Friend inviting teenage daughter along

[almahart]

Had plans to meet with a friend I haven't seen since before pandemic. We were going to go to the theatre but it's a short show and would have had a drink before/after. I was looking forward to a grown up catch up.

I said I'd get tickets. She messaged me to say can I get one for her daughter (15 ) too.

I don't want to.

I don't think I'm being unreasonable- but how would you handle?

[Cavementality]

It could be that her daughter is going through something at the moment and she doesn't want to leave her!

[DottyHarmer]

Well then they stay at home - I can’t think of any circumstance where it is ok to foist a third party on meeting up with one other person .

[Nanny0gg]

@Pat123dev

Be honest, this happened to me, but I was the one who'd misjudged and invited my son,
My friend just said to me, she was hoping it would be a girly trip and we'd arrange something else to include the boys another time.

I was totally fine and understood, no problems

Glad you were fine. Was she?

And how apologetic were you?

[CrazyTimesAreOccurring]

@Cavementality

It could be that her daughter is going through something at the moment and she doesn't want to leave her!

Which is fine - but why agree to go out with a friend then? Stay/go out with your dd on your own, dont presume anyone else wants her foisted on them

[LittleBoPeepHasLostHerShit]

This is so rude. You arrange childcare in order to have an enjoyable night out but end up spending it with someone else's teenager. Not my idea of fun.

[Overthinkingx3]

Hope it goes ok
You probably should say something
Even if you book it for all 3

Glad we get to see it but it’s a shame we can’t have a proper grown up catch up. And it’s been so long . Why don’t you ( froend) organise something for us both next time ? See how it goes - hopefully she will be mindful