Husbands sisters got her son to ask for a tablet

[faithfulbird20]

Like as though we're made out of money. Cos he's the uncle he'll get it. Our own kids don't have a tablet (no iPad or anything) both kids are aged 4 (her and mine)...I'm just so annoyed like AIBU? We're trying to save money. He works and I'm a stahm (baby is 8 months). I don't buy extravagant things...buy things dead cheap so that we can save for a deposit faster...whereas SIL spends her husbands cash here there and everywhere. Why can't they get their kid a tablet themselves?

What do you mean 'got the 4yo to ask for it'?

Why doesn't your DH just say no, or laugh at his sister, or ignore her? Is that your problem, is your DH a soft touch who does what he's told by his family?

I’d be with longdistance

As in

No - a tablet is a special Santa present.

Or a flat no.

Your husband’s priority is your children. Not her child.

Don't buy it. It is that simple.

What did your DH say in response? If it was me I'd get the one @AlleZusammen linked above from argos.

If your DH can't say a simple 'haha no' to that request, you're in major trouble.

@Tulipomania

People buy tablets for four year olds????

WOW!!!

Exactly!

Why would you even think of doing this?

I would pretend I had misunderstood and get him a BIG bag of tablet, you know the treat made out of essentially sugar, and hand it to the kid so they can started eating it straight away. Let her deal with the havoc created by a child that eats a lot of it. She won't ask again for anything.

Ridiculous to even give this anything other than a laugh.

CF territory and not to be entertained.

That is a Santa present.

Why have you decided that your 'husband's sister' (not SIL then) put him up to it?

Maybe he asked her and she said no, so he thought he'd try his luck with you...?

Large Tablet of Galaxy chocolate.
Excellent suggestion @FreedomFaith

Do you not consider him your nephew? You call him husbands sister son.

@Bwix

In this situation I would buy the child an etch-a-sketch.

😂😂 can you imagine a kid wanting/expecting a tablet and they're presented with an etch a sketch😂 kids these days wouldn't even know what to do with one!

How do you know your SIL got her son to ask for it? Is she usually as cheeky as this? Is your DH usually as soft as this? Why don’t you get your son to ask her for something expensive? Why am I asking so many questions?

Yanbu, Your husband just has to say No.

However @Tulipomania , I remember buying a tablet when my child was 4 and she was doing mathletics in school. It was the Amazon tablet and it was £25 in the Black Friday sale then so they don’t have to be expensive and it was useful

Say no or warn your SIL that they take going to be what you can get second hand for £20 or whatever your budget is

Your attitude towards her is pretty disgusting. You're a "stay at home mum", yet she's 'spending her husband's cash'?

Just say no. My nice asked me to buy her an occulus quest last year. I actually laughed to her face. I don't even have an occulus quest. Told her she'd be lucky to get £10 and then gave her slightly more than that so hopefully exceeded her expectations in the end!

Yeah I wouldn’t let on that I realised that the parents had asked for this present and would just say to the child ‘oh dear that’s an expensive present, I don’t think we can afford that - can you think of something else that you’d like?’ I’ll bet he comes up with loads of things that he’d really like. I doubt at his age he’s even that interested in a tablet.

In what context did he ask your DH?

Your DH needs to grow a pair and employ some sense and logic and say, ‘ha, no I don’t think so!’

You can buy a tablet for 20 quid out of cex kids cover for less than a tenner on Amazon. It doesn’t need to cost £££s

I don’t know what sort of tablet you are meaning but you can get an Amazon fire tablet for £30 in the Black Friday deals, maybe that’s what they mean rather than a £320 iPad?

I suppose it depends how much you usually spend!

Your nephew asked his uncle for a tablet. His uncle can either get him one or say no. Don't see what the big issue is? Who are you annoyed with?

If you are trying to save money and your dh spends family money on an expensive present then be annoyed with your dh. If he has played Disney uncle in the past it is responsibility to lower expectations.

If your dh says no there is no problem.

If any of my nieces or nephews asked for a tablet at that age they would have been told that is a big present and one to ask their mum/dad for, or ask Santa (then it is the parents problem to solve) and then I would forget about it. If they were older I would just laugh and say "you wish!" and forget about it. I would never ponder if an adult had "got them" to ask.

Is this one of those threads where you hate SIL and want everyone to agree when they have never met her?

"Like as though we're made out of money. Cos he's the uncle he'll get it

Your husband is the problem then.

How do you know your SIL got her son to ask for it anyway?

What's your normal budget?
To be fair, an Amazon fire kids' tablet can sometimes be had for under £50 (cheaper / smaller version) so if you'd normally spend that, then it's not a super-cheeky ask.
If - on the other hand - they were expecting an iPad (£300+), then that's a bit different.

(FWIW - I wouldn't be buying any 4 year old a tablet).