Awkward situation at football practise..

[footballmum87]

Usually dh brings dd to football but tonight he was late in so I brought dd while he stays home with the other dc and does dinner and bath.
Getting out the house for an hour at this time feels like a spa break, the training area overlooks the water and it's lovely sitting in the silence. I even managed to get one of the few spots right next to the pitch so I've a perfect view of dd.
So far so good then an elderly gentleman comes over and knocks on the window to say his dgs is training and can he sit in the car with me 😕 I don't recognise him but he says his wife has popped to the shops in the car and left him here. The dc don't need to be supervised at training so he could have went with her. It's also been bloody freezing here all day and he's out with just a sports hoody on with no jacket/gloves etc.
I stuttered and made a pathetic feeble excuse about needing to make a private call and that I wasn't comfortable having anyone in the car
He looked taken aback but went off and now keeps walking past my car.
What would you have done? I feel like a bitch for not wanting some random bloke in the car ruining my hours peace but it seems really mean 😕

Not mean, especially at the moment I wouldn’t want someone I didn’t know in the car either.

I’d have done exactly the same as you. Enjoy your peace and quiet.

FFS what an idiot he was! No, of course he can't sit in your car! Why on earth would you want that? He's a completely entitled man.

I'd have felt mean but done the same -
I wouldn't want a man I don't know in my car, regardless of age.

YANBU. We can't be telling our children to stay safe, then letting strange men in the car. Never mind the Covid risk.

It wasn't a reasonable request for a man to make of a strange woman.

Aye, that's awkward
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That’s awkward! I’d have used Covid as an excuse.

well done for asserting yourself OP. It's such a bizarre question from him that he should have asked it in a spirit of the answer probably being no, rather than moping around afterwards

Also dangerous for a lone female to let a male into her car. so well done.

How is it mean for gods sake? Remember being taught about stranger danger? The guy was weird for even asking. You could have dodged a bullet there.

Fuck that.

I hate it when people put you in those situations. Just serves to do nothing but make you feel bad. It’s something that irrationally winds me up.

He should know better than to approach a lone woman in a car. I would have told him as much.

What?! Why do you feel bad? What an utterly weird and inappropriate request! He should feel bad.

He was being quite mean to put you in that position. He must've assumed you would feel obliged to smile and invite him in. As if anyone wants a stranger sat in their car!

It would be a no from me (and most people, I should imagine).

It's a bit weird but presumably your kids train together - I was always good friends with the dads and mums at dds football and we would have deffo all sat in a car together.

This is the problem, men just don't get how uncomfortable women may feel with a request like this. Because he knows he's OK (or not -who knows?) he assumes you should think that, when you don't know him.
I wouldn't want a strange man in the car with me. He had options, he could have, put up with the cold (he wouldn't get hypothermia in an hour), worn a coat hat and gloves in the first place, gone with his wife in their car. His failure to explore options isn't your problem.

What a silly old goat. We're there no men sat in cars that he could have asked?

Don't feel bad, this was really odd of him.

If he's cold then he needs to go for a walk, or find a pub. I can't think of any woman who would have said yes.

(I would have said no also if he was a stranger. Maybe he knows your dp?)

Yanbu. It is never ok to demand that a woman let a strange man into car. I don’t care how old he is, he’s still an entitled jerk.

Well done for standing up for yourself OP, sorry you met this weirdo but on the bright side he isn’t in your car!

I would not have felt comfortable letting him into my car either ; it was cheeky and rude of him to ask .
Enjoy your time alone .

I’d have done the exact same op. I can’t believe he asked!

You are right. I use covid now. Had it with lifts. Nobody extra in car! Op say you meeting friend next time and start your engine!

A very strange request - I understand why you felt awkward, but the awkwardness was his fault as he asked something very unusual.

Really odd of him to ask tbh.

That's really dodgy behaviour from the man!

I'd have been far less polite about turning down a stranger's request to get in my car, in the dark whilst I'm alone.