Are we being silly?

[BigTD45]

This is a very silly "problem", but I am curious to know other people's perspectives.

We were visiting PILs today. FIL was playing with DC and told DC that Santa is coming to our house next weekend to leave them presents.

MIL chirped up and said "Santa will also be coming here to drop off toys for you". I mentioned it to DP later and he said he didn't think it was right that his DM should tell DC this. For context, MIL has a habit of overstepping a little when it comes to DC. She's insisting on buying DCs Christmas day outfit and Christmas eve pj's, as she always does, but we just put our own outfit/pj's on DC. MIL will always ask why DC is not wearing what she bought, but we will just tell her we wanted DC to wear ours, and DC will wear her outfit another time (maybe new years?).

Are we being daft? Does anyone else have Santa going to 2 houses for 1 DC?

It just sounds like you don't like your PIL and are put off by pretty much everything they say and do.

Santa sometimes leaves gifts at 2 places like at mum and dad's house

Santa visits our house and my parents house

I don't really think it's a big deal that they told your DC that Santa is coming to 2 houses. It's a nice gesture from their end

Nothing wrong with it.

@camperqueen54

It just sounds like you don't like your PIL and are put off by pretty much everything they say and do.

Where on earth are you getting this from? 😂

You will get lots of people telling you how nice it is to have grandparents who care and give gifts to your children and you did be happy.

To me this is overstepping and controlling from your pil. You want Christmas to be a certain way for your children and they should respect that. They had their children and got to do Christmas with them his they wanted. Now it's your turn

Depends on DCs ages. Mil used to do this and when they were tiny I just inwardly cringed, but as they got older I asked her to stop because it would cause too many questions and spoil the magic if they found out too young.

No santa drops to the child wherever they are on Christmas eve and other presents come from grandma etc

@ZenNudist

No santa drops to the child wherever they are on Christmas eve and other presents come from grandma etc

This. Santa's got enough houses to visit.

I agree it's lovely. My DC is very fortunate to have loving GPs. I grew up less fortunate, I didn't have loving parents, or grandparents.

I'm concerned that DC will go to school and tell his friends that Santa, not only went to his house, but GPs house too. I keep picturing that child in the playground wondering why Santa didn't even come to their house, let alone 2 houses. I was that child and I don't want that for another child.

Don't see the issue.

Does it really matter if the, made up Santa drops a gift at theirs or not?

@ZenNudist

No santa drops to the child wherever they are on Christmas eve and other presents come from grandma etc

This.

@Darkpheonix

Don't see the issue.

Does it really matter if the, made up Santa drops a gift at theirs or not?

To me it does, yes.

@BigTD45

I agree it's lovely. My DC is very fortunate to have loving GPs. I grew up less fortunate, I didn't have loving parents, or grandparents.

I'm concerned that DC will go to school and tell his friends that Santa, not only went to his house, but GPs house too. I keep picturing that child in the playground wondering why Santa didn't even come to their house, let alone 2 houses. I was that child and I don't want that for another child.

But if a child got no presents, your child having presents at one house will make that child feel bad.

@ZenNudist

No santa drops to the child wherever they are on Christmas eve and other presents come from grandma etc

Agree!!

Not every child will get extra presents unless they have separated parents maybe ?

It would be awkward when DC speaks to friends and they didn't get extra Santa presents...

That wouldn't bother me.

I have 5 siblings Santa leaves something in all their houses for dd and inlaws house too.
🎅 😂🎅😂🎅

To me it does, yes.

Then there's your answer. Ban them from every saying Santa drops something at their house.

If its really that important to you, do something about it.

I would reiterate that Santa comes to wherever they are but they get presents from others too and they’ll open them when they see them.

The clothes thing sounds like an issue over nothing. My mum has bought my DDs their Christmas Day outfits this year and I’m not bothered. Saved me a job.

its a normal thing for grandparents to say

you're nit picking, you don't like MIL.

my paternal grandmother used to give my mum money to get me presents - then she couldn't get the wrong thing

misses point of thread

Does anyone say ‘Father Christmas’ anymore, apart from me?

@Darkpheonix

Agree, but why not minimise the hurt by limiting it to 1 house, rather than having "Santa" run everywhere to drop off gifts for 1 child, and none for another?

@Cottagepieandpeas

misses point of thread

Does anyone say ‘Father Christmas’ anymore, apart from me?

😂😂😂

No I don't ever say Father Christmas! Not sure why, just always Santa 🎅🏽

Meh sounds like you’re being a bit mean.

That's what DS's grandparents always said, too. He's got to fly over their houses on the way to ours so he drops them off so the reindeer don't get too tired.