Husbands sisters got her son to ask for a tablet

[faithfulbird20]

Like as though we're made out of money. Cos he's the uncle he'll get it. Our own kids don't have a tablet (no iPad or anything) both kids are aged 4 (her and mine)...I'm just so annoyed like AIBU? We're trying to save money. He works and I'm a stahm (baby is 8 months). I don't buy extravagant things...buy things dead cheap so that we can save for a deposit faster...whereas SIL spends her husbands cash here there and everywhere. Why can't they get their kid a tablet themselves?

Explain this - a four year old child said to you " Can I have a tablet for my Christmas ?" ....

Are you sure they didn't mean scottish tablet? That's a sugary fudge like sweet. Just get them that instead. The 4 year old will love it.

@ijustwannabepartofyoursymphony

"Cos he's the uncle he'll get it."

Herein is your problem.

I didn't read that as the OP saying her husband would get it, more that she thinks that's what SIL expects to happen.

Get him a pot of vitamins 🤣

Is this even real.

Hiya - I haven't read all of the posts so someone may have said this...you can get drawing tablets for £15 on amazon. They are pretty good, I think you just draw with a stylus and then you can clear it to draw again. Would that work?

I would make it very clear to SIL that this is way above your budget & more than you will be spending on your own child.

Then there will be no awkward moment on Christmas Day when the expected tablet turns out to be a colouring book.....

Just say no. (Thought this thread was going to be about drugs)

It’s unreasonable to give a tablet to a four year old anyway.

Just get an amazon voucher & write a note saying it's towards a new tablet 🤷🏻‍♀️

Or just get something more normal like a onesie and some sweeties?

Also, ‘cool uncle/aunt’ responsibilities end once you have your own children. Now you are just normal uncle/aunt. I have been trying to explain this to DH since we had our baby.

offmyfence

You win! The screech of a note free toot hits spots where drums can’t reach 🤣

Apparently school work is done on a tablet. What a joke. They have a laptop in the house.

I'm annoyed because husband said he'll get one and then discussed it with me. We're saving money and only spend around 200 quid a week on food, gas, electric, snack money and anything else for daughters classes, petrol etc. Sometimes it's not enough.

I'm so glad someone said which 4 year old needs a tablet! What a joke!

@80Dodgeballs

Tell DH you'll sort it and then buy a cheap kiddy one from Poundland or somewhere. One with those annoying American voices.

Or one of those plastic things that come in kids magazines and do nothing.

Or

Get 4 year old a normal present and get SIL a stress toy that looks like an iPad.

I’d be tempted to buy my kids a tablet and gift the box to SIL.

The thing is DH wasn't listening so I mentioned it on the family group chat saying unfortunately we can't and our daughter doesn't have such lavish gifts...we're saving for our house...and maybe her dad should buy it...hubby left the group chat and after that husbands brother 'removed' me from the WhatsApp group....he doesn't like me so gave him an excuse to get one over on me...

I wouldn't buy my kids anything that expensive...my friend also said to me it's ridiculous because she spends under 10 pounds on gifts from home bargains...

@Tilltheend99 does he listen?

Mine was an absolute twat that said it's okay to spend on your family (adults dining out going halves on meals) whereas we can't do spend on mine. His parents get regular allowance throughout the year.

Wtf. I wish God parted the clouds and shat on him.

OP. It isn’t one over on you flower.

It is an escape.

Hopefully that is the end of the matter. I hope your dh backs you.

Still buy the recorder though. 🙂

A 6 year old told me yesterday she wants gin for Christmas. I don’t think she really means it.

Does your partner deal with finances and understand how much you have to live on? Would they reciprocate with a similar expensive gift? It’s far too much for a 4 year old IMO.

My 5 year nephew asked his grandma to get him a motorbike or a monkey for Xmas. She said no, sorry. Everyone moved on.

The thing is DH wasn't listening so I mentioned it on the family group chat saying unfortunately we can't and our daughter doesn't have such lavish gifts...we're saving for our house...and maybe her dad should buy it...hubby left the group chat and after that husbands brother 'removed' me from the WhatsApp group...

They all sound bonkers tbh & they are expecting far too much.

Did they have an expensive wedding & expect everyone to spend a fortune?

Escape from what?

I will buy the recorder. Will probably me more entertaining 😂

You guys thank you. I cried my eyes out all last night thinking I was bad or something. But I'm only looking out for my kids. Last year SIL said her daughter wanted the same kitchen set my daughter has so we sent it. Now they want a tablet. Next they'll want a car. Then money towards his wedding. Demands will get larger. Thank you. Atleast I know I'm sane. My husband made me feel like I was jealous or unkind.

@faithfulbird20

The thing is DH wasn't listening so I mentioned it on the family group chat saying unfortunately we can't and our daughter doesn't have such lavish gifts...we're saving for our house...and maybe her dad should buy it...hubby left the group chat and after that husbands brother 'removed' me from the WhatsApp group....he doesn't like me so gave him an excuse to get one over on me...

You shouldnt have said anything on the WhatsApp. Your discussion and problem is with your dh not his family.

Escape from the nonsense of petty removal from family social media groups for simply stating facts.

I do agree that it really should have come from your husband but it seems that he would not pipe up on behalf of your kids so someone had to.

Take a step back. You are not jealous or unkind.

Just realistic and prioritising your family.