Aibu to think this is rude

[OnlyFoolsnMothers]

Went to a friends birthday last night and bought her a bracelet - not that it should matter but for context it cost me £70, which for me is a lot, I have 2 kids, work reduced hours and it’s Christmas time (it was a milestone bday).
Anyway today I wake up to a message asking me if she could exchange it as she’s prefer something else. I want to know if this is rude or the done thing nowadays? To me I think it is rude- I was brought up to never expect a gift but to be grateful if you get one. There’s also a gift receipt in the bag, she doesn’t actually need to tell me “hey I don’t like the gift”. Anyway she’s sent me a link for an item she prefers -£150- she says in the message “if” the bracelet was more she’ll find something else. So not only am I offended she’s now making me look cheap.
Aibu

I don't think I've ever spent £70 ever on a gift and that includes my parents....I dont have it to spend. £70 an awful lot to spend. I spend £10 at most on a friend. She's vvv rude. I'd be tempted to ask for it back, get your money back and don't gift her ever again

Incredibly rude, save your money in future.

£70 is extremely kind and you took your time to choose that bracelet for her, which she should be grateful for. When people start going on about 'not liking it', then they have overlooked the kindness and effort that went into it.

I too have been brought up to be grateful for any gifts I receive and not expect, so I would feel the same as you. Sending you the link to the other one she likes for £150 is shocking behaviour, and to be honest, I wouldn't bother giving her anything again.

If it is that she just doesn't want you to have spent so much money on something she isn't going to wear, then she could have swapped it on the quiet as she had the gift receipt. Even if you notice she isn't wearing the bracelet you gave her, it isn't like you are going to be asking her where it is, and if you did, then maybe she could tell you as you gave a gift receipt for this reason anyway. To go out her way to tell you she would prefer something else and send you links to something twice the price as though she expects you to have maybe spent £150 on her is very bad form.

Ask her for the bracelet back, and regift it to someone for Christmas, someone who will appreciate it.

Tell her to buy her own £150 gift.

So, firstly someone I'd known for 10 years would hopefully know my taste and would buy something knowing I'd like it.

And if it wasn't to my taste, I would fall in love with it anyway, especially if it was from someone close and I knew they'd put some thought into it.

Money/cost/value would never enter into it.

I'm happy if I know the giver thought about what I'd like. Whether I actually like it is immaterial because I would fall in love with it anyway because of the giver

So I'd never return anything. Or maybe I'm over sentimental?

Hopefully some of this makes sense. It's been one of those days!

Your friend needs to read this.

@MrsSkylerWhiite

I'd say 'I'm going into town this week so if you get the bracelet back to me before Thursday I'll sort it out'.

Then I'd return it, get the money back and never mention it again. When she asks say something like 'oh, you said you weren't keen on it so I took it back.'

Yes, this is what I'd do.

I would never do that but have had it done to me. I also find it rude and unkind and entitled!

did she exchange it for something else?