Husbands sisters got her son to ask for a tablet

[faithfulbird20]

Like as though we're made out of money. Cos he's the uncle he'll get it. Our own kids don't have a tablet (no iPad or anything) both kids are aged 4 (her and mine)...I'm just so annoyed like AIBU? We're trying to save money. He works and I'm a stahm (baby is 8 months). I don't buy extravagant things...buy things dead cheap so that we can save for a deposit faster...whereas SIL spends her husbands cash here there and everywhere. Why can't they get their kid a tablet themselves?

He should be asking his mum for one. Just say no

Just say no. Explain you can't afford it. If anyone is getting a tablet it should be your son. If your DH can't see that he's a prick.

He should be getting it off his own mother.

In this situation I would buy the child an etch-a-sketch.

Just say No!

Wanting/Asking, isn't the same as getting. I'd be explaining to the child that's the sort of gift you ask Mum and Dad for, not Uncle and Aunty.

I wouldn’t think twice about saying no. To child and parent.

Say no, you don’t have to do anything

All you have to do is say that's way beyond the budget, is there anything less pricey he would like.

Errr just say no?

They can’t get it themselves as it sounds like you and your husband will do whatever a four year old requests.

Why would your husband be such an idiot as to even entertain the idea of buying his nephew a tablet?!

Can your husband not use his words and say no ?

Just say no. Or tell her it’s the best joke you’ve heard all year.

It is possible to say no when someone asks you for something

If he chooses to say yes, that's on him

Santa aka mum can get it. CF

Say no. Although if your husband agrees to it then it's all on him.

Why can't you both just say no, it's too much?

I want doesn’t get. Surely you just don’t buy - no drama. 🤷🏻‍♀️

He's four, say no and stick to it.

A 4 year old is hardly Machiavelli

Just say "oooh that would be nice put it on your list for santa!"

Fwiw you (probably with good reason?) dont like your SIL and it's clouding your judgement

Why is this a dilemma for you?! Say No and move on.

What's your usual budget? If it's £20 I would just laugh and say "that's a bit out of our price range" I can give you money for xmas and you can save up for one. Then give the £20 at xmas or if mum prefers give her the £20 to put towards buying one. If there is other family that buy presents mum could also ask them to put towards. She can pad out the gifts to unwrap with sweets and cheap things like bubbles.

My son wants a computer and asked for money for his birthday to put towards it from us and other family (his Birthday was in Oct) Now with his savings (pocket money that has built up in his bank over several years)/his birthday money plus a little money from us for xmas he can have his computer at xmas (it will be 90% his own saved money). Yes he's older (12) but even when they are younger "I want" doesn't mean they get it instantly. Xmas and Santa isn't a reason to put everyone under massive pressure. You have got to be realistic for your budget.

How do you know the sister told him to ask?

My niece is a similar age and in the space of the 3 hours I had her she asked me for a holiday, a park, some dolls, a game and house phone
No one told her to ask, the request just tumbled out of her either because she'd seen something, we were talking about something or just randomly.

Also, eldest nephew used to ask us for expensive stuff - he saw that we did different things with our money than his mum did (we have no dc and she has 3) and in his child logic assumed that made us rich (we're not).

I couldn't get worked up about this. Just a laugh and a no response is fine.

I'd never dream of spending over £20ish on a niece or nephew at Xmas. We have 6 between us so are trying to cut down as much as possible as even that's a bit much when totalled up!!