Should i stay out of it or mention to her mum?

[ImJustMum]

Doing the school run this morning and a nan of a little boy in my sons class was taking him to school along with his younger sister who is in reception. Little girl was upset about something and crying whilst holding nans hand and walking along. Nan turned to her (not realising i was behind her) and said 'shut up X, youre always crying for attention, just like your mum'. Now there was no need for the last comment nore to speak to her like that and id be fuming if i found out my own mum had spoken to my child like that. Little girl was clearly very upset afterwards still and looked very down trodden. I wasnt sure wether to ping their mum a message asking if X was okay as nan seemed a bit frustrated with her this morning. I mentioned it to my friend who said nan favours the boy and isnt particularly nice to the little girl. I know id want to know but i dont want to be shit stirring either!

Stay out it IMO. None of your business. If she’d hit her around the head or the like, then different story.

Stay out of it. You have no idea what kind of morning the Nan has had. She could've just vented in a way she usually wouldn't. We've all had those mornings. Leave it alone.

Thank you, leaving it was the direction i was going to go but then i had the intrusive..'should i say anything?' Thought and doubted myself!

I would say something, that is an awful comment

I would want to know if my little girl was being verbally abused by someone, especially a family member. I would contact the child's mother and tell her.

If she was a good friend I'd message tonight and casually ask how dd was as she was very upset this morning and gran sounded frustrated.

Usually I would say stay out of it. But since reading about poor Arthur I now have to attitude of report/say everything. Never let a child go unnoticed. So I'd say something. I would tell the mum what she said, even if it backfires and she sides with her mum I'd still tell her.

Yes definitely say something. This is abusive and an awful way for the little girl to be treated. Put yourself in her shoes, would you like to have comments like that ringing in your ears just as you are going into school?
The Nan obviously has something against the Mum which she is now transferring to the Granddaughter.

P.s. Don’t doubt yourself.
If she is like this in public she could well be much worse behind closed doors.

I mentioned it to my friend who said nan favours the boy and isnt particularly nice to the little girl

Thing is, that’s just your friends opinion.

@ChangeChingyChange

Usually I would say stay out of it. But since reading about poor Arthur I now have to attitude of report/say everything. Never let a child go unnoticed. So I'd say something. I would tell the mum what she said, even if it backfires and she sides with her mum I'd still tell her.

Agree with this.

Say something. I'd be so upset if people had seen someone I had trusted with my child talking to him like that and not told me.

@ChangeChingyChange

Usually I would say stay out of it. But since reading about poor Arthur I now have to attitude of report/say everything. Never let a child go unnoticed. So I'd say something. I would tell the mum what she said, even if it backfires and she sides with her mum I'd still tell her.

Absolutely this.

Ask yourself if you could want to know if that was your child and your mum? I would want someone to tell me.

Mm this is true, as id said in my PP id be fuming if id found out my mum had said something and that comment was not necessary at all

@ChangeChingyChange

Usually I would say stay out of it. But since reading about poor Arthur I now have to attitude of report/say everything. Never let a child go unnoticed. So I'd say something. I would tell the mum what she said, even if it backfires and she sides with her mum I'd still tell her.

I agree with this too.

If I had a good relationship with the mother and had zero doubt that I heard correctly, then I would say something. It's a horrible thing to say to a child and not normal in any way.

The thing is, if you mention it to the mum she is likely to want to know what happened and what was said. Are you prepared to tell her that?

After the recent tragic news I would have to say something personally

‘ ChangeChingyChange

Usually I would say stay out of it. But since reading about poor Arthur I now have to attitude of report/say everything. Never let a child go unnoticed. So I'd say something. I would tell the mum what she said, even if it backfires and she sides with her mum I'd still tell her.’

Surely the story of Arthur should remind others to not be reporting petty little incidents like in the OP, social services are overstretched and things would be taken more seriously if people stop doing this.

Goodness me.

As my comment above @Twilight7777

Well, straight back to mind your own business and stress excuses I see. 🙄

I think you should tell the mum. I can't imagine any parent would not want to know that someone was talking to their child like shit.

Say something. Too many people stay out of things and that's how situations like what happened peter Connolly, Arthur and many others happen. Ok this situation is more than likely nothing like those children. But Comments such as that can play on children's minds. I would also err on the side that it is not a one off, taking into account what your other friend said.

In light of the shit that has happened lately I wouldn't just sit on it, I would say something

100% you have to say - what a disgusting comment. Who cares what kind of morning the grandmother had?! No excuse