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'They've got their own lives' and other stock phrases

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saywhatagain · 07/12/2021 18:07

I'm an adult social worker and I hear words to the tune of 'X never visits/helps because they have their own lives' many times a month.

Another popular one is 'I've worked all my life and now I have to pay, but if I'd sat on my arse my whole life / was an immigrant (etc) I'd get it all for free'.

Or another popular one, 'the GP gave me your number as my mother/father/aunt (etc) needs to go into a care home right NOW' - and 9/10 times it's a either health need not a social one or the person is nowhere near care home ready.

Tell me yours for your job, make me feel better about the Groundhog Day that my job is at the moment?

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5zeds · 14/12/2021 17:08

Therefore, lay people have to accept it is what is it. Nope. Professionals have to accept that they are subject to the same judgement as anyone else and “having a hard job” is not an excuse to make vulnerable people feel even more unhappy than they did. “Don’t be an arse” is a good rule for everyone.

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Mickarooni · 14/12/2021 17:21

@5zeds

Therefore, lay people have to accept it is what is it. Nope. Professionals have to accept that they are subject to the same judgement as anyone else and “having a hard job” is not an excuse to make vulnerable people feel even more unhappy than they did. “Don’t be an arse” is a good rule for everyone.

I understand where you’re coming from.
My view is different but I respect not everyone feels the same way. As a lay person, it doesn’t bother me if a medic uses black humour in their personal time as long as they treat me with respect in a professional capacity.
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