DD and charging rent?

[Nolongerachild]

Long time poster, NC. Need some advice please, in case I am not being reasonable.
Single mum, no partner. DD living at home, and has finished her Masters, and started new job with a good salary.
I feel I should start charging her rent to include bills and food. Does £500 a month sound OK? My rent is £1300 a month, CT is £170 and who knows what energy bills will be this year but guessing around £100 a month. Then there’s water, internet and our food bill. She has to pay her mobile and her transport (no car). I just feel I need to put more into my pension, and I have literally nothing left at the end of every month. We’re in Bristol area, for my work, but it suits her very well for now. If she moved out I’d get a lodger. I’d really appreciate any advice particularly if someone else has had similar experiences. DD is 24. Thanks.

@girlabouthome

No way I would charge her, I would hope she would raise it with you though and put whatever she feels comfortable with towards bills

Do you live for free or know any responsible adults who do ? No rent / mortgage / gas , electric, water. TV license, council tax, house insurance, internet ?

It depends on cost of living where you are and how much dd is earning. I'd have said around 300 mark but it also comes down to what you can afford.

@IGiveUpalready

Bristol can be anywhere for £800 - £1400 for a 1 bed flat so no, I don't think you are being unreasonable, can she drive?

She's not living in a one bed flat. She's living in her mother's rented house.

I gave parents 100 quid a week throughout my degree and after. It raised to 150 a week when partner moved in for a short time.

@vodkaredbullgirl

ground hog day

Indeed! Bless you 💐 appreciate your support.

Thank you to all the helpful people on here and apologies for the delay in updating.
It turns out that she’d been doing her ‘sums’ in the background and last weekend told me that she’d been thinking about going into a flatshare but on balance it was going to be about £600 inc bills (!!) and she has offered to pay £450 but she wants to keep food out of it because she feels that way she can do more of her own thing. I‘ve told her the fridge will be replenished nonetheless.
I’m relieved but as some PP have said, i do feel bad and I wish I was in a position to be more ‘generous’ but here we are. I’m certainly not profiting from my DD. Some PPs missed the bit where I said I was/am a single mother, by referring to ‘parents’ but not everyone read the thread. Or even the OP, as it turns out!
Never mind - but to all of you who gave their advice, thank you. Really grateful.

@Moonface123

This post just proves how inept most people are at understanding a situation different to their own, how bloody helpful is it for the OP to be told by the smug ones " We dont charge rent, or we take x amount and keep it in savings for them for later ? " I personally don't know of any single parents in real life who are in a position to do this. OP l would have posted this specifically in lone parents section to avoid some of the totally irelevant and pointless replies.

Thank you, I wish I had now but there again I’d have missed some good advice.

Moonface123
This post just proves how inept most people are at understanding a situation different to their own, how bloody helpful is it for the OP to be told by the smug ones " We dont charge rent, or we take x amount and keep it in savings for them for later ? "

Whats smug about that?

I was a single parent raising my DCs, when they grew up and started working I charged them minimal rent so they could leave home with savings.

I worked hard, often 2 jobs, and and I dont regret it one bit. I'm a worker not an idler. I wasn't about to charge any DC of mine as if they're my life partner.

Still its each to their own but I know grabby people who outright sponge off their DCs, often whilst having a grown man coming round eating sleeping several days a week and not paying a penny.

If theres a need to charge then fine but some of the replies are so needlessly harsh and excessive I really hope the OP doesnt take them on board.