WTF! Random man comment

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@lottiegarbanzo - in a nutshell.

We've spent nearly 2 years behind masks, and so many of us have suffered from mental health issues not seeing a smiling face
Maybe you're overreacting
What kind of knob head comment is that?

Anyway these comments have been going on for decades.
It was rude,inappropriate and gross 40 years ago when I was a teenager as it is today.

so because it's happened to you, and you're a man, it's not sexist?
Right. I think you need to educate yourself about male entitlement and harrassment. We're not talking about the odd insensitive remark here. It's about control and the perceived role of women.

I think when a bloke does it to a woman it's sexist behaviour. The bloke is exerting or attempting to exert control over the situation that's only ever going to be favourable/enjoyable for them. It's taking advantage of their likely physical primacy. It is done because the woman is perceived as weaker or more vulnerable.

Men (mostly) do say it to other men, and with similar motive, but without the sex imbalance. It's still someone normally engaging in what they'll be quick to call "banter" if you react badly to it. It doesn't mean it's not sexist when it's aimed at women though

And most importantly, it's still men that do this, and in particular with that exact motive

No I'm not some random man!
But it doesn't cost anything for someone to smile.
And remember we are only getting one part of the "story" there's always 2 sides.
Maybe the guy had his own demons to fight, maybe the woman reminded him of a lost love one.
We've become a nation that's too quick to judge!

it doesn't cost anything for someone to smile
Actually it doesn't cost anything for random men to stay away from women.
Why should his feelings be paramount? Maybe if a woman doesn't feel like smiling in order to please a man that's ok

Maybe the guy had his own demons to fight, maybe the woman reminded him of a lost love one.

And he thought he'd say, "do you ever smile?"

And every wanker who came up to me as a teenager and said similar, they were all bereaved souls too? Odd how I reminded so many men of loved ones when I was a pretty teenager. And no women. And not now I'm pissed off and menopausal.

I hear sexist comments (hooves) I think sexism (horses) not bereaved loved ones (zebras).

Spot on MrsTerryPratchett.

It doesn't cost anything to accord other people respect (so avoid interrupting their conversations with random rude demands), does it eh? @WiseMitera69

He was a twat with (sadly) a typically male sense of entitlement. I'd bet my bottom dollar he has never and would never say that to a man.
Don't worry about how you did or didn't respond. Store up some of these responses for if there's a next time and remind yourself he's a loser.

Though I am now somewhat amused at the mental image of @WiseMitera69 going about their life with a permanent rictus grin, because it doesn't cost anything to smile AT ALL TIMES (including and especially for the benefit of random passing strangers with whom one intends no interaction).

Keeeep grinning WiseMitera69 !

I have a resting bitch face, it's really Oscar worthy, it's constant I can't change it, it's how my fave muscles relax. If I'm thinking I'll also drop my brow and appear to scowl, it's just my face.

I am constantly asked to smile by men. It infuriates me and surprisingly me resting bitch face turns in to a genuine look of disgust and displeasure then.

I am so fed up of "random men comments"

Things like on the weekend a man was clearly ahead of me in the queue but we weren't arranged in a line so I said "you were before me" he replied "ah you are prettier than me, you can go first"

🙄

Eewww you smell like fucking feet

or

Stop following me Janine you fucking weirdo

Have always worked quite well for me. You have to say it with real disapproval though. And then sometimes hysterical laughing if they are super arrogant.

Privacy in an open place, you've got to be kidding me.

Everyone can and should expect privacy in the sense of people not walking up to you at random and saying things about your personal demeanour/appearance, yes.
It seems to happen disproportionately to women at the hands of men.

No, we’ve become women who are thoroughly sick of being regarded as some form of street decoration by random male strangers who feel entitled to interrupt us while we’re minding our own business and require us to buy in to their delusion that a male presence makes us smile.

Damn right I’m judging. Deal with your own demons, Random Man. Funny how women’s ‘demons’ never make them require make strangers to rearrange their expressions to look prettier. Odd that

Indeed. For the love of Christ what are you on about, WiseMitera69?!?

@Negligee - absolutely!

Negligee has it.

Spot on

Ooh, I fucking hate men like this!

Oh god. Can't believe some responses here amounting to - the man could have some heartache and you should "be kind!

Why is it theses defenders of bastards never apply the same to the women in question?! SHE HAS TOLD US SHE STRUGGLED TO GO OUT. SHE FEELS SILLY AND EMBARRASSED. IT WAS HARD AND UPSETTING FOR HER. We know this. We don't know anymore about the man other than what he did to her and yet posters ignore all that we know about the op.

Op he's a dick. And if he has good reason for being so I don't give a shit. That wouldn't give him permission to accost women for no reason beyond his ego. No man has ever done this to another man and yet there are few women who have never been instructed by some cock to "smile" .