No thank you, no more gifts

[SaturdaySummer]

I have given around 10/11 big bags for life FULL of John Lewis and Next clothes, toys, a play mat, a bath seat, an inflatable chair etc. To someone my dad works with. The lad is early 20s and on an apprentice wage and his gf is a student so they would struggle to get everything on such limited income. All the clothes were excellent condition, some with labels on still. I washed and ironed everything. These were things my son had outgrown and we are lucky to have been able to afford everything he needed so I didn't mind helping someone else out. My friend also gave them more items - about 4 bags for life with again, clothes with labels on etc. I didn't give these things expecting anything in return but the couple have not even sent a thank you card of text - they have literally had thousands of pounds worth of stuff. AIBU to give things to charity in future now instead of this couple as I really feel they have been incredibly rude and ungrateful to not even acknowledge what they have been given

This happened to me when I had my third
I hadn’t known I was pregnant until the week before and everyone cleared out their houses/lofts
I was bloody grateful but I ended up with 6 cots enough to clothes to stock mothercare twice,7 buggies and god knows what else
I had no way to getting it to the charity shop as I don’t drive and it made my pnd worse
I really struggled with the stuff-I had nowhere to store it-in a two bed house-it’s no fun having piles of stuff and 3 broken down cots in your tiny lounge
I did send a thank you via my mother and asked her to explain I was Ill,had just had a baby and was struggling with the other two kids and I’d be in touch
Everyone seemed happy and I’ve never heard anyone slagging me off

Ironic that the OP recently started a thread asking if she would BU to tell people only to give her son items from a list she had prepared as she doesn’t have space for or need things like big teddy bears.

@BritWifeInUSA

Ironic that the OP recently started a thread asking if she would BU to tell people only to give her son items from a list she had prepared as she doesn’t have space for or need things like big teddy bears.

In fairness though, OP said the couple asked for things and were needing some help. sounds like OP is in a different situation and doesn't need the help so would rather people did not waste their money. I would also rather people didn't buy the big bears etc as we don't have room for them - that would fill our whole room

@NearlyThereMum In fairness though, the OP only heard second-hand that they needed things. I’m thinking her dad assumed that the young couple need things because they are Poor People (the assumption of the dad based on the fact that he earns “considerably more than them” - said in Harry Enfield Loadsamoney voice). He may have assumed this and asked the baby’s father in such a way that he was embarrassed to say no.

And the couple may have thanked the dad who has forgotten to pass on the thanks to the OP.

OP is making assumptions as she was not directly involved in the conversations.

[quote BritWifeInUSA]@NearlyThereMum In fairness though, the OP only heard second-hand that they needed things. I’m thinking her dad assumed that the young couple need things because they are Poor People (the assumption of the dad based on the fact that he earns “considerably more than them” - said in Harry Enfield Loadsamoney voice). He may have assumed this and asked the baby’s father in such a way that he was embarrassed to say no.

And the couple may have thanked the dad who has forgotten to pass on the thanks to the OP.

OP is making assumptions as she was not directly involved in the conversations.[/quote]
It wasn't the dad who gave them the stuff, he just handed it over. It would be good manners to even send a text- honestly it takes under a minute. It's rude to just not acknowledge OP IMO

BritWifeInUSA

Although I think OP should let it go, she clearly stated the lad asked her dad if she had any baby items. Also she said they didn’t say thank you to her dad. You’ve just made up your own story to make it sound worse, why do people do that?

It’s a but much for OP to call them names but it is pretty standard to say thank you if someone gives you anything, especially when you’ve asked. I’m definitely not one for cards or even phone calls, but saying ‘say thanks to your daughter’ to OPs dad or a quick text would have been nice.

The absolute pile ons on threads like this aren’t great. OP seems to have gone, most people say she’s a bit OTT, but people making out saying thanks is too much to expect are a bit odd.

@GodIsAVegan

BritWifeInUSA

Although I think OP should let it go, she clearly stated the lad asked her dad if she had any baby items. Also she said they didn’t say thank you to her dad. You’ve just made up your own story to make it sound worse, why do people do that?

It’s a but much for OP to call them names but it is pretty standard to say thank you if someone gives you anything, especially when you’ve asked. I’m definitely not one for cards or even phone calls, but saying ‘say thanks to your daughter’ to OPs dad or a quick text would have been nice.

The absolute pile ons on threads like this aren’t great. OP seems to have gone, most people say she’s a bit OTT, but people making out saying thanks is too much to expect are a bit odd.

I'm not surprised OP is gone. I didnt agree with along them names but in fairness people on here we're pretty crappy to OP. Seems people are just on here to vent nowadays and can be pretty nasty to each other. Sometimes I think anonymity isn't a good thing on online forums as most people wouldn't be half as nasty in person or if their names were Published