Husbands sisters got her son to ask for a tablet

[faithfulbird20]

Like as though we're made out of money. Cos he's the uncle he'll get it. Our own kids don't have a tablet (no iPad or anything) both kids are aged 4 (her and mine)...I'm just so annoyed like AIBU? We're trying to save money. He works and I'm a stahm (baby is 8 months). I don't buy extravagant things...buy things dead cheap so that we can save for a deposit faster...whereas SIL spends her husbands cash here there and everywhere. Why can't they get their kid a tablet themselves?

SIL spends her husbands cash here there and everywhere
If they are married then its family cash.

Just say no.

Get him a block of Scottish tablet & play innocent

The issue is you don’t like her
Kids say the funniest things
Just ring mum and say “ little Jonny said the funniest thing today and asked us for a tablet gah ahaha! Chet wee scamp! Btw we have got him a leapfrog/ whatever”

No is an easy word to say..and don't give in.

How do you know the request came from your sister in law and wasn't just an example of a four year old not having much idea of what things cost?

So you say no. Why is that so difficult? Its a ridiculous ask so DH tells her to make a serious suggestion or you will choose for him.

whereas SIL spends her husbands cash here there and everywhere

They are a couple with children - its their cash, not just the husband's and how they spend it is between them.

Not a fan of SiL are you?

I don't get why you're getting so upset about this unless DN said "Uncle, Mummy said you will buy me a tablet if I ask you to". That would piss me off, yes. But if DN just said "Mummy said to ask you..." or "Will you buy me..." I'd probably just say "No, we can't/won't do that" and think "Cheeky fucker" quietly but take it no further. Does she have a history of this? If so, then your DH can take her to task. If this is a one-off, just say no then ignore it.

Besides a 4 year old is perfectly capable of making up a reason ("Mummy said") if they think it's going to get them what they want. Lord knows at 4 I had eleventymillion reasons why my parents absolutely HAD to buy me a real pony, including "Jesus said so because I prayed for it". When they did finally get me a horse as a teen my mum remarked tongue in cheek "See prayers eventually get answered, even if you do have to wait 10 years".

Give him a junior Aspirin.

I'd be saying 'Oh, mummy is getting you a tablet for your Christmas!' in front of her.

How do you know your SiL told him to ask your DH for it?

And why are you getting so annoyed over it? You just smile and tell him no. It doesn’t matter what his mum wants you to buy him. His mum doesn’t get to choose what you spend your money on, so what she wants is irrelevant. If she actually says ‘there’s a tablet I want you to get for him’ then you laugh and tell her that there is a Chanel handbag you’d like her to get for you, so it looks like you’re both going to be disappointed this year.

This is surely easy to deal with

“Ha ha, that’s a present for Santa/ Mum and Dad to get you, not Uncle Barry (insert name of Uncle if not Barry)”

4 year old in 'asks for ridiculous gift' shocker. Mine asked for a pigeon loft and pigeons at that age.

You definitely have a problem with your SIL though - whereas SIL spends her husbands cash here there and everywhere. presumably its family money that she spends, because they are a family.

You dislike her and are using her 4yo taking a punt and asking for a cheeky present as a sign to further hate her.

At least she didn't ask for a horse . Especially if your DH has form for giving in to unreasonable demands.

"Cos he's the uncle he'll get it."

Herein is your problem.

I would absolutely get a toy one and feign ignorance! Just to see the look on their faces!

@Christmas1988

Buy him a Leapfrog Mr Pencil tablet £25 and perfect for a four year old.

This is a great idea

A drum kit is better.

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

A drum kit is better.

@RealBecca

I would absolutely get a toy one and feign ignorance! Just to see the look on their faces!

This is what I was thinking too

@RealBecca

I would absolutely get a toy one and feign ignorance! Just to see the look on their faces!

You'd go out of your way to set up a situation where you could see a 4yo's upset face?

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

A drum kit is better.

Or a recorder!

This thread is hysterical, seriously no 4 year old on the planet needs a bloody tablet and as for the poster who bought one for her 2 year old I literally have no muscles in my face to make my eyes roll as far back as they need to in response.

The leap frog tablet is perfect. If my dh bought any 4 year old a tablet (including my own children) I’m sorry but I’d have to reassess my life choices and how I ended up with such a muppet for a husband.

Not read thread. So apologies if this has already been said. But suggest you get a leapfrog or if that’s expensive (no clue) then whatever really cheap kids tablet you can find from Amazon. £20 mark. Or whatever you’d normally spend on them. Or even something like this. Below. She didn’t specify what she meant by tablet, after all. And no one gets their relatives iPads! Let alone 4 year old kids. The below should make that clear! You assumed she meant something like this (or a leapfrog type thing), after all!

www.amazon.co.uk/Writing-Tablet-Plastic-Childrens-Drawing/dp/B08Q4HQ4FL/ref=sr_1_18?keywords=Children%E2%80%99s+tablet&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&qid=1637178156&sr=8-18

Tell DH you'll sort it and then buy a cheap kiddy one from Poundland or somewhere. One with those annoying American voices.