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bridgeovertroubledwatrr · 2021-12-13T17:11:01+00:00

Strangely this is my first proper boyfriend at 29[confused] Anyway been together 7 months and I'm not sure if I have enough for him for Christmas So far Adidas tee Vans tee Adidas jogging bottoms Backback Pjs Socks Spent around £120 Do I get more bits or am I okay with that? Don't want to come across stingy but then don't want to be ott Is this okay ?

dogfishman · 13/12/2021 21:29

Am a bloke. £120 is absolutely more than enough, unless you are both loaded. All the items sound good to have, provided you've taken care to get what he'll like. If he complains then he's probably not right for you. But in fact he will probably simply be relieved if the items aren't binnable and if you appreciate whatever he buys you.

weemacmum · 13/12/2021 21:32

I think you've had some unhelpful replies here!

If you can afford £120 i think that's enough.

It seems a good list to me, especially if he has asked for some of those things.

I understand buying socks etc if he's into labels / wouldn't normally buy these any other time of year.

Have a lovely Christmas together.

silvercosmopolitian · 13/12/2021 21:33

I think it all sounds lovely op. Enjoy your Christmas x

peachesarenom · 13/12/2021 21:37

I spent about that much when I'd been with my boyfriend for just over a month.

We've now been together for 10 years!

He got me some beautiful earrings! I wanted more! Lol!

Dancingonmoonlight · 13/12/2021 21:40

I'd return the PJs and socks tbh. They are presents his mum will buy him not the new sexy woman he is sleeping with!

Tbh I'd ditch the clothes too (but you probably can't because he's asked for them now).

Personally I'd have spent the money on a designer backpack that he wouldn't have bought himself and stuck a few fun things in it including tickets to a cheap gig/a restaurant you've both spoken about going to...

NeverChange · 13/12/2021 21:40

If that what he wants, then why not?

That said, I don't know any man under 60nthat wears PJs! Would think jocks and t-shirt combo is standard.

PickElaine · 13/12/2021 21:41

It depends how you are financially. I’m a student but I’ve bought my boyfriend an Apple Watch plus £150ish worth of other gifts. I grew up with nothing and get the full loan now so I use that and any other money I make to spoil others where I can as I couldn’t afford to when I was younger,
This is madness!

If you grew up with nothing then you should be aware of the value of money and not splashing it around when you aren't even working. Buying a boyfriend as Apple Watch and £150 of presents with money you don't even have is reckless. If you want to spend hundreds of pounds on him get a job, earn the money and then buy the presents.

CSJobseeker · 13/12/2021 21:42

It depends how you are financially. I’m a student but I’ve bought my boyfriend an Apple Watch plus £150ish worth of other gifts. I grew up with nothing and get the full loan now so I use that and any other money I make to spoil others where I can as I couldn’t afford to when I was younger

Fucking hell. You will be paying this off forever - you absolutely can't afford to do this!

Dancingonmoonlight · 13/12/2021 21:46

It depends how you are financially. I’m a student but I’ve bought my boyfriend an Apple Watch plus £150ish worth of other gifts. I grew up with nothing and get the full loan now so I use that and any other money I make to spoil others where I can as I couldn’t afford to when I was younger

Please return the watch and half the gifts at least. You cannot afford them. You have effectively borrowed money to buy gifts, completely unnecessary gifts in your circumstances. Thats the same as taking out the equivalent of a payday loan. Its madness!

If you're still together in five years time and you're earning a good salary, then buy the watch!!!

GreenEyeOfTheLittleYellowGod · 13/12/2021 21:47

Way too much! However I guess it depends how much money you have and how much he's spending on you. If it makes you happy and you can afford it then where's the harm.

Kinko · 13/12/2021 21:48

It's impossible to judge without knowing what sort of disposable income you have, what type of presents you've previously bought each other etc.

£120 is only relative within the context of both your earnings.

collybubble · 13/12/2021 21:49

@percythewitch

I hear ya! Same

GreenEyeOfTheLittleYellowGod · 13/12/2021 21:54

I meant to add he's a lucky guy getting all those lovely gifts I hope you have a nice time and how exciting a new relationship at Christmas

Crazycakelady17 · 13/12/2021 21:55

That’s double what I have spent on DH of 21 years but it’s all relative it’s definitely enough wether he will appreciate that over one “big” present ask his mum

Bubblecap · 13/12/2021 21:55

DS and his GF have agreed to spend up to £75 on each other and have just had their 3 year anniversary. The first year they were together he had her favourite photo printed on to a block and then last year he made a picture of both their names out of scrabble tiles which she loved, he bought her a bottle of her favourite wine and a t.shirt.

DH and I have spent less and more than the amount your planning over the last 25 years.

grapewine · 13/12/2021 21:57

Don't give him socks. That's honestly the least romantic thing I can think of from a partner.

GreenLunchBox · 13/12/2021 22:00

@WhatToDo1988

Strange choice of presents....his mother can buy him clothes and socks, not his girlfriend of 7 months. For Christmas, you want to buy him something nice and fun. Keep it light. And £120 is quite a lot actually.

This

GiltEdges · 13/12/2021 22:01

*Too much, too random, too generic.

Would you be happy if he did the same for you in reverse ... couple of tshirts, leggings, backpack, socks ... or would you prefer that he bought you one thoughtful think that shows he 's really getting to know you.*

I sort of agree with this, it's all a bit "meh".

IWasFunBeforeMum · 13/12/2021 22:04

Plenty!

PinkPrettyPearls · 13/12/2021 22:05

It is quite a lot, give him two presents, have the rest hidden.
See what he gives you, and then remember That you have other lovely things for him that you’d forgotten….full of smiles 😀

Just to test the waters so to speak.

Don’t worry about what you’ve bought, you know him better than everyone else, just have a couple of the larger things to hand first x

GreenEyeOfTheLittleYellowGod · 13/12/2021 22:07

@grapewine

Don't give him socks. That's honestly the least romantic thing I can think of from a partner.

What if they're socks with love hearts all over them?

Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese · 13/12/2021 22:17

@grapewine

Don't give him socks. That's honestly the least romantic thing I can think of from a partner.

Oh, I get dh a pack of oddsocks every year 🤣 he always asks for socks, but I can't get on board with a 5 pack from matalan or whatever, so he gets funky ones

motherofawhirlwind · 13/12/2021 22:25

Our first Christmas my OH got me a silver musical jewellery box. Well actually, he'd ordered it from the jewellers and it hadn't arrived, so I actually got 2 gold necklaces, a teddy bear, chocolates and perfume to open, and the jewellery box followed. We'd been together 10 days.

26 years later, he still spoils me (and buys me 2 of everything - watches, bags, wallets you name it. It's bizarre but adorable)

grapewine · 13/12/2021 22:58

What if they're socks with love hearts all over them? wink

Emoji socks 😍... maybe 😉

grapewine · 13/12/2021 23:01

Oh, I get dh a pack of oddsocks every year 🤣 he always asks for socks, but I can't get on board with a 5 pack from matalan or whatever, so he gets funky ones

I can behind this if you're married or have been together for a long time, but at 7 months I'd be disappointed. I would. But the guy asked for them, so maybe I'm just grinch.