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WTF! Random man comment
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KatherineJaneway · 04/12/2021 15:29

Out in a busy, lively restaurant last night catching up with a good friend. Been there about an hour when a random man walks up to our table and says to me directly 'Do you ever smile?'

I was a bit confused in the moment as I had no idea who he was and my friend and I had been talking, so I was like 'excuse me?' I must have moved from what was clearly a resting bitch face to a smile and he was like 'Oh, you do' and he walked off. I mean, why do that?

YABU - he's making conversation
YANBU - you're right, he's an annoying twat

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Am I being unreasonable?

AIBU

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KatherineJaneway · 04/12/2021 15:47

@Fatarseflanagan09

One bloke asked me why I was so skinny, I asked him if he’d got as many spots on his dick as he had on his face.

Wish I'd been as fast as you
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fedup078 · 04/12/2021 15:48

Oh that old chestnut
Had it many a time
Makes me want to punch them
But just let it go

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WineAway · 04/12/2021 15:49

You’re not an idiot. He caught you off guard, of course you shouldn’t need a guard.

Don’t give him
Another second of head space.

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PriamFarrl · 04/12/2021 15:52

What an arse. Some men seem to think that women are there as decoration.

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Niconacotaco · 04/12/2021 16:00

Bus driver told MIL to "cheer up, it might never happen love" and she (truthfully) told him her husband had just died. He apologised when she got off the bus. I think she told him to fuck off but that might be me embellishing her story. Anyway, I hope he and all the other passengers learned a valuable lesson,
I like the random man reply

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Iamnotamermaid · 04/12/2021 16:07

YANBU - you're right, he's an annoying twat

Get this sort of thing all the time. If they have the balls to hang around for a response (most 'speak and run') I make sure in my response they are referred to as petal, sweetie, hun. A 'fuck off sweetie' would be all that is required. I will try random little man next though.

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fabricfanatic · 04/12/2021 16:07

What a pathetic excuse for a man.

YANBU, but at least you don't have to live inside his twisted head. I have a feeling it's not a very nice experience, being the kind of person who thinks that's acceptable behaviour.

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noirchatsdeux · 04/12/2021 16:08

Even better reply would be "Fuck off with your comment, random man"

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RestingMurderousFace · 04/12/2021 16:09

@Chesneyhawkes1

I remember a similar thread ages ago when the lady replied "thank you for your comment random man"

Oh that's good. Hope I remember it.
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ChiefStockingStuffer · 04/12/2021 16:11

Misogynistic twat who thinks women are there to look pretty for him.

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Icantbelieveitsnotnutter · 04/12/2021 16:12

It sounds like a chat up line for a sleazeball has-been. I bet your toes curled OP?!

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Honeyroar · 04/12/2021 16:12

Who are you and why do you feel it’s appropriate to say something so rude to someone you don’t know?? Do one!”

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ginghamstarfish · 04/12/2021 16:14

just watched that video and saw a good comment - use the middle finger of each hand to lift up the corners of your mouth .... almost wish I had the opportunity to try it.

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FallonCarringtonWannabe · 04/12/2021 16:15

It is absolutely unreasonable of him. It is attacking your personal space. Absolutely entitled behaviour. You only exist to look pretty for men.

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FallonCarringtonWannabe · 04/12/2021 16:17

Adult Wednesday Addams know how to deal with entitled random men.

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floatinginmyhomie · 04/12/2021 16:18

I hate when men do this. As a teen I struggled really bad with agoraphobia and rarely left my house, one of the first times I managed to get out again I was waiting for a bus and was really anxious so obviously not smiling. A group of middle aged men walked past me and one shouted “give us a smile love”. I ended up having a panic attack and going home. It was so detrimental to my recovery and it took me months to try and leave the house again.

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SnackSizeRaisin · 04/12/2021 16:20

My comeback for that kind of random man comment is always:

“Do you always harass women in public?”


This. He's just a stupid bully. Don't let it get to you.

Next time I might be tempted to accidentally tip gravy over his crotch.

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PonderingTotskeit · 04/12/2021 16:26

Had similar when buying goods in the market, explained I’d just had an awful health diagnosis, so no I wasn’t smiling today, he did have the grace to look embarrassed.

I think I’d have a standard statement ready in case it happens again, I’d definitely think about using the word harassment as well. Be ultra polite too and loud in your reply, make the twat look right stupid in public.

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Spitspotsput · 04/12/2021 16:27

Those two videos were excellent. Sorry you had to put up with this.

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Livelovebehappy · 04/12/2021 16:29

Chat up line?

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Kosmin · 04/12/2021 16:31

@Niconacotaco

Bus driver told MIL to "cheer up, it might never happen love" and she (truthfully) told him her husband had just died. He apologised when she got off the bus. I think she told him to fuck off but that might be me embellishing her story. Anyway, I hope he and all the other passengers learned a valuable lesson,
I like the random man reply

I've had people say "cheer up, it might never happen" to me, and I'm a man! I think calling a women he wasn't intimate/close with "love" makes it inappropriate, but otherwise this isn't necessarily sexist.

I think it can just be one of those things that corny "I'm a bit of a character" people like to say. Another one that springs to mind is saying "don't say I never gave you anything" if they lend you a pen or something similarly insignificant. Or it can be meant in a kindly way, if it's someone you know. It's very odd from someone you don't know. I think a line from the film "The Business" might have been a good retort: "Did someone order a c**t? Cos one just showed up!"
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ChampagneLassie · 04/12/2021 16:35

@aspirational love it thanks. Im going to try to get some of this in there the next time a random man has some advice!

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clartins · 04/12/2021 16:38

YANBU Knob!
I’d love him to say that to me and then see his face when I told him that my lack of smile was Parkinson’s disease related hypomimia.

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pastypirate · 04/12/2021 16:40

A great example of a man forcing an interaction. Ugh

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prettyteapotsplease · 04/12/2021 16:40

"Are you always this rude or is this a special occasion?"

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