ok, i probably am, but the way new mothers do thing s now, and there attitude is really getting on my nerves.

[pukkapatch]

rant alert
te entire holier than thou attitude. huge genreralistaion, i know. but whats so speical about waiting till the baby is six months old before weaning that will garantee said mothers a direct ticket to heaven?
from what i recall, upping the age to six months didnt happen because of some amazing scintific breakthrough. no new data was used t o make the decision. (a mnetter showed the evidence of this on some thread.
and then the whole breast bottle thing. the ones spouting statistics at everyone, with their smug expressions. it doesnt matter. every mom does what she sees as best for her baby. we dont constantly need to have information shoved in our noses.

my eldest is ten, and youngest four, so i'm not that far away from these subjects, but, some peoples attitudes just really really get on my tits.

what were you like as a first time mum- i think i was clueless and panicked and it's only after 3 i've reached the 'everyone finds their own way' attitude

i was clueless, and i did everything by the book. but i'm sure i didnt look down my nose at the older woman with three children who was weaning her dc at three months instead of the recomended four months.
and i'm failry certain i didnt blacklist someone for not breastfeeding. or for breastfeeding iyswim.

i should probly stop before i get into big trouble. , which i'm sure will happen soon.

who is looking down their nose? Are you referring to MN threads or RL?

There are good biological reasons for waiting until six months for weaning. And equally good reasons for b/f if you are able. But everyone is free to choose for themselves - any individual and their family is unique and will have their own unique situation to take into account.

yes, thats true. becaus of mn, i end up hearing things that would normally hav been tuned out

I only really knew how important it was to wait 6 months after ds had been weaned (at 3 ) and I am plagued with guilt. But it has made me want to wean the next baby at 6 months.

mn threads edam. they all seem very judgemental about the way things are done.

in rl i stay away from young moms decisions about such things. they have enough information given to them, and if i say anything, i will probly end up upsetting them, i suffer from foot in mouth disease . so i simply coo at the babies

i just think that new mums are so desperate to get it right that they go over board, but it's born of a good place - it's just goes wrong iyswim! i do think that even if you wouldn't do that , that they should realise it won't kill the other babies. then again i get very judgemental about other things!

YABUP

Although I agree - some peoples attitudes get on my tits.

How on EARTH can you see a "smug expression" from a thread?????

im opinoinated and im not a new mum lol

tinsel, why feel guyitly, youdid what you thought was right, withthe information you had to hand, and i'm sure if it hadnt aggreed with your ds, he would have let you know.
please dont feel guilty. that is the exact effect that i feel happens because of a great many of these threads. and which i wish would stop.

what munsent would stop having lots of thredas?

vv, what is the p for in yabup?
i can see and smell threads!

I have to say your op is very judgemental..

P for...pukka?

You're not BFing or weaning, so why do you care what people are discussing on these topics?

"we dont constantly need to have information shoved in our noses." - except that information is precisely what many women come on here FOR.

I didn't have a clue as a mum. And I only found mumsnett when ds was 7 mths.
By this time, I had stupidly put rusks in his bottle, as advised by dh's mum.
I am well jealous of people who either:
a)knew what to do
b)found Mumsnett whilst pregnant
So that they could be enlightened.
It is the nature of mumsnett that people have VERY strong opinions.
But you soon toughen up and take it all, with a pinch of salt, and in the right way.
We are all smug and judgemental, a little bit

Well I do. He has allergies and is a fussy eater and I can't help but think it was because of my decision (HV-influenced) to wean him early.

I do see where you're coming from.

I don't think sharing information is 'smug'. One of the reasons I come to MN is because I know I'm going to get a full range of opinions, backed up in many cases on the feeding threads by research/stats etc

Unlike at clinic where they just said, well they say six months but you;ve got a big baby there... 15 weeks isn't too soon to pop in a bit of baby rice

But I still love mumsnet and will come on here for support when I am bf a 20lb 5 month old .

So is this about young mums, or new mums

BTW the advice being given isn't new at all. Been around for years

God, mumsnett has taught me SOOOOOOO much.
Things to do as a mum. Views on things(not specifically mum related) that before I could not even comprehend.
You have to take it in the right ..... way.

you could be judgemental about this if you like

I cooked a roast on friday night went away on saturday afternoon to go to a party and came back sunday night i just went in the kitchen and put the firday night dishes in the dishwasher...

can't believe i managed to drag up three kids

P for Paranoid.

There rarely are the kind of undertones that you are suggesting there are.