Aibu to think this is rude

[OnlyFoolsnMothers]

Went to a friends birthday last night and bought her a bracelet - not that it should matter but for context it cost me £70, which for me is a lot, I have 2 kids, work reduced hours and it’s Christmas time (it was a milestone bday).
Anyway today I wake up to a message asking me if she could exchange it as she’s prefer something else. I want to know if this is rude or the done thing nowadays? To me I think it is rude- I was brought up to never expect a gift but to be grateful if you get one. There’s also a gift receipt in the bag, she doesn’t actually need to tell me “hey I don’t like the gift”. Anyway she’s sent me a link for an item she prefers -£150- she says in the message “if” the bracelet was more she’ll find something else. So not only am I offended she’s now making me look cheap.
Aibu

Ok maybe I misinterpreted it. I have read it as she would rather exchange it for something else (in case you saw her and noticed she isn't wearing it), and she wanted to know if it cost more than the one she wanted (you could just tell her) and she will just choose something else if it is more expensive.

I can't understand why she seems to have an expectation that you might have spent over £150 on her present? When she knows that she spent £40 on you on the equivalent occasion.

And also when she knows you have 2 DCs and it's nearly Christmas? Whereas she lives with her parents. And to say it aloud? . Crass and a bit weird. What on earth is she thinking?

She is ungracious.

I'd say 'Of course. Give me back the bracelet and I'll exchange it for you', and then never give her the new one.

Very rude behaviour.

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

She has the receipt, so she know what she has to spend on a replacement she has the gift receipt- doesn’t have an amount on it

Ah-ha, that puts a different slant on it.

Since when has a receipt not had a date/price etc on it ?

So send her the receipt with the amount on it and say you hope she can exchange it to something more to her taste.

Then cut out the present giving.

Do people not know what a gift receipt is?

Surprising number of people not knowing what a gift receipt is. Anyway, sad she has spoiled the friendship now. Grabby af.

@MrsFoxyplease

" Your gift was £70. The gift receipt is in the bag. If you're not willing to use your own money and there is nothing £70 that you like then please return bracelet to me and I will get my money back as I'm sure you can appreciate it's an expensive time of year especially with two children plus working reduced hours".

I actually like this.

Thank goodness I don't know a single person who would be so unbelievably rude as to send that.

You provided the gift receipt for that purpose.

£70 is a really generous gift.

That would put me right off someone.

Really rude.

Gift receipts don’t have the price of the item.

That’s why they’re called gift receipts.

Gift cards can have the price, for obvious reasons.

@dreamdoll123

Do people not know what a gift receipt is?

Nope, it's a new one on me !

So rude.

@Ellen888 I just assumed everyone knew what they were, not sure why😂

It's basically just proof of purchase so you can give it to the person you're buying a gift for. If they don't like it then they're able to exchange it with the gift receipt. The reason many people don't give a normal receipt is so 1) they don't know the price and 2) you can't get a refund with a gift receipt, only an exchange.

Imagine buying a gift for someone in cash and they take the receipt to return it and keep the money🙃 the cheek!

I'd say
'I'm going into town this week so if you get the bracelet back to me before Thursday I'll sort it out'.

Then I'd return it, get the money back and never mention it again. When she asks say something like 'oh, you said you weren't keen on it so I took it back.'

I would say:

"Of course - do change the gift! The gift receipt is in the bag. Afraid I would never have been able to afford the one you liked though :)"

It's rude.

I think it was rude to involve you when the gift receipt was in the bag

£70 is a lot of money for a friends gift imo.

There was absolutely no need for Friend to tell you she wanted to exchange the gift as the receipt was provided.

So either - she was fishing for cost so she could see what she could buy instead or she wanted to upset you

Either way - yuk 🥴

@Restart10

Quite a drip feed there! If there's no amount then obviously she won't know. That is why she said if It's more than 150, that makes sense. You made her out to seem very bad op, when actually it makes sense the way she phrased her message.

Oh dear, I’m cringing for you @Restart10.

Maybe Google what a gift receipt is?

It is grabby and beyond rude.

In the light of what you said about the background as to your friendship and the help she has offered over the years, if you had to give her the benefit of the doubt, my guess is that she thinks you earn a fortune, she has not lived like an adult and had to budget for a family, mortgage/rent and expenses (i.e. she thinks money grows on trees) and she is generally immature and probably also a little entitled.

Wow. She’s rude. Your dignified silence is spot on. it’s outrageous that she’s sent a link to one twice the price with the ‘if it’s more’ comment. Does she really expect you to pay that sort of money for her gift when the gift half that price was already so generous! Also, if she’s online sending links to the one she likes more then I find it hard to believe that she hasn’t looked up the cost of the one she received. It’s so grabby. She has the gift receipt: the most is do is reply with ‘I enclosed the gift receipt so if you are unhappy with your gift you can either exchange it or put it towards the cost of something more expensive.’

*most I’d do

How can so many people not know what a bloody gift receipt is?!

Why not suggest she returns the gift to you and you'll sort it for her - then return it and recoup the money wasted on a greedy, grabby non-friend?

She mentioned it op hoping you'd offer to pay the shortfall.
She's a premium c.f. And not a friend.