This isn't enough for Christmas....

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Strangely this is my first proper boyfriend at 29
Anyway been together 7 months and I'm not sure if I have enough for him for Christmas
So far
Adidas tee
Vans tee
Adidas jogging bottoms
Backback
Pjs
Socks

Spent around £120
Do I get more bits or am I okay with that?
Don't want to come across stingy but then don't want to be ott
Is this okay ?

I would just be buying one nice gift,something that you think he would appreciate. I don't know any adults,who would wan't a stack of presents.

I'm 7 years in and don't spend that much

My first xmas with exdh I bought him a gameboy and two shirts from Topman. I spent about £100 which was a lot as I was a student! He bought me a pair of shoes which were £30 and only because I tried them on in front of him and kept going on about how I loved them. Should have realised he was a twat then(went on to become financially abusive)

Op you're a lovely person, very kind & thoughtful. Hope you have a wonderful first Christmas together

@percythewitch

I would consider all those to be "bits"

My OH does this - drives me mad.

If someone is going to spend that amount of money (which is insane in the first place IMO) then buy one nice thing within budget and a few minor extras such as chocolates/scratch cards/whatever.

I always ask which is the main present to open and my heart sinks every single time he says "it doesn't really matter what order you open them"

When someone asks what did MrWitch get you for Christmas/birthday I would love to be able to say "a lovely necklace/a beautiful book/a coveted handbag" instead of "some CDs, socks, a notebook and stuff" (the total cost of which would have bought one nice thing that I actually want).

But I am having a very bad day so just ignore my rant

I know exactly where you are coming from. My DH is overall pretty good on presents but he has had a tendency, especially early on in the relationship, to go for the ‘I’m not quite sure so I’ll go for more’ approach.

That’s fine Op but next year agree a budget. He might be embarrassed if he’s bought you a small thing.

• I’m also married and we have never spent more than £130 odd, although I know couple who dorms more ,but usually less

I've been with my OH since I was 23 (I'm 42 now) and I don't think we've ever spent that much on each other at Christmas!

We're both high-earning professionals, but we're not really into 'stuff'. I think the most I've ever spent on him was about £300 on a nice watch for his 40th, by which time we had been together for ~15 years. I am confident that said watch will outlive him.

If you can afford it, then yeah, whatever, but I would be a bit wary of investing a huge amount of money into a relationship that's fairly new, in the grand scheme of things.

It's way too much and will look as though you are trying to buy his love.
Less is more.
One present is best.

He asked for the socks...

socks, tshirt and PJs.

not even 12 months....

far too practical...

This reminds me of my first proper boyfriend as a teen - I got him some nice aftershave for like £20 and he turned up with, no joke, a basket full of presents - chocolates, pyjamas, dressing gown, perfume, a nice necklace...other things I can't remember because it was an eternity ago. I was mortified

DH and I don't buy each other presents but magically Santa always turns up with one doubt we spend more than £40 on each other though and mostly less than that!

I've been with my husband for 20 years and I've spent a grand total of £39. So your man should feel very pleased with himself in comparison!

All I got my DH is some liquorice

More than I spend on DH and we have been married for 20years.

I spend max £20-30 on my boyfriend of 7 years. Never would I spend that much on presents. Although I guess it depends on both your income levels and expectations.
Have you discussed it with him? My boyfriend and I always discuss how much we plan on spending in advance and agree limits.

It's a christmas present, so it's meant to be special. Not something you'd ordinarily get. Call me ungreatful but I'm not waiting all year to get hadwash that's a few quid extra. I could've got that myself if I wanted to.

I think that sounds fine OP. You've bought him things you know he'll like and personally I don't think £120 is a lot to spend.
The competitive under-spending on here does my head in! The gifts I've bought my husband of 26 years probably cost around £750 and I know he's spent more than that on my present. Off you go people, tell me how obscene we are

I just discuss a budget with my DP so it's roughly equal, we usually spend about £200 each on each other. One of his presents is something he actually needs, and the other one is more of an experience/treat. We are on average wages but we like giving (and getting) presents. £120 is fine for a boyfriend of 7 months I think but I disagree that it's obscene!

You’ve been very generous. I just hope he doesn’t just give you a box of Milk Tray!

Take half back. Actually take it all back apart from the tshirt. Way too much for someone you’ve know 7 months.

Far far too much - makes you look a bit needy tbh

7 months is quite a while imo. I think it’s fine op.

Can't believe people on here are so tight. If you've said 'I love you', over £100 is totally normal.

@percythewitch

I would consider all those to be "bits"

My OH does this - drives me mad.

If someone is going to spend that amount of money (which is insane in the first place IMO) then buy one nice thing within budget and a few minor extras such as chocolates/scratch cards/whatever.

I always ask which is the main present to open and my heart sinks every single time he says "it doesn't really matter what order you open them"

When someone asks what did MrWitch get you for Christmas/birthday I would love to be able to say "a lovely necklace/a beautiful book/a coveted handbag" instead of "some CDs, socks, a notebook and stuff" (the total cost of which would have bought one nice thing that I actually want).

But I am having a very bad day so just ignore my rant

I'm with you on this, it's doesn't happen to me thankfully but I know so many people who put quantity over quality.

It seems like overkill to me.