Husbands sisters got her son to ask for a tablet

[faithfulbird20]

Like as though we're made out of money. Cos he's the uncle he'll get it. Our own kids don't have a tablet (no iPad or anything) both kids are aged 4 (her and mine)...I'm just so annoyed like AIBU? We're trying to save money. He works and I'm a stahm (baby is 8 months). I don't buy extravagant things...buy things dead cheap so that we can save for a deposit faster...whereas SIL spends her husbands cash here there and everywhere. Why can't they get their kid a tablet themselves?

I don't really see the problem, unless your DH is unable to speak or is the worlds biggest wet lettuce he simply explains to his sister that it's too expensive.

Say no. It's OK to say no to children. They won't be traumatised by it. Instead they might learn that money doesn't grow on trees and "want" doesn't always mean "will get".

Equally - if your husband buys it, that's on him.

If it's outside of your normal budget for presents then just explain exactly that. If it's what you would normally spend then get the tablet.

I don't really see the problem, unless your DH is unable to speak

Yes, OP are you going to come and give any more detail?! The replies are pointless until we know more.

What’s the normal budget?
Do you think SIL told him to ask?
What do they buy your kids?
What did your DH reply?

I don’t see the problem either. You don’t want to do will obviously not do so.

She’s a CF, but the problem is your husband. He needs to say no. You don’t have the money, end of.

Don’t make it about her. It’s on him.

What’s more, serious spending needs to be a joint agreement. If you’ve told him no, and he isn’t respectful of that, you have a much bigger problem than a tablet. If you haven’t told him, tell him.

It’s stressful picking out and shopping for gifts so I think they’ve done you a bit of a favour by specifying what is needed.

Obviously, it would’ve been better still if they’d said the type (paracetamol, aspirin, vitamin, whatever)

Either you need to say no, or if you can manage £50 get a Kindle Fire (which is absolutely fine for a 4yo who does not need a tablet).

@Bwix

In this situation I would buy the child an etch-a-sketch.

Genius

Buy a toy tablet for £20.

Why did I think tablet = pills lol

I would just say no we are not going to buy a tablet. We will give you some money toward one but not buy one!

Cos he's the uncle he'll get it.

Why?

The Amazon tablet small ad one goes on sale for £35 usually. Check the Black Friday

For Christmas?

Just say you’re happy to contribute to it and give what you would normally spend on his present.. £30 or whatever.

My nephew has no concept of money and will ask me for crazy expensive things, I would just assume this is the same, I doubt she is saying ask uncle for a tablet. Just calm down! A lot of drama over nothing.

Like others have said, how do you know your SIL put the child up to it? When I was a child I wanted a pony and asked everyone. It was my idea not my mum's. I never got one though even though. Tight bastards, my family.

Just tell your husband not to spend the money if you can. If you can't have that conversation with him that's a problem between you. It's none of your business if your SIL's husband "lets" her spend "his" money.

If your husband says yes, you have a DH problem.

What do you mean she got him to ask for it.

Just ask if there's anything else as you can't afford that.

In this situation I would buy the child an etch-a-sketch.

This ^ wot @Bwix said

The person you need to get on board is your DH. Madness to just do as you are told by a four year old, taking from your own child and wife.

Your husband can't get a tablet for another person's child, that would be a very inappropriate present.

I'm a little slow today. Your husbands 4 year old nephew asked your husband to buy him a tablet?

Box of dc disprol sachets
Tell her they had no tablets...
She is a cf...

Oh God, this reminds me of when I was a child and wanted expensive shoes that other girls at school had and was told absolutely not...then my aunt asked for them for my cousin's birthday and they bought them for her!!!

Honestly still annoys me thinking about it.

Just say no, the request is out of your price range.

You're way too annoyed about something a 4yo said.

You just laugh or ask if there's anything else, then choose something appropriate.

If you're saying DH will buy it, that's down to him, not SIL or DN and you have a DH problem