food fetish

dustystaronthechristmastreeMSC · 19/12/2007 12:39

I can understand why you are irritated when you are going to the effort of cooking a nice dinner but its not worth getting upset over. At least she has asked for something easy and inexpensive.

AMerryScot · 19/12/2007 12:40

She may have even requested a potato because she knows it is something that can just be thrown in the back of the oven and not get in the way of anything else.

HowTheGibbonStoleChristmas · 19/12/2007 12:41

I don't see the problem tbh

LIZS · 19/12/2007 12:41

Did you knwo this when you invited them ? Why don't they come after the meal if it is such an issue It may not be too much hassle but something you could do without and, if not medically or dietary based, a fad. Can the daughter not just have a spud plus the roast vegs and her son pick at whatever is on offer he will eat ?

AMerryScot · 19/12/2007 12:42

Eating a meal together is not just about the food...

LIZS · 19/12/2007 12:44

True but if the guest is aware that her family will need to be catered for separately, and the possible inconvenience, she may at least offer that .

AMerryScot · 19/12/2007 12:45

It's a farking baked potato!

LIZS · 19/12/2007 12:47

btu it isn't only her. One might not be a problem but having to deal with offsprings's whims too is a bit much

Blu · 19/12/2007 12:47

Hmm.

I would say definite ishoos or condition of some kind, so would hold off being pissed off, and downsize to 'long-suffering'

But then I am known for being reasonable

Whose sister was it who would only eat white food? Somone on Mn, a while ago.

BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 19/12/2007 12:55

Blu

That fair and reasonable comment was three years ago.

Now that is what I call dining out on it. !!!!

FluffyMummy123 · 19/12/2007 12:56

Message withdrawn

Blu · 19/12/2007 12:59

BrieHangoverRemedy - no, no - our very own OP Magret here cited my future DIL as starting a thread in 'AIBU - to think that my MIL is SO reasonable all the time?"!

You see - I've been stereotyped ever since!

Oh, shove the piping hot jacket up her fanjo and tell her you thougt she was the turkey 0 that'll larn 'er!

AMerryScot · 19/12/2007 13:02

Pouting might be just the issue, Cod.

Original poster
Magrat · 19/12/2007 13:02

I am going to just put it in the oven .. s'not a problem

I called up with a couple of suggestions of stuff she might want / like .. and stuff I was thinking of for the vegetarian too

I didn't rant at her .. I came on here to rant instead

she does have isshooos which are rooted in a physical problem with swallowing that was sorted out 15 years ago ..but also has body issues that she pretends she doesn't IMO .. the 2 have got wrapped up in an unhealthy avoidance of food ... I just wish she could have a healthy attitude

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lljkk · 19/12/2007 13:03

It wouldn't bother me at all, don't understand the big deal. Surely shared company rather than shared mastication is why she's coming? What a cheap relative to please, can I have her?

Original poster
Magrat · 19/12/2007 13:04

I offered something based on spinach and ricotta .. did you know spinach and ricotta was 'too fancy, I only eat plain food'

gawd give me strength

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OhGiveUsAPruniPudding · 19/12/2007 13:05

It is rude to ask for specific food before you go to someone's house for dinner (vegetarians and religious types get special dispensation), so I assume that she must have some fairly major issue going on to not care about that taboo.
I assume she will not be wanting either butter or marg.

CarmenerryChristmas · 19/12/2007 13:06

What she needs is a couple of joints followed by a couple of drinks and then watch her gobble down a turkey or two. The food therapy known as munchies

LIZS · 19/12/2007 13:07

what's her kids excuses then ?

Snaf · 19/12/2007 13:08

I would be annoyed more because it's the Xmas meal and that is a special, specific meal, iyswim. It's not as if you're all having pasta on a Monday evening and she fancies a jacket pot instead.

But agree it is not a big deal in the grand scheme of things and company just as important etc etc etc (although that aspect is also about sharing the same food, imo).

Original poster
Magrat · 19/12/2007 13:10

her method of feeding them involved putting a little of everything on their plates .. choice was all important .. so these toddlers would have meat, veg, fruit, whatever all over a plate and decide what they wanted

tooo muuuuuchhhhhhhh chooooiiiiiiiccccceeeeeee

I remember when niece, aged about 3, decided to turn vegetarian .. it was treated as the 'holy grail' and reinforced to the point of had to roast potatoes separately for her .. she was 3 ffs .. 3 ... she's 19 now, still veggie but that's a mature decision now

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VVVExcitedAboutChristmasQV · 19/12/2007 13:11

SNort at Carmenere!

I'm inclined to agree with Blu.

I feel sorry for her tbh. She obviously has problems and it must be quite a 'thing' for her to accept an invitation to dinner.

YuleLoveHekateAtSolstice · 19/12/2007 13:12

It's only food. It would be rude of her to show up on the day and ask for special arrangements, after you've bought and prepared other stuff for her, but in advance - come on - a spud is hardly putting you out, is it?

The point of getting together at christmas is not to eat a specific meal..it's the company.

So do her a potato and enjoy her company. That's christmas!!!

It's more pud for you anyway!!