To wonder how much it is usual ro.give your adult daugher fot her birthday.?

[Mondaymindy]

Id just like to guage this...
My dm has just sent me a gift card for £15.
Ive been giving this amount to dc of friends .. but for my own dc b day ( young adult) I

would allocate about £100 to £ 150 so that she could be assured to get something she would enjoy amd invest in and treat herself. Eg speakers.
Have I been getting rhis wrong ? Unless i was struggling, which my dm is most defintley not,i wouldnt send £ 15 to an adult close relative. ..
My family have hinted that i am over spendy at times ? Thoughts please..

*I think you have to take into account inflation. My DH's DF has given him £150 for the last 40 years.

I probably won't increase my £350 and my DC will think I am tight in a few years' time with rising inflation - not that my DH thinks this about his DF, he is grateful for the money every year.*

Ooh, is this a real humble brag?? At what likely rate of inflation could £350 possibly look tight within your lifetime?

My DH gets £50 on birthdays from his parents.

My parents separated but I usually get a gift around £20 from my mum and £50-100 from my dad. I would be happy with a £5 box of chocolates or a scratch cards. You do sound like you have quite high expectations based on your own gift giving x

She mean so I dont get much. She makes big deal giving her grand daughter money. I feel if u going do that just give nothing. I dont make big fuss of her now.

I give my adult children plus 2 oldest grandchildren £150. The younger grandkids get £100.

Gosh I'm absolutely flabbergasted at some of the responses & how much some adults get from their parents...Wow!!

Oh yes others got more but I was black sheep so it was a tenner even for my 40th she brought me a tacky cross and chain so I halved the price (it was off two people) then brought her the ugliest earrings I’ve ever seen, five months later went nc.

My DP get me a present
Probably spend around £100
My In-laws give me £250

I haven’t given DD money for years. Always gifts, usually something she wants and then some smaller surprises that have caught my eye and that I might have bought earlier on and put aside for that reason.

Adult DS works and lives away from family home he gets £50 for birthdays and Xmas

@Spoldge45

Gosh I'm absolutely flabbergasted at some of the responses & how much some adults get from their parents...Wow!!

Yeah. I'm finding this thread really depressing actually 😕 😔 Don't think will read anymore

I am way I consider generous to my young adult / student D.C. because I see it as part of my ongoing support and I am better off than them.

I would never want my non-earning mum or dad to use their finite resources on expensive gifts or sums of cash for me!

A nice £15 or £25 worth of books, accessories, something they know I want is a celebration.

Both my mum and mil would give me £50. I'm an adult, working part time but have more disposable income than the both of them. I'd rather they didn't get me anything tbh. I spend the sake, sometimes more on them.

For my 30th my mum gave me a gold jewellery set of hers that I have coveted since I was 6. She always said that I could have it for my 30th, it's worth about £1500 ,but was a wedding gift from my grandad to her so is priceless. When she was 50 I bought her a pair of gold earrings for £450 and the same for my mil when she was 60.

Crikey. I must be spoilt! I get about £200spent on me for birthday by my parents. My brothers and their partners get around £400each. My parents are very wealthy though.