Friend inviting teenage daughter along

[almahart]

Had plans to meet with a friend I haven't seen since before pandemic. We were going to go to the theatre but it's a short show and would have had a drink before/after. I was looking forward to a grown up catch up.

I said I'd get tickets. She messaged me to say can I get one for her daughter (15 ) too.

I don't want to.

I don't think I'm being unreasonable- but how would you handle?

It could be that her daughter is going through something at the moment and she doesn't want to leave her!

Well then they stay at home - I can’t think of any circumstance where it is ok to foist a third party on meeting up with one other person .

@Pat123dev

Be honest, this happened to me, but I was the one who'd misjudged and invited my son, My friend just said to me, she was hoping it would be a girly trip and we'd arrange something else to include the boys another time.

I was totally fine and understood, no problems

Glad you were fine. Was she?

And how apologetic were you?

@Cavementality

It could be that her daughter is going through something at the moment and she doesn't want to leave her!

Which is fine - but why agree to go out with a friend then? Stay/go out with your dd on your own, dont presume anyone else wants her foisted on them

This is so rude. You arrange childcare in order to have an enjoyable night out but end up spending it with someone else's teenager. Not my idea of fun.

Hope it goes ok
You probably should say something
Even if you book it for all 3

Glad we get to see it but it’s a shame we can’t have a proper grown up catch up. And it’s been so long . Why don’t you ( froend) organise something for us both next time ? See how it goes - hopefully she will be mindful