Part boarding school isn't good for kids

[Aquamarinestar]

My friend suggested I put my kids into a part boarding school (it's like a boarding school but they finish at 8-9 pm] and just go home to sleep. What are your views on this? Is it just as "cruel" as boarding school?

@Alltheblue

8pm would only be for secondary age so they'd most likely shower in the morning before school.

Mornings which they'd have to be up super early to get there for 7am!

It’s a childcare option. One that works for some and not others. DH and I do an extreme juggling act so that one or other of us can pick the children up from school. Doesn’t mean I think that people choosing other options are wrong. It’s there for those who want/need to use it, and I’m sure they’re a better judge of what their children can cope with then anyone else.
I had a SAHM. DH went to boarding school. Neither of us are better or worse adjusted than the other, and I’d say he has a better relationship with his parents than I do with mine. Different strokes for different folks.

Last time I'm going to bother replying to you. You clearly know nothing about flexiboarding so just stop. No one has to be there for 7. They have to be there before lessons start same ad any other school.

Someone's getting defensive about their choice!

Flexi boarding - suits my eldest started at 13 - happy confident and doing what they love after school as an after school actiivty. Getting grades that we never expected.

They go on Monday morning and stay till Thursday. Wednesday evening we go out for pizza, chinese as a family. All sit and talk as a family.

Weekends home with the family.

Before I had a sad, bullied child who was underperforming and starting to be a school refuser.

My second child - local state school suits them happy is either at a club or in their room on tech.

So many prejudices on here and so many ill informed people passing judgement on something they do not know anything about.

OP - it works for some and not for others. ( I was anti private and anti boarding - until eldest asked to flexi board so they could do the sport they loved more easily)

Call me old fashioned but why even bother to have kids if you aren’t prepared to parent them or make compromises to fit them in your busy lives. I had disinterested parents and it’s very damaging long term. There is no substitute for a parents love and attention.

Bloody hell @Greysquirreltricks, with your sheer pig headedness and inability to see that different things suit different children, I sure hope you don’t teach mine.

@gah2teenagers absolutely!

@ThePoisonousMushroom

Bloody hell *@Greysquirreltricks*, with your sheer pig headedness and inability to see that different things suit different children, I sure hope you don’t teach mine.

Ditto.

Keeping a 7 year old awake until 9pm to accommodate a parent’s career goals is not ok.

At age 15 it would be a different story, I’d have enjoyed part boarding in my teens.

If it doesn’t feel right, it’s probably wrong OP.

@Skysblue absolutely!

@Skysblue

Keeping a 7 year old awake until 9pm to accommodate a parent’s career goals is not ok.

At age 15 it would be a different story, I’d have enjoyed part boarding in my teens.

If it doesn’t feel right, it’s probably wrong OP.

As has been said repeatedly, that is not the case. Prep age children would be picked up much, much earlier than 9pm.

So it's still not a good thing!!

Prep schools are 6 in early years , same as all after school clubs but it gets later as they mature and head towards senior school ( age 10) usually

This is a non issue

I would imagine it depends on the school, but 6pm-7pm in the prep boarding schools I know of.

@CovidFreeChristmas hows dh?

Ummmm he's alright thanks! How's yours?

Think you've got me confused with someone else hun. Lots of covid and Christmas usernames at the moment.

Sure ha